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Calling all parents of kids with special needs and disabilities!

Hi there, I've just created a group for parents of children with special needs and disabilities.

I'd love you to join!


I have two adopted children, one of whom has special needs. We're in the process of an autism assessment at the moment.

I'd love to connect with other parents and caregivers with similar and different experiences. I've made it a closed group because I think it's important that we can share and encourage each other in privacy.

#SpecialNeedsParenting #SpecialNeeds #Autism #Parenting #SpecialNeedsParent #specialneedsmom #autismparent #disabledchild #raisingadisabledchild #Children #Child #autisticchild #Carer #ADHD #childmentalhealth #anxiousparent #parentanxiety

Please join... I would love to meet you and hear your story :)

Parents of children with special needs and disabilities | An Online Health Community

This group is a safe place for parents and caregivers of disabled children and children with other special needs to come together, encourage each other, and share insights, wisdom, thoughts and questions.
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What do you do when you’re anxious about your children?

My eight year old boy who is probably on the spectrum (we’re in the middle of an autism assessment at the moment) came home from school today in anguish that no one wants to play with him. The older he gets, the more apparent the differences between him & other children his age become.

So my question is this: Does anyone else out there have children they worry about? And how do you manage this anxiety?

Thank you so much for your wisdom! #anxious #MentalHealth #Parenting #SpecialNeedsParenting #childmentalhealth #Anxiety #Autism


I can't connect with my children unless I'm connected to myself

I've just joined The Mighty community and was thrilled to find this group! I love all the real and honest reflections.

I'm mum to two beautiful, adopted children who are both exquisitely sensitive and struggle to regulate their intense emotions. The greatest gift they have given me is bringing me to the end of myself to a place where I've had to search deep within to be able to meet them with the genuineness and authenticity that they so badly need.

I've realized in such a profound way that we need to love and embrace our own inner child if we are ever going to be able to connect with the children in our care. #authentic #Parenting #SpecialNeeds #SpecialNeedsParenting #MentalHealth #connecting #Children #Grace #genuine #innerchild

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A parent's prospective -Being a disability advocate

There are many things that you can do to help and support the disabled community and promote inclusivity. As a SEN parent, here's a few of my favourites:

1. Ask questions, never assume
If you don't know if my son can join in with that game of football, or access that building or find that situation too overwhelming....then ask.
Just ask and we'll find the best approach together. Assuming he can't is ableist and prevents all of us from getting into the habit of making adaptions to include everyone.

2. Remember YOUR discomfort is momentary
If you find my son's behaviour, noises and physical movements difficult/frustrating/annoying, then remind yourself that that feeling is temporary. You are able to regulate your situation and emotions far more easily than my son. So remove yourself, have a word with yourself and remind yourself that those feelings were temporary. My son lives with that level of discomfort and difficulty all the time.

3. Practise empathy
Every time you navigate yourself with ease from A to B, or approach a new situation/place/ person without any prior planning or anxiety, enjoy the feeling, appreciate your able body and mind and then take a moment for all of those that can't.

4. Change your perspective
Comfort and ease comes before image. This could mean the clothing he wears, how he moves, his stimming or other self-regulating behaviour. I don't care if my son is in a bedtime onesie laying on the tarmac to keep himself calm and if I don't care, then neither should you.

5. Speak up
Change only happens if people want it to. If you see things that aren't inclusive, whether that be a lack of ramps or accessible toilets or an environment that doesn't cater for all then speak up. Ask questions, write to management, enquire on their accessibility policies. The more we ask the more we draw attention to things that can and should change.

6. Research and open up your world
Open up the echo chamber of your social media and entertainment to include people different from yourselves. Desensitise disability so that you are able to engage with the SEN community without fear or embarrassment. Education leads to awareness and acceptance.

7. And above all else, be kind!
That includes to yourself. If you get it wrong and feel embarrassed, be kind to yourself and then try again.



I'm new here!

Hi, my name is Jillian. I’m new to The Mighty and look forward to sharing about the journey we are on with our two children, both diagnosed with an ultra rare and life limiting genetic disease called ASMD.

#MightyTogether #ASMD #NiemannPickDisease #RareDiseaseParenting #SpecialNeedsParenting #asmdwarrior #rarediseasewarrior

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Am I a terrible divorced parent?

My kid struggles miserably each week with the transition from dad's house to mom's house and back again. Both of us want her in our lives and we go to great lengths to make sure we can all agree to a schedule for her to be in both homes some portion of each week.

But, we have opposite sleep schedules!

He (they - husband/wife/2 kids under 3 years old) start their dinner at 4 pm, start bedtime routines at 6 pm, and are all completely in bed at 7:30.
My husband and I send my daughter to bed around 8:30. She has to brush and change into pjs and be lights out by 9 at the latest. We've recently agreed to make that earlier. Up to bed at 8 pm, lights out at 8:30 at both homes (in theory).

But tonight (her first day back), she called for us nearly constantly until 3 am, at which point, I refused and told her she had to sleep and so do we.

My husband has to work tomorrow. I have a long drive to get us where she and I are headed in the morning (we live in the country). She has school starting in a few weeks! She can't keep sleeping like this.

