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I have been having a really hard time and it’s been a reallly long year for my family.
About me I have Fibro, RA, IC/BPS, sciatica AS, DDD, SpinalFusion spinalstenosis etc..

I have my oldest brother who had a stroke this year. We have always spoken and never had and any issues ( unlike my other siblings that’s another post).

When I was younger my brother more than once sexually assaulted me.
I don’t know if it actually considered that
I was sexually assaulted by my father when I was a child and raped at 15 by an older man.

My brother who is 20 years older than me tried to kiss me on more than one occasion this was when I was in elementary school. He I found out a few years ago was also along with my brothers and my sister were sexually assaulted by my father as well.

So the situation is idkw but after he had his stroke I just couldn’t speak to him.
I did only speak to him because of my mother. I did tell my mother when I was younger and I can only say she made excuses for him and begged me not to not talk to him.

I love my mother very much and we have a very good relationship except for this issue. So I haven’t spoken to him since his stroke and I feel extremely guilty for it.
He has been trying to get in contact with me but I have thwarted contact.

My husband knows and of course he says I should not feel guilty and doesn’t understand why I had been talking to him all these years.
I don’t know if I should say something to my mom who is 85. I don’t think it would do anything but upset her or cause and arguement. Or bother saying anything to my brother. Which idkw I feel bad saying anything which doesn’t make sense.
I know I should have gone to therapy years ago but does anyone have any suggestions how I should proceed in the interim ?

#SexualAbuseSurvivors #SexualAssault #SexualAbuse #SexualAssaultSurvivors #ChildhoodSexualAbuse #SexualTrauma #SexualAssaultAwarenessMonth #RheumatoidArthritis #Fibromyalgia #Fibro #InterstitialCystitis #sciatica #DDD #AnkylosingSpondylitis #painfulbladdersyndrome #LymeDisease #ChronicIlless #ChronicLymeDisease #LymeWarrior #Spoonie #PituitaryTumors #PituitaryTumor #SpinalFusion #gastric sleeve surgery #Anxiety #CPTSD #PTSD #PTSD

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Advice needed after rheumatology evaluation please

<p>Advice needed after rheumatology evaluation please</p>
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Hello Everryboddy ! ( I'm saying hello in my best Grover voice. ...a blue fur covered muppet from Sesame Street kid's program. )

<p>Hello Everryboddy ! ( I'm saying hello in my best Grover voice. ...a blue fur covered muppet from Sesame Street kid's program. )</p>
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I've been suffering with lower-back issues on and off for 10 years now. Been to physical therapy several times but no relief. The pain usually subsides in a month unless I get steroid shots, which I'm not a fan of. I can't take pain meds because I have low plate count and they cause bleeding.
Today it is back in full flare. Can't sit, stand or lye on any side. I've tried to meditate but the pain just doesn't allow me to focus at all. It cosumes me totally. Naturally, my anxiety and depression accompany the pain.
Any suggestions are welcome!
Thank you and tell your loved ones how much you love and appreciate them every day, not just on Valentine's day. 🤗

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Art Process

<p>Art Process</p>
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Can anyone please help? I can be anxious about my health and I think I am experiencing sciatica but I’m not sure. On Monday I was out for lunch most of the day and I was fine then I got home and out of no where my lower back was in agony and shooting down towards my leg. This lasted all night and was sore in the morning still but more manageable. Then it was getting better so I thought nothing of it but last night it came on again even more intense after I tried to bend down to get something. It feels a lot better this morning but there is still mild pain. I also had a bit of tingling in my leg last night. I’ve been treating it with heat packs but I’m not sure if this is the best thing to do? Does anyone know what causes this? I was Googling but it was making my anxiety rocket. And lastly, should I phone the doctors about this (another thing I am very anxious about)? If anyone could help me I’d really appreciate it! Thanks for reading :)
#sciatica #HealthAnxiety #Advice

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Endless mindless scrolling

I feel like I'm endlessly scrolling the Internet (social media, news, here, etc.) today looking for something to make me feel better. Except I know that's not how it works. It works as a distraction and what I really need to do it figure out what to do.

So my problem today is this frustrating annoying sciatic pain (thanks to axial spondyloarthritis) that isn't responding to anything I've done for it (yet). It's been getting worse for the last 3 days. URGH. Added to that is I feel rather unmotivated with my work right now (a temporary situation thankfully). So mindless scrolling has filled up some of my time today, and all my lunchbreak. I'm also just not hungry. The pain is consuming my mental capacity, and I don't have any of the fun stuff to do at work at the moment so I can't distract myself with that. So mindless scrolling it has been.

It feels like I'm in a bit of a funk today and not sure how to get out. I know I should eat, but nothing sounds good. I know I should do some of the more boring stuff at work, but my concentration is poor. I know I should try other stuff to help the sciatic pain, but I just cba. Not sure what I'm going to do now, but I know I need to put my phone down and do something, anything, else. So here goes. I'll press post and put it down.

#ChronicPain #ChronicIllness #Arthritis #AnkylosingSpondylitis #axialSpondyloarthritis #sciatica #IrritableBowelSyndromeIBS

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