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Dating with BPD 🤷🏻‍♀️

Soooo turns out I may or may not have a date tonight with a guy I know from my childhood. It started with casual texting- so texted him to see how he was doing and all of a sudden he’s convincing me to go get drinks tonight and he’s even picking me up at my place. This is the first “date/not date” since my BPD diagnosis and I’m nervous as heck! Like, should I be like “yeaaaaah, dude, I’ve got BPD, just laying it out there FYI”😳???

Anyway any advice helps!!

#BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #datingwithadisorder #nervous #anxious #help

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Dating and Mental Illness. Does the Stigma have anything to do with it and does it impact on people’s first impressions? #BipolarDisorder

After being single now for just over 8 years, I’ve been pondering the question, “What is the one thing that women want most from a man?”

I’m not a particularly strikingly good looking man. I’m aware that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but I know that I wasn’t behind Brad Pitt in the queue for looks and they’re not my most endearing feature.

It looks even worse than that if I were to hand my CV in to a dating agency! I have bipolar disorder 🧠, I wear an hearing aid 🦻🏻in my left ear and I have a partial denture on my bottom teeth 🦷 , the six pack is long gone too as 40 approaches the middle age spread is on the horizon. They don’t put bay windows in slums though as the saying goes.

However, this is what makes me who I am. I have no control over these things. The things I can control however are my manners, integrity, honesty and decorum.

I see mates in the pub having a pint and when their partner calls to see when they are home to make tea, they say 20mins and they have no intentions of going home. I just wouldn’t do that. Surely it is easier to say that the lads are all here, don’t think that I’ll make it back for tea. It seems that it could be a late one. I’ve got my keys so don’t worry. Surely it is a better idea to just say that? The partner isn’t stupid enough to not expect you to be having a few pints with your friends sometimes but it’s when you lie to them and they have gone to the efforts of making your tea. Thoughts? 💭

I’m over the 3-day benders nowadays. I’m not going to lie, I go to the pub but only when it’s quiet and I know my limitations with alcohol and my medication. I enjoy colouring, reading my books, music and playing guitar. I’m just resurrecting my golfing career after a 12 year hiatus. I’m learning Spanish and improving my Portuguese at the same time.

I’m domesticated too. A solid 8/10 at ironing. Struggle a little with shirts. Can’t say that I’m a great cook as I don’t really get to do anything for anyone else. I’m a master of the Old El Paso Mexican 🇲🇽 kits though. Fajitas, Enchiladas, Burritos 🌯 , Tacos 🌮 etc have been greatly enjoyed by the few people I have done them for. One of my friends is from Venezuela 🇻🇪 and she loved it. Now I know that it’s not Mexico but it’s close enough for me to be happy 😊

The only thing I can say is that you have to treat people as you would like to be treated as there is so much more you can achieve through honesty. Positivity breeds serenity remember 👌💙

I have to admit that I have been on Tinder. The whole internet dating thing is a little too much for me to get my head round. The birth of the Catfish generation and a filter for just about everything and anything, means you don’t know what’s true or not.

Is there any hope yet for me? Do you think that I’m resided to be living the Cliff Richard life of the Batchelor Boy? #datingwithadisorder


LDR with CPTSD and BPD: when symptoms manifest for both of us during our relationship.

My girlfriend has BPD and I have CPTSD, two ends of a spectrum really. We met online and have been in a Long Distance Relationship for half a year now, though it feels like we have known each other forever. We are compatible in every way, impossibly perfectly matched and she is the light of my life as I am hers. Everyday we spend together is beautiful and comfortable, but it can get tiring for both of us when the other is experiencing symptoms of their disorder.

My depression has been bad lately, because all I want to do is hold her but Covid makes that impossible. And with my depression my symptoms and learnt behaviour is worse.

At the same time though, she has been in a state of less affection, no sex drive, no random comments of “you’re beautiful” or “I love you”, just us hanging out like we are just friends again. And I know its not her fault. Just majorly sucks that both of our disorders negative sides happened together.

We’ve been getting into dumb conflicts due to lack of communication (literally all our problems have been caused by either lack of communication or our disorders being extreme). I love her so much, and I am patient and will wait this out while showering her with as much love as I can handle, but its just hard right now.

I shower her with love, she smiles and thats it. Normally she would do the same and it would be that gross cute love bubble. But right now, nothing or rare moments. And I know its not her fault, and she feels guilty for it too (though she shouldn’t) but it does hurt especially when I am at a bad place mentally.

We are doing our best, we are looking after each other the best we can. She is my best friend and the love of my life, and I know we will make it through to when our disorders are being nicer, just the road in between isnt nice.

Any suggestions to make things easier or advice or anything would be appreciated. I love her deeply and just want her safe and happy.

#Dating #datingwithadisorder #CPTSD #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #BPD #OnlineDating #Love #LongDistanceRelationships #LDR


When to tell someone you’re dating about your BPD?

Hope you‘ll having a positive Sunday! I‘ve been resting after an intense and triggering psych evaluation yesterday for our invalid insurance. Am glad it‘s over but my thoughts are spinning and I‘m having a difficult day. But I know tomorrow will be better.

So, two weeks ago I met a guy I‘d like to get to know better and he‘s also pretty interested. We‘ve only had a date, but we have been chatting loads, and I know that it‘s no where near time to tell him. But that arose the question of when??

Until now i have only dated people who have known about my mental health so I have no experience. I also just feel so many topics are also linked with my health such as being off work, family ties, needing a lot of rest, my many appointments during the week and I just hate to keep having to think of omitting answers so that I don‘t start dating on lies. Also today was so tough and I would have liked to be honest about my day rather than staying superficial, which just isn‘t me.

What are your experiences and do you have any advice?

#BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #datingwithadisorder #datingwithbpd #BPDStigma


Accidentally kicked a snake out walking a few days ago he flew into grass I had a freak out #PTSD #Anxiety #BipolarDisorder #BipolarDepression ?

I accidentally kicked a snake out walking the other day he flew into grass I had a huge panic attack shaking fearful screamed and ran into my house shaking. Who understands my fear and who has suggestions so I don’t isolate inside fearful of another snake when I go walk?? #Anxiety #PTSD #BipolarDepression #BipolarDisorder #Fibromyalgia #ADHD #HashimotosThyroiditis #DatingWithAChronicIllness #datingwithadisorder #Dating #Bipolar2Disorder


Can bpd ppl date people with kids?

I have been dating this guy who is separated and will be getting a divorce. He says he will only spend spare time for me after he meets his daughter. He says I am his 2nd priority. Do you think it will be good for me considering how much assurance people like me need?

#BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #Bpdrelationships #datingwithadisorder


Looking for volunteers to write an article about their condition/illness/disability #Dating #Love #Relationships #Volunteer #writer #Content #News

ideally you shortly describe your condition by adding pros and cons of dating you - what would you like your partner to know about your condition #DatingWithAChronicIllness #datingwithadisorder #SocialWorkers