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Living with Addiction and Mental Health Challenges Virtual Support Group! 2nd Tuesdays, 2:30-4 PM ET & 4th Tuesdays, 5:30-7 PM

Living with Addiction and Mental Health Challenges is a virtual peer support group for any adult living with addiction and mental health challenges.

💻 If you'd like more information or would like to join, you can find the link here. Virtual groups are every 2nd Tuesdays, 2:30-4 PM & 4th Tuesdays, 5:30-7PM Eastern Standard Time. Closed captioning is available: naminycmetro.org/programs/living-with-addiction-and-mental-h...

If you have any questions, feel free to comment below!

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Addiction and Mental Health: When the System Fails the People It Was Meant to Protect By BigmommaJ

We talk a lot about personal responsibility when it comes to addiction and mental health.
We talk far less about system responsibility.

That silence matters—because for many people, addiction is not a failure of willpower. It is the predictable outcome of fragmented systems, delayed intervention, and policies that respond to crisis instead of prevention.

In Canada, substance use and mental health challenges continue to rise, particularly among individuals with histories of trauma, poverty, child welfare involvement, and untreated mental illness (Canadian Centre on Substance Use and Addiction [CCSA], 2023).

Yet our systems remain largely disconnected, reactive, and risk-driven.

Addiction Is Not the Root Problem

Addiction is a symptom, not the disease.

Research consistently shows strong links between substance use, trauma exposure, adverse childhood experiences, and mental illness (Public Health Agency of Canada [PHAC], 2023).

When addiction is treated in isolation—without addressing trauma, attachment, housing instability, or mental health—outcomes are predictably poor.
People are told:

“Get sober first, then we’ll treat your mental health.”

“Stabilize your mental health, then address the addiction.”

For individuals living in survival mode, this binary approach is not only unrealistic—it is clinically unsound. Best-practice Canadian frameworks clearly support integrated treatment for concurrent disorders, yet access remains inconsistent across provinces (Mental Health Commission of Canada [MHCC], 2021).

Fragmented Care Creates Predictable Harm

Mental health services, addiction treatment, income assistance, housing supports, and child welfare often operate in silos. Each system has its own eligibility rules, waitlists, and thresholds—many of which require a level of stability that the individual does not yet have.
The result:

Emergency department become default mental health providers.

Detox programs function as revolving doors instead of pathways to recovery.

Relapse is treated as non-compliance rather than a feature of chronic conditions.

Recovery cannot happen without continuity of care, something Canada’s own national mental health strategy has long identified as a critical gap (MHCC, 2022).

The Child Welfare Connection We Don’t Talk About Enough

A significant proportion of adults with substance use and mental health challenges have histories of:

*Childhood trauma

*Foster care or group care placements

*Family separation

*Chronic instability an attachment disruption

Canadian child welfare research consistently shows overrepresentation of families affected by poverty, trauma, and parental substance use—yet responses remain surveillance-focused rather than supportive (Fallon et al., 2020).

Children learn early that systems remove—but rarely return to heal.

Years later, those same children are labeled “high-risk adults.”

This is not coincidence.
It is systemic continuity of harm.

Stigma Is Embedded in Policy

Stigma is not just interpersonal—it is structural.
Policies that discharge people for relapse, deny services due to “non-compliance,” or prioritize short-term outcomes over long-term stabilization actively reinforce harm. The Mental Health Commission of Canada has repeatedly emphasized that recovery-oriented care must be person-centred, trauma-informed, and non-punitive—yet implementation remains uneven (MHCC, 2021).

We would never discharge a person with diabetes for unstable blood sugar.

Yet we routinely abandon people with chronic mental illness and addiction for displaying symptoms.

Recovery Requires More Than Motivation

Motivation alone cannot overcome:

*Unsafe housing

*Poverty

*Untreated trauma

*Lack of culturally responsive services

Systems that retraumatize through control and exclusion
Healing requires safety, consistency, dignity, and time.

These are not individual traits—they are system responsibilities.

What a System That Works Would Look Like

A functional addiction and mental health system would:

*Treat substance use and mental health together

*Embed trauma- and violence-informed approaches across services

*Provide long-term, relational care instead of time-limited interventions

*Integrate child welfare, health, housing, and community supports

*Centre lived experience as legitimate clinical knowledge

*Measure success by quality of life, not discharge dates

Canadian public health models increasingly recognize this approach—but recognition without implementation changes nothing (British Columbia Centre on Substance Use, 2023).

Call to Action: From Awareness to Accountability

If we are serious about addressing addiction and mental health in Canada, awareness is no longer enough.

