Familydrama

Hey, everyone. How was your Christmas? Mine was pretty awful, honestly. I'll try and explain it as best as I can.

Around 4 years ago, my mum was talking to my big sister (her name is Dawn), and she told her about my health conditions/problems. Dawn then proceeded to accuse me of faking my health issues. Despite the many scans and test results clearly showing they are real. And then, shortly afterwards, she said that any gifts or presents I buy for people for birthdays/christmas (and everything else) are worthless because the money comes from a 'government handout' (disability benefits). After learning this, I refused to talk to her unless she apologises. So, we didn't talk for several years.

My little sister (Jess) gave birth to my nephew in 2021, and I love him very much. Since Dawn doesn't live near us, she was only able to visit this passed Christmas, and she stayed at Jess's house for two weeks.

Originally, before Dawn announced she would be coming, the whole family was going to go to Jess's house for Christmas dinner and whatnot... But once she booked her tickets and everything, Jess said that I wasn't allowed to go to the event. I wasn't allowed to spend time with the whole family. Which REALLY upset me. So much so, that I seriously comfort-ate for a couple of weeks. I was binge-eating whatever I could get my hands on. And I spent the entire of Christmas day curled up in bed watching stuff on my laptop. It was my first Christmas alone and I hated it.

Anyway, that leads up to the good news. I was really expecting my diabetes to be so much worse, and I was expecting to have put on a lot of weight. So, I reluctantly went for my weight and diabetes check last week. After they recorded my weight, they told me that since last July, I've lost 20lbs! And my HBA1C blood test came back yesterday - it's not worse! In July it was 63, and as of yesterday, it was 62. Admittedly, it's not much progress, but considering I was expecting it to be a disaster, I feel pretty good.

Anyway - I'm sorry for this rant, I guess. I just needed to get it out. Thank you for getting this far, though. Have a great day!

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° " So I Got A Text From My Older Brother Asking? If I Needed A Ride For Work Tomarrow. But The Text Rubbed Me The Worng Way. The Text Said Don't Call Or Text... Luke Wth. Then Why Ask Me If I Needed A Ride. I Alway's Leave A Text Or One Call To Make Sure. I Still Have A Ride. And That I Hate Being Late For Work. But Now It's Like Well. Fine Then Don't Ask Me If I Need Anything Then. If It's Such A Big Deal... I Have Never Asked For Ride's. In The 1st Place They Offered. Yes It Bugged Me. Because To Me It Was Rude AF... " ° Sincerely, • Skaoi Kvitravn • #Thought 's

Last night we went to my sister in laws and brother in laws for my birthday dinner. My brother in law is dying of cancer. He told my husband last night he wasn't going to be around much longer and my mother in law piped in "I will be right behind you".... Like to me that is insensitive, inconsiderate and flat out rude. She has another son, not just my brother in law. I told my husband how I feel about what she had said and he said "just reminds me of who the favorite child is". I told him I wanted to message her to express how inappropriate that was and to remind her she has another son, but I didn't and he was glad. I am still irritated for him. #Familydrama #cancersucks

So, a couple of weeks ago, I got a phone call at 8pm and it was a social worker from hospice calling to tell me that my mom is on hospice and is terminal due to dementia. Of course, I take it hard. That's my mom after all. The woman who gave me life, who took care of me, who made sure I had what I needed and more. There has been some family drama the past 5+ years.

Here's a little back story:
My mom has diabetes, high blood pressure, and she didn't take care of herself. Because of this, she is also legally blind. August 2016, she loses her right leg above the knee. April 2017, she loses the left knee below the kneee. Then 3 weeks later, they had to go back and go above the knee.

December 2018: My dad and I did the best we could, considering how stubborn and hard-headed she is. She said she wanted to give us a "break" and go stay with her brothers. Dad takes her up there and this is where the drama starts. They told us don't bother coming to see her. Said we neglected her, took her money, and just left her by herself. She ends up in a nursing home and we had to go to court in January 2020. She was deemed an incapacitated person and we had to have a third-party to be the guardian/conservator over mom.

Back to present-day:
I have not seen her in 2 1/2 years. I made the decision to not go and see her. I have all these people telling me that I need to go see her to give myself some peace. I'm fine. I don't want to remember my mom that way. In a fragile state, not looking like herself. There's not any bad blood between me and her. I've went through every scenario I could think of. I feel like I have to do what's best for me at this point. I've even had people say, "Well, what if she come back and haunts you?" Like, really?

Am I wrong for not going to see her? I love my mom but I don't want that to be the last memory I have of her. I want to remember her the way I do now.

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Hello everyone. For those of you who know me know about my dysfunctional family. I'm planning on moving out soon and need some pointers and advice on how to make packing up my stuff and taking it out of the house go smoothly. Im thinking I need law enforcement due to the violence from the past. I honestly want to feel safe while removing my belongings and making sure nothing is broken or taken and that I'm not hurt. Idk how to talk to my family since they just choose to hear but not actually understand me. #Advice #movingout #Familydrama #thinkingofmymentalandphysicalhealth #Anxiety #Stress #SituationalDepression

I love my family they love me too and recently I lost my mother to cancer. I have never hated anyone in my entire life other than my grandmother because of some past histories and now she’s over here at my home manipulating my dad against me and taking over my mother’s place. I know I am capable of taking care of my brother and my dad but when this lady is here, I just turn unproductive and it feels like I’m living in a cage. I don’t know how to handle this, I’d love some suggestions. #Familydrama #fuckedup

I'm staying with my folks right now. Dad was grilling dinner and got annoying by something. At this point what would USUALLY happen is my dad would get angry and put my mom and myself on edge. Mom would try to placate him, and I would try to keep him from lashing out (verbally) at my mother.

HOWEVER, this time I chose to stop what I was doing, take a few deep breaths, remind myself I only have power over myself and my reactions, and I chose to not react to my father's behavior. Somehow it must have rubbed off on my mom who also stayed calm. Soon enough my dad calmed down, and we had a pleasant dinner. :)
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