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How to Cope When Mother's Day is Difficult

Mother's Day is right around the corner. The ads have already started and the stores are already full of gifts.

Mother's Day is a holiday meant to celebrate all your mother has done for you and how she is your number one support but what happens when that is not the case?

Mother's Day can be difficult and triggering for so many children and adult children due to a variety of reasons.

Read my latest blog to learn how you can take care of your emotional well-being during this time.

How to Cope When Mother's Day and Father's Day are Difficult...

#MothersDay #ToxicRelationships #abusivemothers #toxicmothers

How to Cope When Mother's Day and Father's Day are Difficult - AccordingtoDes

Mother’s Day and Father’s Day are a special time meant to celebrate your parents and all they have done for you, the sacrifices they have made, and the unconditional love you have received from them all your life but sadly, this is not the case for many.  Mother’s Day and Father’s Day are difficult holidays […]

Miserable as sin.

There was a saying it’s just a bad day not a bad life. But the thing is it is a bad life. So sad all the time just sitting here vegetating wishing so bad I wasn’t alive but too scared to do anything about it. How do you feel the will do things when others around you don’t care about anything like things from self care to cleaning etc Been like this for a long time. It’s a good day if I get a shower. #Depression #Anxiety #ToxicRelationships #Anxiety #Selfcare #sad

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My best friend recommended this book to me. Her therapist recommended it to her. She insists that it’s an amazing book and also extremely helpful.

This is from the author:

Are you in a relationship with a narcissist?

• Do you feel that when you are talking, your partner is never listening?
• Does your partner make promises, only to betray your trust repeatedly?
• Do you often feel disappointed and doubt yourself constantly?
• Is your partner controlling, manipulative, or just plain mean?
• Have you read every relationship book out there, practiced your communication skills, and still feel unheard or neglected?
• Is your partner pretty on the outside but empty on the inside?

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Whether you’re currently in a relationship with a narcissist or recovering from being in a relationship with a narcissist, this book will lead to understanding, recovery and healing.

#NarcissisticAbuse #ShouldIStayorShouldIGo #FindingRecovery #Healing #ToxicRelationships #Selfhelpbooks #SupportandRecovery #Loveyourselfmore

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I've a complicated life #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder

In this period my life is so complicated. My room mates throw away from home because three weeks ago I relapsed in self-harm and they said I was manipulative. Then my mom was going to die by heart attack (now she's well) and I broke up with my best friend for five years because since February I haven't felt well in the relationship due to her jealousy and possesivity. I'm from Italy and here I've a group of friends, but here in Spain (I lived here since 2017) relationships are hard and I've some friends, but they aren't very stable. I feel alone. When will I be happy? #Selfharm #ToxicRelationships

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I believe that mental health is one of, if not THE, most important things we as humans need to protect and nurture constantly. We talk so much about toxic relationships, but why don’t we talk more about the toxic workplace? If we’re spending 40+ hours a week in an environment that makes us feel less than, angry, anxious, depressed or hopeless, why do we continue? For the paycheck that is almost always less than we thought it would be? I’m in a toxic work environment right now and have to decide which I value more: my mental health or the change in my pocket. Have you ever been in a toxic workplace?

#anxious #Toxic #Relationships #ToxicRelationships #Depression #Work #MentalHealth

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Winning in Losing #Loss #winning #ToxicRelationships #Lettinggo

I’ve lost a lot this past year. Abusive marriage, friendships I thought would last, maybe my job, my many things. But I’ve gained a completely new and stronger self. So I’ll take this as a win instead of a loss. And I hope you also can find hope in the messiness of life. 🌻


I don't wanna be a toxic person #ADHD #Anxiety #ToxicRelationships

So I've recently moved out with my boyfriend, and we spend the whole time together. It makes me super happy to have him around, and he makes me feel so relaxed and loved. The thing is, I feel I'm becoming a toxic girl; you see, whenever I see him texting or talking to anyone, I immediately feel the need to tell him to cut it and spend time with me (even though we are together 99% of the time) I fortunately haven't said anything to him, I always find the way to chill and let him do so, but I'm scared I get too demanding, or toxic. I really love him, I don't want him to feel like he's not free to have a life of his own, I just feel really confused. I've never felt nor been this way before 😭


#ToxicRelationships #MentalHealth The past people

People I have met tons of them , internet , real life and passing people I would probably see again . But you meet some poepl and you hang onto them love them and develope memories and heres why I haev to say . I have pictures of you and memories when we laughed , you came to my house and met my family but you didnt care did you ? One slapped me in the face and then denied it and everyone took your side or when I met you I though we were going to be friends forever and I found the one , nope you were busy and rarely had time for me . Or the one time I left a group of friends all becuase of you the rest we kind but you laughed at me , made fun of specail needs people and maniupalted me . I really though we were friends , I had memories with all of you ''friends'' and I regret it . But it has made me stronger and I DO know whos they for me and loyal when things get ugly and sticky.


Can loving parents be emotionally manipulative?

I mainly want to know if this has happened to other people and what you’ve done about it. My mother is a very sweet person and does her best to take care of other people. But she has a lot of insecurity that I usually end up feeling the brunt of. I have multiple illnesses and sometimes I just need to be alone but she takes things like that as a personal offense. She also has asked me to prove to her that I love her (literally last week) even though I do my best to regularly spend time with her and do things for her when I can. I also usually end up having to comfort her even when I’m the one experiencing physical pain and running back and forth to the bathroom. My therapist says I need to move out, and I really want to but I don’t have any money. My OCD gets worse when I’m home because I can feel the stress of living with her. Some of my friends know as well as my boyfriend, and my therapist. But if I try to talk to anyone else about it they just come up with something about how she just loves me a lot, but that gets frustrating after you’ve heard it the first few times. #toxicparent #whatshouldido #toxicrelationship #ToxicRelationships


How can I help my teenage siblings?

My younger brother and sister are having a very tough time these days and my parents are not very supportive or encouraging. My parents are very negative and fearful and the pandemic just gives them more fuel to scare and control my siblings.

I would even argue that my parents' behavior towards them is emotionally and physically abusive and medically, emotionally and educationally neglectful. My parents have always been devoid of empathy and abusive to animals and children.

My parents are not doing anything to help my siblings get an education, in fact they're making it harder. They don't help them at all and punish them if they can't do it all on their own.

And my parents refuse to provide my brother and sister medical treatment. I know my siblings suffer from depression, learning disorders and extreme social isolation, so I worry a lot about their health and safety. My sister gets paralyzing body spasms and can't control them and she has never been to a doctor or specialist to figure out anything about them. She's learning to drive now, what if she has one behind the wheel?

She stepped on a needle once and my parents still tell her how expensive that ER trip was (and my parents have money, they were easily able to pay for it ). It was an accident. Needless to say, no one steps on needles for fun.

My brother asked to go to a therapist and my parents took him once and when they got the bill they wouldn't ever shut up about it and told everyone so he quit out of shame and because they held it over his head and made him feel bad for asking to go.

What can I do to help my siblings?

I am worried about their health and safety.

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