selfloveisnotselfish

They care. They care about you. They understand. They have the right feelings and no this shouldn’t hurt or be difficult.

As someone who still spends 7-8 hours per week in therapy I’ve heard this a lot! I’ve heard it from multiple sources and today I had a break through! All of this is true, maybe not right now, maybe not with the person you’re imaging it but it is.

I am someone how enjoys taking care of others but, also enjoys being taken care of. For years I was telling myself that this was narcissism and it’s not. It’s human everyone likes being taken care of and made feel that it matters and it took me 7 years of intense therapy to accept and realize this, these are two concepts I’ve reacently learned are different. I’ve learned that I (the I in this is both you reading this and myself) deserve someone who’s going to love me, flaws, issues, good and bad things and everything in between.

All I wanted to say is that it might not be the person you’re thinking of, imagining a life with or who you are sharing a life with but that person is out there! Always know you are deserving of everything wonderful and don’t let anyone make you feel like you don’t deserve it, easier said than done I know but do your best to believe it!

#selfloveisnotselfish #Anxiety #Relationships #Survivors #AnorexiaNervosa #Depression

Write positive mantras that speak to you, powerful words if strength.
Stick them Everywhere.
Around the mirror, on the fridge, next to your bed.

Fill your life with Positive Power Statements!! (Enough people have said horrible things to you)
Now Fill Your Environment with Loving Statements to Yourself.

A few good examples "You Are Worthy of Love, just as you are"

"I am whole and complete"

"You got through all that; you will get through this!"

"I have All the strength I need."

"I Forgive Myself, For The Ways I Choose to Survive!"

"Smile Sunshine"

"You Are Loved."

When you write them they may not feel true, most times they are what you Need to hear (not what your inner voice is babbling at the time) but that is the point of them!
They remind you that You Deserve self care!
That you Can do Way More than you believed you could!

The more times you read the positive statement the more it's backed up by your brain and bodies belief in it, the more true it becomes..

Put Self Love on the Agenda Today Mighties

This app is a place where no one knows me. It is helpful because I want to show the world that this is me. My body isn’t a size 2. This is something I need to be okay with because I used to be a size 2. I have suffered #GallbladderDisease and it was a hard time. The only time I enjoyed my body was when I was sick and I was dropping 20 pounds in a week from not eating. Now I am a size 10 I am healthy and my boyfriend absolutely loves my body. I am still unsure and I am afraid of what people think of me. I think I need to be reassured that my body is beautiful and it is a blessing that I am finally healthy. #selfloveisnotselfish #Anxiety #Depression #reachingout

Trying to do more things for myself . I put so much effort in showing love and compassion for others but I can’t seem do the same for myself. My self esteem is pretty low, I feel as if I’m verbally abusive to myself. I’m not even sure that’s possible but I feel like it is...anyway. I want to start reflecting on things that bring me joy. This one is my dog. He’s more than just a family pet. On more days than I can count he’s been there for me when I felt my lowest. I have a huge space in my heart for animals. They always seem to know when something is wrong and all they want is love. He’s not a service dog or a trained emotional support dog.... but he’s the best therapy I’ve ever known. I miss him dearly. I had to move due to work and my apartment dog not allow pets without a HUGE fee that I simply can’t afford. So he’s staying with my parents. I hate that I can’t see him every day. It breaks my heart to know that he doesn’t understand why I’m not around as often. But he very is happy, has a huge field to play in behind my parents house, he’s well taken care of. Spoiled actually lol My mom treats him as if he is her natural born child and I couldn’t be more grateful. I’m counting the days when I can come see you sweet boy ❤️