goals

I feel so stuck in these questions from the image --
"Tell me, father,
which to ask forgiveness for:
what I am, or what I'm not?
Tell me, mother,
which should I regret:
what I became or what I didn't?"

I have written on here before about feeling the heavy weight of potential that I haven't lived up to. I feel like I should have been able to overcome the trauma and mental health challenges. I feel ashamed of where I am at in life, so I am deliberately isolating from friends and family so I don't have to answer their questions. My therapist reminds me of all the ways I am succeeding in life, but I just can't accept it.

I feel like I need to ask forgiveness from someone for where my life is at, but there is no one to direct that request to. Sometimes, I feel like I need to stand on top of a mountain with a bullhorn and shout, "I'm sorry! I'm just sorry!" to the world. I have no other words.

#Potential #goals #Forgiveness #Selftalk #Relationships #Faith #MentalHealth #Depression #Anxiety #Trauma #CheckInWithMe

I did it. I went on my trip. It didn't all work out as I had envisioned, but it went quite smoothly and I think it was a good risk. I struggled a lot with the food choices, so mealtimes always brought some anxiety, but it was nice to be in a bubble for a few days, often without phone or internet signals. I was able to have conversations with other travelers, and since they were fairly brief I didn't feel too uncomfortable or pushed to share anything too personal.

This was my first time traveling in 3 years, since I had to leave my masters program in Finland due to rapidly declining mental health. I am definitely in a better place than I was then, and since Covid made everyone's worlds become much smaller I wasn't the only one with little to show for the past few years.

The vacation did bring up a few things:
1) I have to get out of this city/region. Living here just makes my anxiety worse because of fear that I might unexpectedly run into my ex one day.

2) I don't like my job. I haven't let myself even think in such a definitive way about my job before this trip, but now I am sure. I need to find a new job.

3) I have a habit of "mirroring" people. If someone struck up a conversation with me on the trip, I caught myself watching them for cues about what to talk about, what emotions to express, and when to leave the conversation. It was very hard for me to end the conversation on my own, even if I had to go to the bathroom or needed to move on to the next event. I've been talking about boundaries with my therapist lately and I think this is connected.

4) Although this trip was a big change in my routine and represented a big step forward, I am still not ready to fully re-engage in life. I need a safe bubble of people, routines, and work. I'm not sure how to create that with simultaneously needing to move and change my job, but I know I need to.

I got back home yesterday and fell into bed. It's been nearly 24 hours and I have mostly been just lying in bed or sleeping. I have the impulse to do things like deep clean my apartment, but I just keep lying there. I was able to get some long overdue things done before the trip because of the deadline, but now it feels like I am just going to slide back into the muck and mire of life here.

In the end, I'm glad I took the trip and had some time off work. I'm glad it didn't result in any panic attacks. I'm glad I was able to interact with strangers in a way that felt safe. I'm glad that I didn't just stay home in my apartment for a week.

#MentalHealth #Depression #Anxiety #narcissisticabusesurvivor #Winter #Vacation #goals

It’s a new year! What diabetes-related goals you’re planning to work on this year?

Also:

❓What action steps do you plan to take in achieving those goals?

❓How can this community support you with achieving your goals?

Share your goals, action steps and support needs in the comments 👇🏾

#Diabetes #DiabetesType1 #DiabetesType2 #Diabetestype3 #lada #mody #prediabetes #GestationalDiabetes #JuvenileDiabetesType1 #ChronicIllness #AutoimmuneDisease #Lifestyle #Health #goals #Support #SupportGroups #MightyTogether

At this time of year, it’s inevitable to hear, or read, about someone making well intentioned resolutions for the new year. But good intentions are nothing without action, in which case they become regrets enshrined in shame for extra macabre measure.

We all of us, are suckers for punishment to some degree.

Personally, I don’t care for the idea of carrying regrets around with me. I like my baggage light, and if I could—I’d carry none at all. Still working on that last part, but isn’t that part of what it’s about? Though I’ve never been one to make New Year’s resolutions, and I’m not about to break with this nonetradition now. But, apart from my health, there are some things I know I could be doing better in terms of carving out the meaning I want from my life, and I know I’m the only one who can make that happen.

That has been the blessing in this year of worsening health—it has deepened my understanding of how just how little most people care outside of themselves, so no more wasting precious energy on things that do not enrich my life.

As Nina Simone sang: It's a new dawn, It’s a new day, It's a new life for me…
And I'm feeling good.

#MightyMoment #MightyMusic #MyCondition #goals #MightyPets #MyalgicEncephalomyelitis

The image has the following text: "you know what's a good feeling? a real good feeling? when sunbeams do this."
The text is followed by a series of foyr photos taken in a green forest with sunbeams shining through the trees.

Take a moment to breathe.

We can do this 2023 thing, Mighty community.

#DistractMe #MentalHealth #ChronicIllness #NewYear #goals #Nature #Breathe

#Motivation #goals #Success #UpLife