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    Being left on read #OnlineDating

    It feels so personal to me. Especially when I asked an open ended question. Doing this is like, looking at the person that just talked to you, and then ignoring them. Don’t be horrible to each other.

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    First Pride / Dating Discouragement

    I recently came out as bi after only dating men my whole life and all I want is a girlfriend and to celebrate pride which I am trying to do myself. I am on dating apps also but they just make me feel so discouraged and quite literally depressed. I know I don’t need anyone to live a happy life but I want to find my partner. Any suggestions for this baby gay? #LGBTQIA #Depression #OnlineDating #Dating

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    What are your health-related dating dealbreakers?

    Did you read this story in USA Today about mental health and dating? www.usatoday.com/story/life/health-wellness/2022/01/12/datin...

    The cliff notes version: One dating app (Hinge) found that 88% of singles prefer to date someone who goes to therapy. This got me thinking about what other health-related dealbreakers you have (which may be even more relevant since we’re now entering our third year of the pandemic).

    💔 P.S. Your answer may be used in a story on The Mighty.

    #DatingWithAChronicIllness #OnlineDating #Relationships #SexAndRelationships #MentalHealth #Anxiety #Depression #Disability #RareDisease #ChronicIllness #CheckInWithMe

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    Find someone to date ... #OnlineDating #Dating #alone #Relationships

    I am currently on two different dating apps. In the past two years I have been on at least a total of 6. Out of those 6 I have been on one date which was last December which went no where.

    Now I am not egotistical and think I am the best looking guy out there with the greatest personality. I am just an average looking guy, pretty good personality and a sarcastic sense of humor, I would think my friends would say I'm easy to get along with.

    So, I'm on these dating sites. I have decent, up to date pictures of myself. I'm honest in the summary about myself and don't pretend to be something I'm not. So why am I not getting any women interested in me?

    If I come across a profile of a woman I think I would click with I send her a message. I'll talk about something in her profile that we have in common or something nice and not creepy about one of her pictures. Sometimes I just try to send a what I think is a friendly and funny introduction but get no response.

    So what am I doing wrong? It's not like I'm messaging super models or women "out of my league." Those have never been the type of women I'm attracted to.

    So two years, six dating apps, only one date a year ago it really makes me think there's something wrong with me. Am I just not attractive enough to get a womans attention? Are my "hello" messages just annoying or not outstanding enough?

    All I know is getting no response to messages or even having a woman reach first is a bit of an ego buster. Like I said earlier, what am I doing wrong?

    I guess I will just go back into my hole and live as a reclusive hermit and yell at the kids to stay off my lawn!

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    Human touch

    So after 3 on and off years of meeting women through online dating Im experiencing something I never felt before. The thought of someone touching me makes my skin crawl.
    #OnlineDating

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    LDR with CPTSD and BPD: when symptoms manifest for both of us during our relationship.

    My girlfriend has BPD and I have CPTSD, two ends of a spectrum really. We met online and have been in a Long Distance Relationship for half a year now, though it feels like we have known each other forever. We are compatible in every way, impossibly perfectly matched and she is the light of my life as I am hers. Everyday we spend together is beautiful and comfortable, but it can get tiring for both of us when the other is experiencing symptoms of their disorder.

    My depression has been bad lately, because all I want to do is hold her but Covid makes that impossible. And with my depression my symptoms and learnt behaviour is worse.

    At the same time though, she has been in a state of less affection, no sex drive, no random comments of “you’re beautiful” or “I love you”, just us hanging out like we are just friends again. And I know its not her fault. Just majorly sucks that both of our disorders negative sides happened together.

    We’ve been getting into dumb conflicts due to lack of communication (literally all our problems have been caused by either lack of communication or our disorders being extreme). I love her so much, and I am patient and will wait this out while showering her with as much love as I can handle, but its just hard right now.

    I shower her with love, she smiles and thats it. Normally she would do the same and it would be that gross cute love bubble. But right now, nothing or rare moments. And I know its not her fault, and she feels guilty for it too (though she shouldn’t) but it does hurt especially when I am at a bad place mentally.