I have read every pediatrician's, association of sleep medicine's, sleep consultant's, and divorce/separation's website that I can find. We are trying to do what is suggested there, but it's getting worse not better.

She takes melatonin nearly every night. She gets exercise and a mostly reasonable diet. What am I supposed to do? How do I help her sleep???

It isn't her fault that her parents are opposites. What do I do? She can't keep waking up or being unable to fall asleep every night until 3 am...or not at all!

What do I do?!

#Depression #Parenting #SpecialNeedsParenting #Anxiety #GeneralParenting

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Work life balance, when your work is your life.

It’s 6. I responded to 50+ alarms last night. I was teetering on the edge of the bed I share with my child- trying to sleep between blaring lights and loud beeps. A normal night before a normal day. A friend recently complained about “work life balance.” Annoyed with being called at night occasionally-with how disruptive that was, how little praise was given. In my sleep-deprived state, I googled to see what the fuss was about. Forbes had some tips and I read them as a person whose “work” is indistinguishable from their “life.” “Let go of perfectionism.” No one is perfect, but some of us don’t have the option of lowering our standards. There’s never been a day when I thought I did enough- so I guess I’m doing this backwards. As a mom, I try everyday to be better. “Unplug.” Enjoying the moment is something everyone should do, especially parents who understand the fleeting nature of time. But, we track meds, and symptoms around the clock. “Exercise and Meditate.” Does crying in the shower count? (With the door open of course, because you are *still* “oncall.”) Workouts come in the form of running late to an appointment and getting to do all the loading and unloading at warp speed. “Limit time wasting activities and people.” When you’re a caregiver, often your priorities ARE someone else’s. That’s kind of the point. “Change the structure of your life.” This tip revolved around getting out of a rut, and focusing on the tasks you value most. Ruts are critical in a lot of households- without them, mayhem can take hold. I focus on what HAS to be done and that leaves dishes and an immaculate house sitting on the back burner. Delegating was mentioned, and I nailed this one. I got a roomba on sale. And now I delegate sweeping. “Start small. Build from there.” This is the only tip on the list that really resonated with me. The ONLY way that I can imagine having changes occur, is slowly and in bits and pieces. In some of the groups we celebrate inchstones, instead of milestones. Small, maybe, but mighty progress.
So how DO you find balance when your work and your life are one in the same? I still don’t know. I love my job, as a mother. I love my job as a caregiver, although I would give anything to go back in time and take at least some of the struggle from my child. Not because I want to “work” less, but because I want him to suffer less. While the husbands and friends out there are complaining about THEIR work life balance, I do wish some would look around and see the moms (all the moms, but especially those with medically complex kids, kids with disabilities, neurodivergent kids, etc.) that are not only oncall 24/7 usually in unpaid positions (hey! Check out the waivers in your state for paid parent caregiver options), but also don’t have the option of meditating in the park. For me, I think I’ll throw this imaginary scale out of the window and just keep on keeping on. #SpecialNeedsParenting #MedicallyComplexChild #PeriodicParalysis #SleepApnea #Disability #Rare #Laryngomalacia #Pharyngomalacia #ChronicLungDisease #Dystonia

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When part of a partnership is in pain, the whole hurts.

Some people who love me know some of these, only my husband knows all of them.

I try not to overwhelm everyone about what is an overwhelming part of our lives, but this series on living with hemiplegic migraine is so well crafted and hits so close to our own experience, I thought those who wish to enter into ours at a deeper level may want to read it.

The issue of medication rationing is particularly striking, because no one wants to talk about it, or believe the choices we are forced to make, or that they would make the same should they find themselves in the same situation.

My team, which now includes more than 35 doctors nine years after diagnosis, has agreed to prescribe a 15 count supply of my strongest acute migraine medication. I can take a three count dose every three hours.

It takes a second grade education to realize, I could go through the entire month’s supply during a single attack if I choose to do so.

So, I don’t.

I was also warned not to use the Rx more than two days a week to safeguard against dependence, so I schedule my dosage dates. Each week I decide what days are the most important to live life to the fullest, be they my children’s birthdays, Christmas, or the day my son needs a new AFO. I won’t even discuss the side effects of neurological pharmaceuticals. The roulette played between symptoms or side effects is a dangerous gamble we are as powerless to overcome as gravity.


#Migraine #IntractableMigraine #HemiplegicMigraine #ChronicIllness #ChronicPain #PainMedication #SpecialNeedsMarriages #SpecialNeedsParenting

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New Podcast for Parents of Kids with Chronic Conditions

When raising kids with chronic illnesses/needs parents frequently find themselves in the waiting room - but what happens when their life becomes a waiting room? This is exactly where I found myself not long ago.

“Surviving the Waiting Room” focuses on taking your finger off of the pause button so you can stop waiting for life to give you the space to be you again! Delivered in bite-sized episodes it’s perfect for when you’re actually in a waiting room!

#Podcasts #SpecialNeedsParenting #medicalneedsmom #Parenting #kidswithmedicalconditions #selfcare #Caregiving