We must move toward accountability, integration, and reform.

This means:

*Demanding integrated care for concurrent mental health and substance use disorders

*Advocating for trauma-informed, attachment-based practice across child welfare, healthcare, and justice systems

*Challenging policies that punish relapse, poverty, and survival behaviours

*Investing in early, family-centred interventions, not just crisis responses

*Elevating lived experience as evidence—not anecdote

For professionals:
Examine your systems, not just your clients.

For families:
Your loved one is not broken—if care hasn’t worked, it may be because it was never designed for their reality.

For decision-makers:
Fragmented systems produce fragmented outcomes. Healing requires coordination and courage.

And for those who are struggling:
Your relapse is not a moral failure. Your pain is real. Your life deserves care that does not disappear when things get hard.

We do not need more programs that manage symptoms.
We need systems that support healing.

BigmommaJ
#MentalHealth #AddictionRecovery #systems

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How to Support a Loved One Who Struggles With AddictionLoving Without Losing Yourself By BigmommaJ

Loving someone who struggles with addiction is one of the most painful and complex experiences a person can face. You watch someone you care about disappear in pieces—moments of clarity followed by chaos, hope followed by heartbreak. You want to help, but nothing you do ever feels like enough.

Addiction doesn’t just affect the individual—it impacts families, children, partners, and entire support systems. Research consistently shows that substance use disorders are associated with increased family stress, disrupted attachment, and intergenerational trauma, particularly when left untreated (Canadian Centre on Substance Use and Addiction [CCSA], 2023).

Supporting someone with addiction requires empathy, education, and—often most overlooked—care for yourself.

Understanding Addiction Through a Trauma Lens

Addiction is not a moral failure or a lack of willpower. It is a complex, chronic health condition influenced by neurobiology, trauma exposure, mental illness, and social determinants of health (CCSA, 2023; National Institute on Drug Abuse [NIDA], 2024).

*Many individuals use substances to:

*Regulate overwhelming emotions

*Cope with unresolved trauma or abuse

*Manage untreated anxiety, depression, or PTSD

*Numb feelings of abandonment, shame, or chronic stress

Trauma-informed research shows a strong correlation between adverse childhood experiences (ACEs) and later substance use, highlighting addiction as a survival response rather than a choice (Felitti et al., 1998; Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration [SAMHSA], 2014).

Lead With Compassion, Not Control

Shame is one of the strongest predictors of continued substance use and relapse. Compassion, on the other hand, fosters psychological safety—an essential foundation for recovery (Brown, 2012; SAMHSA, 2014).

Supportive communication includes:

*Using person-first language (e.g., “a person with a substance use disorder”)

*Expressing concern without blame

*Listening without fixing, minimizing, or threatening

*Acknowledging the person’s pain, not just their behavior

Statements such as:
“I’m worried about your safety.”
“I care about you and want to understand.”

Can reduce defensiveness and open space for change.

Set Boundaries Without Guilt

Boundaries are a critical component of healthy support. Evidence-based family approaches emphasize that enabling behaviors—such as covering up consequences or providing financial support for substance use—can unintentionally reinforce addiction patterns (Al-Anon Family Groups, 2023).

Healthy boundaries:

*Protect your emotional and physical safety

*Create clarity and consistency

*Reduce resentment and burnout

*Model accountability

Setting boundaries is not abandonment—it is a necessary act of self-preservation.

Encourage Help—But Release the Outcome

Recovery cannot be forced. Research shows that while social support increases treatment engagement, sustained recovery depends on internal readiness and access to appropriate care (NIDA, 2024).

You can:

Take Care of Yourself (This Is Not Selfish)

*Encourage professional treatment or trauma-informed therapy

*Offer to support attendance at appointments or groups

*Share resources without ultimatums

You cannot:

*Control another person’s recovery

*Heal their trauma for them

*Prevent relapse on their behalf

Letting go of control is often one of the hardest—and healthiest—steps for loved ones.

Family members of individuals with addiction often experience secondary trauma, anxiety, depression, and chronic stress (Orford et al., 2013). Caring for yourself is not optional—it is essential.

Consider:

*Individual or family therapy

*Support groups for loved ones (e.g., Al-Anon, Nar-Anon)

*Rebuilding routines that prioritize rest, boundaries, and identity

*When you care for yourself, you interrupt cycles of codependency and trauma.

A Personal Reflection

Through my work in child welfare and trauma-informed practice, I have seen how addiction fractures families—and how often children become silent witnesses to instability long before they understand it.

