To whomever needs to hear this
They care. They care about you. They understand. They have the right feelings and no this shouldn’t hurt or be difficult.
As someone who still spends 7-8 hours per week in therapy I’ve heard this a lot! I’ve heard it from multiple sources and today I had a break through! All of this is true, maybe not right now, maybe not with the person you’re imaging it but it is.
I am someone how enjoys taking care of others but, also enjoys being taken care of. For years I was telling myself that this was narcissism and it’s not. It’s human everyone likes being taken care of and made feel that it matters and it took me 7 years of intense therapy to accept and realize this, these are two concepts I’ve reacently learned are different. I’ve learned that I (the I in this is both you reading this and myself) deserve someone who’s going to love me, flaws, issues, good and bad things and everything in between.
All I wanted to say is that it might not be the person you’re thinking of, imagining a life with or who you are sharing a life with but that person is out there! Always know you are deserving of everything wonderful and don’t let anyone make you feel like you don’t deserve it, easier said than done I know but do your best to believe it!