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I have been having a really hard time and it’s been a reallly long year for my family.
About me I have Fibro, RA, IC/BPS, sciatica AS, DDD, SpinalFusion spinalstenosis etc..

I have my oldest brother who had a stroke this year. We have always spoken and never had and any issues ( unlike my other siblings that’s another post).

When I was younger my brother more than once sexually assaulted me.
I don’t know if it actually considered that
I was sexually assaulted by my father when I was a child and raped at 15 by an older man.

My brother who is 20 years older than me tried to kiss me on more than one occasion this was when I was in elementary school. He I found out a few years ago was also along with my brothers and my sister were sexually assaulted by my father as well.

So the situation is idkw but after he had his stroke I just couldn’t speak to him.
I did only speak to him because of my mother. I did tell my mother when I was younger and I can only say she made excuses for him and begged me not to not talk to him.

I love my mother very much and we have a very good relationship except for this issue. So I haven’t spoken to him since his stroke and I feel extremely guilty for it.
He has been trying to get in contact with me but I have thwarted contact.

My husband knows and of course he says I should not feel guilty and doesn’t understand why I had been talking to him all these years.
I don’t know if I should say something to my mom who is 85. I don’t think it would do anything but upset her or cause and arguement. Or bother saying anything to my brother. Which idkw I feel bad saying anything which doesn’t make sense.
I know I should have gone to therapy years ago but does anyone have any suggestions how I should proceed in the interim ?

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Digestive Distress-Any Tips?

Hey Bendy Bunch,
I have had IBS symptoms IBS-D since last July. initially I agreed with the doctor at the time that it was probably stress induced because we had just gone through some really crazy stuff that summer. however, it has progressed in the last month or two to being completely debilitating where I cannot even leave my house for fear of not being close to a toilet and soiling myself in public.

Please send any tips, tricks, treatments, tests, doctors you know that have treated this well for you or know what to look for because I am at my wits end with these incompetent professionals here, and I have had no luck finding any good guidance online.

They have run blood tests and stool samples many times all have come back negative. mind you they still would not refer me to a gastric specialist until I pressed and required that they do it last week myself .

Instead of checking what happens in EDS and digestion, they just keep looking at me like a normal patient and I’m not getting the care I need.

I have tried the low FOD map diet with zero improvement, and am now at week 5 of this thing. hEDS is already a full-time job to manage and try to live life in an ablest world let alone with these new complications.

Any help PLEASE! I’m so uncomfortable, stressed, miserable, prisoner of my toilet. I have had to cancel many other treatment appointments and work because of the symptoms being so severe.

#EDS #heds #gastric Problems #medicalcaresucks


I can go without drinking but when I start, if I have more than 2 drinks my drink-o-meter doesn’t want to stop. #AlcoholDependence #AlcoholAbuse #Alcohol #gastricbypass #gastric

My dr says I’m an alcohol abuser and on a slippery slope to becoming an alcoholic if not careful. Should I give up drinking all together? That scares me. I had gastric bypass surgery and I hear this is common.


Finally getting my gastric emptying study done. Next week! I've been waiting forever due to my 18th birthday complicating things.
#gastric #test #study