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What I Need When I'm Anxious Isn’t Advice — It’s Someone Willing to Sit With Me in Silence
When anxiety hits, I don’t need someone to fix me.
I don’t need a list of things I “should” do or reasons why I “shouldn’t” feel this way.
I need silence.
But not the lonely kind.
The kind of silence where someone is beside me — not trying to change anything, just being there.
Anxiety is loud.
It screams inside my head with thoughts like:
“You’re not doing enough.”
“You’re a burden.”
“Something bad is going to happen.”
In those moments, advice feels like noise. Even if it’s well-meaning, it often adds another layer of pressure — like I now have to perform calmness to reassure the other person, too.
But when someone just sits with me… without judgment, without rushing me, without needing me to “get better” immediately — something shifts.
Their quiet presence says,
“You’re not broken.”
“I’m not scared of your feelings.”
“You don’t have to go through this alone.”
That kind of support — the still, grounded kind — is more powerful than any solution.
I’m not saying advice is never helpful.
But timing matters. And when I’m drowning, I don’t need a lecture on how to swim — I need someone to hold my hand until the waves calm down.
So if you know someone who struggles with anxiety,
Remember: sometimes, the kindest thing you can do is nothing — except stay.
And if you’re the one in the middle of the storm right now,
Know this:
You don’t need to explain yourself.
You don’t need to “fix” anything today.
You are worthy of love — even in silence.
#Anxiety # ##h #Mindfulness #mental Health #holding space
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