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Doing the "right" thing is always right?

I felt like having a conversation with someone, so I went to a chat site to find people to talk to. I can discuss any topic without feeling judged.

I ended up talking to a guy who started flirting with me. After some investigation, I discovered he has a girlfriend whose Facebook profile I found. Should I inform her about his behavior, especially considering that he portrays himself as single?

While I don't have any expectations from him, I believe that she has the right to know. If I were in her position, I would want to be informed about my partner's online sexual behavior and their deception about their relationship status.

I understand that reaching out to her could be a challenging and emotional situation for both of us. Nevertheless, I think it's essential to demonstrate empathy for women in such situations, and I would hope that someone would do the same for me.

However, I am unsure whether it's worth the potential risk. What would you do in my situation?

#Relationships #onlinechat #OnlineDating #Dating


Moving on from a self sabotaged relationship

Has anyone ever had a great connection with a genuine person but let their own insecurities and trauma get the best of you, and now they’re gone and you can’t reach out? How can you move on?
#checkin #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder
#ComplexPosttraumaticStressDisorder #Depression #SeparationAnxiety #selfsabotage #OnlineDating #Relationships
#tired #CPTSD #self -sabotage #Dating #Love #stuck

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Any suggestions for #OnlineDating \friendship apps/websites to try?

Hi, I am feeling isolated and realizing I never speak to anyone in person anymore (outside of doctors offices). I am looking to make some in person friends and my resolution was to try dating again, does anyone have any websites or apps they would recommend (or recommend staying away from) for #OnlineDating for people with #ChronicIllness and/or #ChildhoodTraumaSurvivors …thanks for your input!


Being left on read #OnlineDating

It feels so personal to me. Especially when I asked an open ended question. Doing this is like, looking at the person that just talked to you, and then ignoring them. Don’t be horrible to each other.


First Pride / Dating Discouragement

I recently came out as bi after only dating men my whole life and all I want is a girlfriend and to celebrate pride which I am trying to do myself. I am on dating apps also but they just make me feel so discouraged and quite literally depressed. I know I don’t need anyone to live a happy life but I want to find my partner. Any suggestions for this baby gay? #LGBTQIA #Depression #OnlineDating #Dating

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What are your health-related dating dealbreakers?

Did you read this story in USA Today about mental health and dating?

The cliff notes version: One dating app (Hinge) found that 88% of singles prefer to date someone who goes to therapy. This got me thinking about what other health-related dealbreakers you have (which may be even more relevant since we’re now entering our third year of the pandemic).

💔 P.S. Your answer may be used in a story on The Mighty.

#DatingWithAChronicIllness #OnlineDating #Relationships #SexAndRelationships #MentalHealth #Anxiety #Depression #Disability #RareDisease #ChronicIllness #CheckInWithMe

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Find someone to date ... #OnlineDating #Dating #alone #Relationships

I am currently on two different dating apps. In the past two years I have been on at least a total of 6. Out of those 6 I have been on one date which was last December which went no where.

Now I am not egotistical and think I am the best looking guy out there with the greatest personality. I am just an average looking guy, pretty good personality and a sarcastic sense of humor, I would think my friends would say I'm easy to get along with.

So, I'm on these dating sites. I have decent, up to date pictures of myself. I'm honest in the summary about myself and don't pretend to be something I'm not. So why am I not getting any women interested in me?

If I come across a profile of a woman I think I would click with I send her a message. I'll talk about something in her profile that we have in common or something nice and not creepy about one of her pictures. Sometimes I just try to send a what I think is a friendly and funny introduction but get no response.

So what am I doing wrong? It's not like I'm messaging super models or women "out of my league." Those have never been the type of women I'm attracted to.

So two years, six dating apps, only one date a year ago it really makes me think there's something wrong with me. Am I just not attractive enough to get a womans attention? Are my "hello" messages just annoying or not outstanding enough?

All I know is getting no response to messages or even having a woman reach first is a bit of an ego buster. Like I said earlier, what am I doing wrong?

I guess I will just go back into my hole and live as a reclusive hermit and yell at the kids to stay off my lawn!

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Human touch

So after 3 on and off years of meeting women through online dating Im experiencing something I never felt before. The thought of someone touching me makes my skin crawl.


LDR with CPTSD and BPD: when symptoms manifest for both of us during our relationship.

My girlfriend has BPD and I have CPTSD, two ends of a spectrum really. We met online and have been in a Long Distance Relationship for half a year now, though it feels like we have known each other forever. We are compatible in every way, impossibly perfectly matched and she is the light of my life as I am hers. Everyday we spend together is beautiful and comfortable, but it can get tiring for both of us when the other is experiencing symptoms of their disorder.

My depression has been bad lately, because all I want to do is hold her but Covid makes that impossible. And with my depression my symptoms and learnt behaviour is worse.

At the same time though, she has been in a state of less affection, no sex drive, no random comments of “you’re beautiful” or “I love you”, just us hanging out like we are just friends again. And I know its not her fault. Just majorly sucks that both of our disorders negative sides happened together.

We’ve been getting into dumb conflicts due to lack of communication (literally all our problems have been caused by either lack of communication or our disorders being extreme). I love her so much, and I am patient and will wait this out while showering her with as much love as I can handle, but its just hard right now.

I shower her with love, she smiles and thats it. Normally she would do the same and it would be that gross cute love bubble. But right now, nothing or rare moments. And I know its not her fault, and she feels guilty for it too (though she shouldn’t) but it does hurt especially when I am at a bad place mentally.

We are doing our best, we are looking after each other the best we can. She is my best friend and the love of my life, and I know we will make it through to when our disorders are being nicer, just the road in between isnt nice.

Any suggestions to make things easier or advice or anything would be appreciated. I love her deeply and just want her safe and happy.

#Dating #datingwithadisorder #CPTSD #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #BPD #OnlineDating #Love #LongDistanceRelationships #LDR


Intelligence, Beauty & Sweetness!

Dating Apps- Ugh!
Are u one of the Gadzillion hopeful Users?

Ima gonna vent- so get yrself set & Buckle Up if yr gonna do a read thru!- Lol

The above- Every Mans check list along with 'Loves Sex & to please her man'.

Snap out of it Dude! (fingers snapping)

The part I find the most offensive? SWEET! If anybody calls me sweet Im gonna slug em...
Cmon- Im 55 yrs old- been thru HellnBack- quite Often becuz of the Harrier Sex- & if u think Im gonna B yr Cook/Maid/Noncomplaing & ultra Compliant Sex Kitten- u need to get yr head outta the porn, nonsense & fantasy channels & wake up!

Are you Sweet? What does that mean?- as it comes up on almost every dudes wish list?

Non complaining, Compliant, Doting, Beautiful & Sexy, no doubt generous & independently wealthy, perfectly fine if you have liasons on the side, give her STD'S, 'Forget her Bday, Xmas or Valentines, Rudely interrupt her without complaint, "talk" while watching TV & mumbling er ya mmm, Scratching yr Balls in Public while expecting her to show up perfectly manicured, full on make-upped, ( but appearing as if no make up & taking 10 seconds to get ready), in perfect shape while eating Jumbo Jacks & Beer with the guys- noncomplaining picking up later, after taking care of you & yr in bed snoring somewhere......

Im a Little Fed Up! Time travel back to 1950 or to the Stepford Wives & leave us normal Women alone.
Relationships dont work well with Dictators & Self Involved Ego Maniacs! # #OnlineDating , #Dating , go #Ego Maniacs, #narcissistic , #1950 's, #Men , #Sweetness , #Fed Up #Fantasy