    We are doing our best, we are looking after each other the best we can. She is my best friend and the love of my life, and I know we will make it through to when our disorders are being nicer, just the road in between isnt nice.

    Any suggestions to make things easier or advice or anything would be appreciated. I love her deeply and just want her safe and happy.

    #Dating #datingwithadisorder #CPTSD #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #BPD #OnlineDating #Love #LongDistanceRelationships #LDR

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    Intelligence, Beauty & Sweetness!

    Dating Apps- Ugh!
    Are u one of the Gadzillion hopeful Users?

    Ima gonna vent- so get yrself set & Buckle Up if yr gonna do a read thru!- Lol

    The above- Every Mans check list along with 'Loves Sex & to please her man'.

    Snap out of it Dude! (fingers snapping)

    The part I find the most offensive? SWEET! If anybody calls me sweet Im gonna slug em...
    Cmon- Im 55 yrs old- been thru HellnBack- quite Often becuz of the Harrier Sex- & if u think Im gonna B yr Cook/Maid/Noncomplaing & ultra Compliant Sex Kitten- u need to get yr head outta the porn, nonsense & fantasy channels & wake up!

    Are you Sweet? What does that mean?- as it comes up on almost every dudes wish list?

    Non complaining, Compliant, Doting, Beautiful & Sexy, no doubt generous & independently wealthy, perfectly fine if you have liasons on the side, give her STD'S, 'Forget her Bday, Xmas or Valentines, Rudely interrupt her without complaint, "talk" while watching TV & mumbling er ya mmm, Scratching yr Balls in Public while expecting her to show up perfectly manicured, full on make-upped, ( but appearing as if no make up & taking 10 seconds to get ready), in perfect shape while eating Jumbo Jacks & Beer with the guys- noncomplaining picking up later, after taking care of you & yr in bed snoring somewhere......

    Im a Little Fed Up! Time travel back to 1950 or to the Stepford Wives & leave us normal Women alone.
    Relationships dont work well with Dictators & Self Involved Ego Maniacs! # #OnlineDating , #Dating , go #Ego Maniacs, #narcissistic , #1950 's, #Men , #Sweetness , #Fed Up #Fantasy

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    How do you deal with relationships when you have a mental illness?

    I’ve been struggling lately with a new relationship because of my mental illnesses. Anxiety really has a hold on me. “What if he doesn’t really like me?” “What if I say or do something wrong?” “What if my depression scares him away?” How do you deal with these thoughts and keep them from potentially ruining your relationship? #Anxiety #Depression #BipolarDisorder #BipolarDepression #Dating #OnlineDating #Relationships

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    Online dating with BPD

    I've been single for well over 2 years. It has been an excruciating couple few years. Part of me is proud that (as someone with borderline personality disorder) I haven't completely lost it. I had never even been single for more than 6 months since high school.

    I've been on and off of dating apps. I've begun to notice that my attachment is happening quicker than I would prefer.

    I was talking to this woman who would have been perfect for my BPD. But I got all weird and ruined it. She brought attention to the fact that we had been talking everyday for a week. I hadn't noticed. Once she mentioned it, I went down the rabbit hole with it. All of a sudden it was over. I started freaking out about what it meant and what it could mean. Naturally, that meant that my BPD was going to ruin it, or her.

    It was an awkward week after that, but the next week was on point. I asked her about meeting up (that first week we talked about it all the time) but she made a point to reiterate only as friends. I am always offended when I am told multiple times is only as friend. So then I went borderline again. Then she used words that trigger me. And that was it. I blew up her phone, apologizing and ending "it."

    When that happens and I disassociate it is like I have zero control. I know I'm doing it, I don't want to do it, but it is like someone else is driving my body. At times an internal struggle with myself. Sometimes, I can hold off for a bit of time, but it always picks back up.

    This chick could have been rad. As per usual I fucked it up before it started. This is the second time this year. When things like this happen I tend to give up dating for awhile. I'm terrified of hurting anyone the way I had before. I don't want anyone to suffer because of me.

    #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #BPD #OnlineDating #online #Lesbian #Depression #MentalHealth #MentalHealth #Dissassociating #singleforever #single #singleforever