medicalneglect

My younger brother and sister are having a very tough time these days and my parents are not very supportive or encouraging. My parents are very negative and fearful and the pandemic just gives them more fuel to scare and control my siblings.

I would even argue that my parents' behavior towards them is emotionally and physically abusive and medically, emotionally and educationally neglectful. My parents have always been devoid of empathy and abusive to animals and children.

My parents are not doing anything to help my siblings get an education, in fact they're making it harder. They don't help them at all and punish them if they can't do it all on their own.

And my parents refuse to provide my brother and sister medical treatment. I know my siblings suffer from depression, learning disorders and extreme social isolation, so I worry a lot about their health and safety. My sister gets paralyzing body spasms and can't control them and she has never been to a doctor or specialist to figure out anything about them. She's learning to drive now, what if she has one behind the wheel?

She stepped on a needle once and my parents still tell her how expensive that ER trip was (and my parents have money, they were easily able to pay for it ). It was an accident. Needless to say, no one steps on needles for fun.

My brother asked to go to a therapist and my parents took him once and when they got the bill they wouldn't ever shut up about it and told everyone so he quit out of shame and because they held it over his head and made him feel bad for asking to go.

What can I do to help my siblings?

I am worried about their health and safety.

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This is going to seem extremely cold and cruel but after the YEARS of BEGGING for a diagnosis and treatment of the autoimmune and blood disorders that have stolen my life and everything that brought me joy, causing daily grief at the loss of something as simple as a walk - the sight of doctors begging for equipment, resources to save themselves seems very hollow. I can’t count how many times I’ve begged for my life. I can’t count how many times I’ve been accused of faking it (how do you fake bloodwork), being lazy, faking it, drug seeking and fraud.

Now they know what it’s like to beg for their lives. it’s not fun. it’s not fun to have your entire life and future as a question mark. it’s not fun for profitability to be more important than your life.

To give a very short sampling of the “advice“ I have been given by doctors, perhaps they can just “think positive“, “get a hobby“, “find a boyfriend” and told “you don’t look sick”. for lupus and a blood disorder. if I were a man, would they say these things?

I’m probably a terrible person but maybe - just maybe - next time I’m desperately begging because I’ve lost yet another function and am desperately looking for a treatment and answers they will behave differently knowing what desperation feels like. I’m sure it’s no surprise that I’ve cried during appointments and begged for my LIFE. Tbey have made it clear how much my life is worth to them. Nothing. And I believe them. it’s been almost a decade. I’ve lost everything.

I’m not holding my breath. Im starting to believe that i deserve the suffering that has taken everything away from me. after all - doctors are always right. #ChronicIllness #medicalneglect #Abuse #Lupus