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Son’s Depression is Ruining Me

My son has been battling with depression and he blames us (parents). I’m trying to help, but I also have other children that need me and I’m drowning. I don’t know what to do any more. Things are so complicated and I am at a point that I just want to run away. Some days are good and most are bad. I feel like we are walking on eggshells every day. It’s hard to see my son struggle…but he is blind to how anyone else feels because his emotions and “problems” are so much bigger than anyone else’s.

#Depression #strugglingmom #teendepression

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Mental health in my teen son and myself #Depression #Anxiety #MentalHealth #teendepression

This was my adorable son.

He had a smile that could light up the planet.

He made friends wherever he went. He could go to the playground and have 3 new best friends, easily.

He was the most beautiful magnet.

He had the kindest heart.

He once wanted to give a homeless man his piggy bank money and a Bible.

His first ski race of high school, he got bumped to the back of the racing line because he offered his poles to a teammate of his who didn't have any.

That was just my son.

My adorable little sunshine struggled with depression as a pre-teen. I was blind-sided. My giggly, silly boy went from making everyone laugh with his antics to withdrawing.

He got quieter. More serious.

He started isolating.

His grades slipped.

The child who radiated joy became the young man who over-analyzed everything and smiled a lot more infrequently.

I worried. My stomach housed permanent knots. Just like my son, I had trouble sleeping.

I suffered with severe depression myself as an adolescent. I recognized the signs, though I didn't want to believe it. It was devastating to watch him wrap up into his pain like a worn comforter.

He didn't want to talk about it.

The same way I didn't when I was his age.

I took him to the doctor and he got some help.

I wish my parents would've known when I was a kid. I wish I would've known what was going on inside me. I wish I would've said something to someone.

I wish I had not suffered alone and had gotten help.

I am so thankful my son did.


How do I offer LBGTQIA support when my daughter hasn’t come out to me yet?

My daughter is gay but only out to a few online friends. I know since I review her activity after she has experienced bullying on the Discord that has led to 3 suicide attempts. She knows I am a total 🏳️‍🌈 ally, love is love.

I believe she seeks support in Discord because it is anonymous and still coming to terms with her identity. Being a teen with raging hormones and no outlet has got to be the worst.

She only has 1 IRL friend who I believe she feels safe to be open with.

I want to share LGBTQIA teen resources with her but don’t want to do anything wrong to ruin any trust she has in me.

Her depression is so thick right now. I’m trying to find a new counselor since the one she’s had for 3 years she really hasn’t been honest and open with the last year (I now know). I’m waiting but resources are scarce for adolescents in our area. #teendepression #teensuicide #teenageproblems #LGBTQIA


My Journey to Enlightenment 🧐: 20+ years of confusion Pt.1

I’m 32 years old. I come from a very conservative, Christian family, in which mental illness has run rampant, but untreated and ignored, for generations. My parents generation, however, all wiser up and got help of some sort, as needed. Well, all except my parents, particularly my dad, who, for many years, and possibly even to this day, believed that anything beginning with the word “psycho-“ was just “pseudo-science” and “quackery”. According to him, “mental illness” was all just spiritual. He’s very convincing, too.

My parents are incredible people, the kind who have given several families a place to live, while they’ve gotten back on their feet, and are usually next to broke, from replacing/repairing broken down vehicles of friends/family, who simply don’t have the means to do it themselves, but need a vehicle to continue to make a living. They’ve been there for me my entire life, in every way they knew how, and still are. They are truly wonderful...

...But they were 100% clueless as to what to do with their 14 year old whose grades suddenly dropped from “A” honor roll to struggling to pass multiple classes, or their 15 year old who was harming herself, or the 19 year old who was telling outrageous lies to excuse her failure to attend college classes.

I was placed in a counseling group of students selected by teachers who believed that they were struggling, even though they weren’t acting out, and learned that I had mild to moderate depression. Yeah, they tried to explain that, and I thought I got it, but I had no clue that 20 years later it would be seen as the overarching theme for 2/3rds of my life. I don’t remember if I told my parents, at that point, but I can say with confidence, that if I did I was either brushed off, or told to look for the positive, etc. Good advice for life, but not what I needed.

I was self-harming by pinching with my nails as “punishment” for small mistakes by then, a practice which has evolved into various pain-inducing behaviors over the years. When I was caught, the counselor made me tell my parents, and both the counselor and my aunt suggested they get me into counseling. I only went to 3, before my dad threatened to send me to the local mental hospital, if I didn’t stop the self harm, and I became scared that the therapist would find out and have me “locked up”, away from my family. I was terrified, but just learned how to hide my behaviors.