I’ve also lived the reality of addiction and recovery, witnessing firsthand how shame isolates, while compassion combined with accountability creates space for healing.
Healing does not begin with control.

It begins with safety, boundaries, and truth.

Final Thoughts: Love With Limits, Hope With Honesty

You are not cruel for setting boundaries.

You are not heartless for protecting yourself.

And you are not responsible for someone else’s recovery.

Supporting someone through addiction is not about saving them.

It’s about staying grounded in compassion—without losing yourself.

BigmommaJ
#AddictionRecovery #withoutLosingyourself #boundaries

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My recovery is teaching me how to…

I’ll be honest—recovery is really tough. Not only does it take a lot of work to maintain, but it has also shown me parts of myself that I once hid and felt embarrassed to address. Even now, years later, I still feel a bit of shame when symptoms resurface that I thought I had already overcome.

At the same time, this has become one of my biggest lessons. Recovery is teaching me how to be patient with myself and to accept who I am, no matter what I’m experiencing. Even when I isolate, feel weighed down by shame from past decisions, or notice my self-talk becoming cruel, I am still in active recovery. I’m not going backward—I’m allowed to struggle sometimes. I have the tools to find balance again.

That’s what recovery is all about.

What about you?

#CheckInWithMe #ChronicPain #ChronicIllness #Depression #Anxiety #MentalHealth #Recovery #EatingDisorder #EatingDisorderRecovery #Addiction #AddictionRecovery #SubstanceRelatedDisorders #PostTraumaticStressDisorder #ComplexPosttraumaticStressDisorder #Selfharm

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Rewiring Addiction: Healing the Brain, Reclaiming the Self By BigmommaJ

Addiction is one of the most misunderstood illnesses of our time.

People love to debate it—Is it a choice? Is it a weakness? Why can’t they just stop?
But the truth is far less judgmental and far more human:

Addiction is a brain disorder rooted in trauma, emotional pain, and neurochemical imbalance — not a moral failure.

And the most hopeful part?

The brain can be rewired.
Healing is possible.
Recovery is a biological and spiritual transformation.

When Addiction Begins: The Brain Trying to Survive

Most people don’t pick up a substance because life is good.
They pick it up because something inside them hurts.

According to the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA), 75% of individuals with addiction have experienced significant trauma in their lifetime (SAMHSA, 2023).

Trauma changes the brain.
Addiction changes it again.

What starts as emotional band-aids—relief, escape, numbness—quickly becomes a neurological loop:

1. The dopamine reward system becomes overstimulated.

2. Stress and threat circuits go into overdrive.

3. The prefrontal cortex (the “stop and think” part) weakens.

4. The brain begins to prioritize the substance over everything else, even survival.

This is why “just stop” has never been an effective treatment plan.

Is Addiction a Choice?

The research is clear:

The decision to use may begin as a choice.

Addiction itself is not.

Once the brain is rewired by repeated substance use, the person loses much of their ability to choose.

The National Institute on Drug Abuse describes addiction as a chronic, relapsing brain disorder that alters decision-making, impulse control, and self-regulation (NIDA, 2024).

If someone’s leg was broken, we wouldn’t ask them to run.
If someone’s brain is dysregulated, we shouldn’t expect them to “just quit.”

The Rewiring: How Recovery Actually Happens

Recovery isn’t just sobriety.
It’s the slow, powerful process of teaching the brain a new way to live.

1. Neuroplasticity — the brain’s ability to change

The same pathways that addiction hijacked can be reshaped through new habits, therapy, routine, and connection.

2. Trauma-informed healing

When people heal their trauma, their nervous system calms.
The urge to self-medicate decreases.

Safety replaces survival mode.

3. Community and connection

Humans heal in relationship.
Connection triggers oxytocin and stabilizes the stress response—two things essential for rewiring a recovering brain.

4. Time and consistency

Research shows it can take 12–18 months for dopamine systems to rebalance after chronic substance use (Harvard Health Publishing, 2022).
That doesn’t mean recovery is impossible before that—but it shows why grace is essential.

Healing is not linear.
But every day, every choice, every moment of awareness is building new neural pathways.

A Personal Reflection from the Journey

I used to blame myself for the chaos in my brain.

I thought addiction meant I was weak, broken, or unworthy.
But the more I learned, the more I realized

I wasn’t trying to destroy myself.

I was trying to survive a storm no one else could see.

Recovery for me wasn’t loud or pretty.

It wasn’t a single moment of clarity.

