I have been unofficially in a no-contact relationship with my parents since last autumn. Due to covid-related travel restrictions, they have not been permitted to travel to my region since then. Well, now they are planning a trip at the end of the month.
I don't want to see them. I don't have anything light to "chat" about, like my mom wants. And they are not emotionally safe people or respectful of my boundaries. If I ask them to keep something private or confidential, they choose to share it with other family members and people I don't even know in their church and excuse it by calling it a "prayer request". I am not willing for my life to be put on display like this.
The thing is, they still have a number of boxes of my belongings stored at their home from when I was living out of the country. I feel like my belongings are being held hostage - accept a visit with them or don't get access to my things.
I haven't been very clear with them about my boundaries because I can't explain it without exposing very personal and private details of my life. I recognize that that has caused a problem now.
Does anyone have any advice for my situation?
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