All the whole, my parents struggled to understand what I was going through. What they couldn’t possibly comprehend was that I was at least as lost as they were about it!

I remember them asking “What’s so wrong with your life that you want to hurt yourself?”

I replied, “That’s the point! If my life was rough, this would more or less make sense, but I have a wonderful, loving family, food, clothes, everything! It’s not my life that’s broken, it’s *ME*!”



How can I help my teenage siblings?

My younger brother and sister are having a very tough time these days and my parents are not very supportive or encouraging. My parents are very negative and fearful and the pandemic just gives them more fuel to scare and control my siblings.

I would even argue that my parents' behavior towards them is emotionally and physically abusive and medically, emotionally and educationally neglectful. My parents have always been devoid of empathy and abusive to animals and children.

My parents are not doing anything to help my siblings get an education, in fact they're making it harder. They don't help them at all and punish them if they can't do it all on their own.

And my parents refuse to provide my brother and sister medical treatment. I know my siblings suffer from depression, learning disorders and extreme social isolation, so I worry a lot about their health and safety. My sister gets paralyzing body spasms and can't control them and she has never been to a doctor or specialist to figure out anything about them. She's learning to drive now, what if she has one behind the wheel?

She stepped on a needle once and my parents still tell her how expensive that ER trip was (and my parents have money, they were easily able to pay for it ). It was an accident. Needless to say, no one steps on needles for fun.

My brother asked to go to a therapist and my parents took him once and when they got the bill they wouldn't ever shut up about it and told everyone so he quit out of shame and because they held it over his head and made him feel bad for asking to go.

What can I do to help my siblings?

I am worried about their health and safety.

#Abuse #DomesticViolence #FamilyCounseling #HomeSchooling #Depression #teendepression #SocialDistancing #Anxiety #ChildAbuse #EmotionalNeglect #educationalneglect #medicalneglect #Therapy #Shame #Stigma #kidsgetdepressiontoo #Selfharm #Trauma #HomeSchooling #Parenting #narcissistabuse #Isolation #pandemic #LearningDisorder #ADHD #spasms #toxicparents #Shame #childneglect #EatingDisorders #ToxicRelationships #toxicreligion #religious Trauma #religiousabuse #NarcissisticPersonalityDisorder #narcissiticmother #narcissistparent #animalabuse


My 15 year old son has been having a very difficult time with us being self quarantined.

My immune system is compromised so we’ve been very cautious. Today makes our 50th day at home. In all 15 years of his life I’ve never seen him like this. He is defiant, he has lied about school work. For the 1st 3 weeks in April he didn’t do any school work but he was sitting at our dining room table with his laptop open from 9-1 everyday. I started receiving phone calls last week from teachers & administrators asking if there was a problem. This week I’ve been checking in with him about catching up on his work and not forgetting to do newly assigned work. Tonight he snapped and started punching his face in hopes to knock himself out. He scared his 10 year old brother into tears. He then told me that, he wishes he wasn’t here and he also hates the way he looks. He thinks he is fat. That part was almost laughable because the boy looks like he is a model. He’s definitely not over weight. As a matter of fact at his recent 15 year old annual doctors visit the doctor noticed he lost 9 pounds and questioned him because he’s not at all overweight. He’s a tall 5,10 inch young man who’s runs track when high school was open. He also said he thought about running away. I asked him where he would go because everything everywhere is closed & if he decided to visit a friend those parents would contact me because they know we are really careful about this pandemic. My son is a very personable outgoing fun, funny, caring boy. I’m literally scared to sleep for the fear of him doing something harmful. What should I do ?#teendepression #bodydismorphia #Selfharm

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I’m learning how to love myself first. It’s hard but who said life is going to be easy. ☺️ #teendepression

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#Depression #Anxiety #NegativeThoughts

Negative thoughts all in my head , what are normal thoughts ? What do people without any mental illness think about. What are normal thoughts ? What is happiness ?#lost #confused #teendepression


What could I do instead of turning my feelings off in situations that make me feel useless or unloved, #Depression #MentalHealthAwareness #Anxiety #teendepression

Any subtle inconvenience or confrontation really sets me off. I’ll be talking to a “friend” that I know only tolerates me, or someone will make a comment and it’s all I’ll think about for the next week. If someone even shows the smallest bit of annoyance with me, I assume that they hate me and they pity me. I have a therapist and we’re working things out, but I just need another opinion. I’m 15 and female, I have diagnosed anxiety, depression, and social phobia. I’m on Zoloft currently if that helps anything.

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