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What is the most helpful thing anyone has said to you?

Sometimes it takes the right person at the right time saying something to you in just the right way for it to become an "AHA" moment. Having been on my healing journey from CPTSD for 7 years now, I've heard a lot of "advice." Much of it hasn't been helpful and some of it has been downright hurtful.

But...I have an amazing therapist now, who has really encouraged me to grow into the person I have always wanted to be and to let go of all of the unrealistic expectations that I have of myself. I'm a recovering perfectionist and people pleaser with co-dependent tendencies thanks to an overly enmeshed/parentified relationship with my mother growing up. My comfort zone lies somewhere between stressed and burnout, which isn't a healthy place to be all of the time. That kind of hyper vigilance will eventually destroy you physically and mentally.

When my therapist and I were talking a few months ago, she casually said "I did that at a B+ and I'm ok with that," my brain about exploded. The idea that being ok with just good enough was possible was just the freedom I needed to stop self flagellating anytime I perceived myself failing in any capacity. It's still a work in progress, but I think of this almost every day.

What has someone told you that has been a real game changer on your own healing journey? Share below. It may help all of us!

#Trauma #PTSD #CPTSD #wordsofwisdom #Therapy

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Where I am right now #CheckInWithMe

I had a lumbar puncture Friday, and while it was a temporary bandaid, my headaches are getting worse again. My blurring vision has started up again, but I have an appointment with my neuro-ophthalmologist tomorrow, so hopefully that goes well. I also don’t want to jinx it, but I’ve finally got a neurologist appointment next Tuesday with a doctor who treats IIH. We’ve been waiting since March, and I’m very grateful it’s happening.

I think I just feel so lost, and like my treatment plan is so up in the air and wishy-washy that I’m just existing. Everything just takes time, and I hate waiting. I think I could use some words of encouragement, if anyone’s got some to spare.

#CheckInWithMe #wordsofwisdom #encouragement #encouragementiswelcome #IIH #iihwarrior #IH #survivingnotthriving #IdiopathicIntracranialHypertension #IntracranialHypertension #checkin #AdviceWelcome #advicewanted

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Words of wisdom from my preschoolers

Since it's a messy snowy day here where I live in Canada I thought I would share some words of wisdom from my preschool class on how to handle a day like this. They always make me smile, so for anyone who needs it today here is some advice on snow play from a couple of 4 year olds:

Don't eat the pee snow, it has pee on it. And guys that is gross!

#ChronicIllness #snowday #Anxiety #Depression #Fibromyaliga #Neuropathy #thingstomakeyousmile #brightenmyday #wordsofwisdom

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Needing advice/thoughts #wordsofwisdom

I need words of wisdom or advice or whatever you wanna call it. My uncle passed away unexpectedly this morning. He married my aunt about 5 years ago who is only 5 years older than me, she's more like a sister to me. My family is very close and I just don't know how to feel or say. I am very grateful for my family but I still don't know why things like that happen. And my whole life, I don't know how to cope with things like this. I don't want sympathy, just need to know how to get through this. Not only for me, but for my family and most importantly for my aunt. #askingforafriend #Grief #Crying

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Can’t sleep!!

I’m leaving for Virginia this Friday. My cousin is donating her kidney to her father (my uncle). I just lost my Dad in January of this year to kidney failure. While I am overjoyed that she is going to be able to save her Dad, the question I keep having is why couldn’t I save mine. I wanted to!! I called the transplant team and everything to start the process, but my Dad just never did anything about it. I know in my heart (even though we didn’t have testing) that he and I were a perfect match for each other. He was my best friend, my confidant, my everything. I’m having a hard time with this whole thing. Any wonderful words of wisdom?? #Cantsleep #Depression #missingmydad #wordsofwisdom

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What is the kindest thing someone has ever said to you? #CheerYourselfOn #ActsOfKindness #wordsofwisdom #Advice #question #shareyourstory

Hi all! My name is Lindsey, and I’m a fellow video intern here at The Mighty. I’ve been scrolling through your feed and reading your stories, and I have to say I’m truly in awe of your strength and inspired by your desire to share your experiences. I understand the true power of words, especially kind, encouraging ones. That being said, I want to know what was the kindest thing someone has ever said to you!

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Let it go. Not for them, but for you.

"When you are in Chronic Pain, there's a lot of stuff you have to let go, and that is part of pain management."

Oh to live in a world were justice always wins, everyone is given their due good or bad, and what you want is fact not fiction. But that is not the life we were given. We are made so much stronger for all we survive. But to not become bitter we must let those wrongs we are dealt go. No matter if you know you are in the right and were cheated.
Sometimes you just have to let it go.
My most current lesson I am being taught in life. So hard to do when you understand you don't have to be stepped on for others amusement. But that also means that others shouldn't be stepped on for yours.

#wordsofwisdom #motto #LifeLessons #ChronicPain #RareDisease

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I have never heard this thought! #Depression #hardtodo #ItGetsBetter ##noteasytokeepgoing #TBI

Planning a Holiday Party with a missionary, Kate.

To be at the club room of an apartment complex (Kate lives there and plans activities for residents.)
We were ready! A call came,
that the club room was booked .
( Kate reserved it along time back).
Now , we plan ,next Saturday, (even if we use the court yard)!
Kate , wise beyond years , says to me..

“ No”oven leads to a far greater
“YES”.

Applies to so much in daily life.
Never heard it, but looking back it’s occurred often in my years!
#wordsofwisdom greatwordsforlife #encouragement

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Never give up

Each day that passes reminds me to never give up. Each day is new. I try to find the beauty in everything but I won’t lie sometimes you just can’t. Sometimes people don’t allow you to see the beauty they have inside because they project their hurt and that’s all you see. Remember you never know what someone is going through. If someone is cruel try to understand why they may be acting in that manner.

#Hope #Love #NeverGiveUp #wordsofwisdom