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    Reframing: Looking Back on Past Experiences to Change the Future

    I had a therapy session today that went really well. We focused on the topic of reframing and thought challenging. I never really practiced my therapy skills before (I'll admit) but now that I have to face a toxic person I will use all the skills I have. Besides this, I often undermine myself and my past successes. Though I call myself an abuse survivor I don't have the best self esteem.

    Reframing has taught me that situations depend on how you look at them. Yes I take reality into account and recognize that the toxic person will be there and that may lead to a PTSD response. Though this is true, my therapist also said that anxiety is there to tell us something but we can acknowledge it is there but also acknowledge that there are other goals. Like mine is to speak my truth.

    Shortly after the abuse came to light I was abandoned at a motel for a week. I wasn't sure if I could get through it at the time. I was afraid I would be hurt again. By the grace of God I managed to survive. I got through it even when I thought I couldn't. I survived the abuse in general and that's something. Yet I have to reframe my anxious thoughts because for me, that leads to spiraling.

    I can look back on those past experiences and say to myself I can do hard things. Confronting this particular toxic person will be triggering but it's just another hard thing I have to do. I'm sure there are hard things that you've overcome too.

    Never degrade yourself, be proud of your accomplishments. Reframe if you must. As always stay safe. What are you proud of? There's always something to celebrate. It doesn't have to be anything huge, whatever you accomplished is good enough. I believe in all of you. Thanks for believing in me. I appreciate it.

    #SexualAbuse #EmotionalAbuse #PTSD #Perspective #Therapy #wisdom #BipolarDisorder #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #Hope #celebrate #Life #abusesurvivor #MightyTogether

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    Grace & Grit -The Spoonie Way

    Make sure you give yourself grace
    & sacred healing space
    in this human experience!

    PS: remind your ego-It’s a journey, not a race!

    From my experience, it is very well-known, that this of us living with chronic illness, are some of THE strongest, open hearted-generous human beings.

    But it’s also from my experience,
    that we forget to give ourselves, said GRACE along the way.
    Survival has been fueled only by our grit and determination, to not be overcome by the waves of a chronic illness transformation,

    Let the white swan encourage you today .. to be grace to self and let that be the ripple that is a tiny tsunami of possibilities clearing the path to days of ease, peace and happiness.

    White swan~spiritual wisdom:
    Purity•dignity •wealth •happiness •confidence •loyalty •peace •innocence •empathy •love •elegance •soft/feminine

    •Give yourself grace along your journey.
    •As a child of the divine, you must remember as you navigate your human journey, the perfect soul inside, that is pure, innocent, and peaceful as the embodiment of love.
    •Be loyal and eloquently flowing with grace and empathy as you confidently explore your truth.

    #grace #grit #surrender #resetyourgroove #blissedlife #spoonie #transcender #transformationjourney #whiteswan #Spiritual #wisdom

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    I try very hard not to be negative, not to judge myself only by my struggles and failures, not be my own worst critic and not to beat myself up.

    It’s a daily, even hourly battle sometimes! My pattern of self judgement, having a negative perspective of myself and having a powerful self critic has won battles (mostly in my head) for decades. But “listening” to all those comments and owning all the things they have kept me from doing has given me the opportunity to observe and acknowledge those thought patterns and start to replace my judgemental brain’s processes with positive thoughts…like at the end of the day instead of saying “I’m overwhelmed” say “It was a long day but I accomplished some goals and learned a lot about myself…and I’m going to rest now so I can start again tomorrow”. Those specific words don’t always fit, but the perspective and positivity has changed things for me…even if it’s been a busy draining day, I can say things like “I survived another busy day filled with challenges and I look forward to start with them again tomorrow…now I’m going to have some pizza and binge watch some TV” 😉

    Just flipped the script, paid attention to how I said things and how they made me feel, and not defeat myself and allow myself to feel overwhelmed. I worked on this for weeks with a life coach to define them and now my main homework from her is simply practice Awareness…paying attention! I even named that inner critic and wrote out lists of what it has said and what it’s kept me from doing…like living in the moment and seeing myself in a positive way. “Grant me the serenity”… it’s that simple (but can be so hard to do!) But I learned a long time ago that some of the most difficult challenges can be the most rewarding …and leave me feeling really good about myself! “…and the wisdom to know that I’m a good person with a kind heart”…yessss

    #MentalHealth #Depression #Anxiety #PTSD #BipolarDisorder #BipolarDepression #ChronicIllness #ChronicPain #Disability #Addiction #AddictionRecovery #twelvesteps #12steps #Serenity #wisdom #courage #BackPain #Pain #HIVAIDS #Sobriety #COVID19 #Migraine #RareDisease #MightyMinute #TheMighty #MightyTogether #MentalHealthHero

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    The Wisdom to Know the Difference

    "God, grant me the Serenity

    To accept the things I cannot change...

    Courage to change the things I can,

    And Wisdom to know the difference.

    Living one day at a time,

    Enjoying one moment at a time,

    Accepting hardship as the pathway to peace.

    Taking, as He did, this sinful world as it is,

    Not as I would have it.

    Trusting that He will make all things right

    if I surrender to His will.

    That I may be reasonably happy in this life,

    And supremely happy with Him forever in the next.

    Amen." - The Serenity Prayer

    Lately I've fallen into the hole of fixating on the things I cannot change. There is more pain in that hole than I know how to feel at once.

    To climb out of the hole, I've begun identifying and giving names to the things I can change. One of which is my choice of words. My words impact every area of my brain and life AND health. Putting in the effort to shape and select my words carefully has helped return some peace and personal power to my journey. As well as move through the next steps I have to take on behalf of my body's wellbeing.

    ✅ One way I cultivate this area of my life is the free Mind Model coaching class I attend via Zoom. Every Tuesday at 9pm EST. DM me for details if you wish to listen in.

    Your real health navigator,



    #wordsmatter #theserenityprayer #wisdom #wisdomtochoose #wellness

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    Being Human

    These truths have helped me tremendously. What truths have helped you? #BipolarDisorder #Insight #wisdom #Therapy #Depression