My husbands learned this morning his auntie just passed away. Her nursing home believed it was pneumonia, (though I bet they didn't even test or prevent against covid-19)
My husband isn't spiritual like me so he isn't able to take comfort in the belief of an afterlife. I don't know what to say to comfort him.
When my aunt passed away from cancer, my mom did nothing, she just acted like it was a normal day. She did the same when she learned from her own parents passing. I don't think my mom's example was correct, but as they say, everyone grieves differently. It just would've been nice if she had taken a moment to cry or hug, or talk about the good times... Or at least act like she cared. I don't know. I'm just a little afraid that by me not saying the right thing to help my husband through his grieving that I may come across as cold and indifferent as my NPD mom. And I just was wondering if any of you could help in this area.
I love my husband, and I loved his auntie. I didn't know her very well, but she was a real sweet person, a kindred spirit. She used to babysit my husband when he was little. And while I believe her spirit has been reunited with her husband and all her loved ones in eternity, my husband can't. My heart aches for him and I don't know what to say that would be of any comfort to him.