It was small shifts—
choosing stillness over escape,
choosing truth over numbing,
choosing myself when I didn’t even feel worth choosing.

Every day I rise,
I’m rewiring something inside me.

Teaching my brain a new way to breathe.

A new way to feel.
A new way to live.

The Bridge Between Who You Were and Who You’re Becoming

Recovery isn’t a destination.
It’s a rebuilding — neuron by neuron, breath by breath, day by day.

You’re not fighting addiction.
You’re rewiring your life.

You’re shaping a brain that can hold peace.

A heart that can hold joy.
A nervous system that can hold safety.

And no matter how many times you fall, relapse, restart, or rebuild, the truth never changes:

Healing is possible.
Rewiring is real.
And you are not your addiction — you are your recovery.

Bigmommaj
#AddictionRecovery #Addiction

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Rise Above Your Norm: What That Means to Me By BigmommaJ

When I first came up with the name Rise Above Your Norm, it wasn’t just a catchy title or a motivational phrase.
It was a promise — to myself.

A promise that no matter how many times life broke me down, I would find a way to rise again.
That I would no longer settle for survival.

That I would rebuild, even from the ashes, and help others do the same.

🌪️ Breaking Free From My “Normal”

For most of my life, my norm was pain. It was chaos, addiction, and trauma.

It was living in constant fight-or-flight mode — never trusting peace, never feeling safe in my own skin.

That was the world I knew. That was my normal.

But there comes a moment in healing when you realize — your “normal” isn’t serving you anymore.

It’s not protecting you, it’s holding you hostage.

And that’s when the real work begins: The decision to rise above it.

💔 Rising Doesn’t Mean Forgetting

Rising above your norm doesn’t mean pretending the pain never happened.

It doesn’t mean ignoring your past, or erasing your mistakes.
It means facing them — owning them — and still choosing to grow.

It means saying:

> “Yes, I’ve been through hell… but I’m not staying there.”

For me, it meant looking in the mirror and deciding to stop identifying with the brokenness, and start identifying with the strength it took to survive.

🌱 A Movement of Healing

Rise Above Your Norm isn’t just my personal mantra anymore — it’s a movement.

It’s a message to anyone who’s ever felt too damaged to start over.

To the addict trying to stay clean.

To the survivor learning to trust again.

To the mother rebuilding her life piece by piece.

It’s about knowing that we all have a norm — a version of life that once felt unchangeable — and realizing we have the power to rise above it.

💫 My Why

I started this journey in recovery, rebuilding from nothing — not just to heal myself, but to use my story to help others heal too.

Because healing alone is hard.
But healing together? That’s how we change lives.

Through my blog, my future practice, and the community we’re building here — I want to remind people that your story doesn’t end in your brokenness.
It begins the moment you decide to rise.

🕊️ Final Reflection

Rise Above Your Norm means rewriting the story you once thought was over.

It means giving yourself permission to grow beyond what hurt you.

It means choosing peace, even when chaos feels more familiar.

And most of all — it means believing that no matter what you’ve been through, you are worthy of a life that feels safe, whole, and yours again.

So here’s to rising — again, and again, and again.
Because every time we do,
we prove that healing is possible. 💛

BigmommaJ
#RiseAboveYourNorm #MentalHealth #AddictionRecovery #Recovery

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My biggest holiday lesson

I’ve learned a hard but important lesson: I no longer give my family my energy when it comes to how they talk about my mental health or the challenges they’ve caused in my life. I’ve set boundaries and told them—I don’t want to have this conversation.

The lesson I’ve learned is this: the people and resources we give our energy to, especially during certain times of the year, really matter. Why? Because our energy is finite. Every ounce spent on negativity, judgment, or drama is an ounce we can’t use for our healing, growth, or joy.

Choosing where to focus your attention isn’t selfish—it’s necessary. It’s saying, “I matter. My mental health matters. My peace matters.” And especially around the holidays, when emotions run high, protecting your energy isn’t just smart—it’s survival.

So this year, I’m holding space for my own well-being first, and letting go of conversations, people, and situations that deplete me. It feels like freedom. And honestly? That’s a gift I give myself.

#ADHD #ADHDInGirls #Neurodiversity #SubstanceRelatedDisorders #EatingDisorder #MentalHealth #Depression #ChronicFatigueSyndrome #AddictionRecovery #Anxiety

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Acknowledgment #MentalHealth #Bipolar1 #AddictionRecovery #Hope #BipolarDisorder

Yesterday was a shit day. But I didn’t have to visit the deepest, darkest corners of my despair.

Today, I can acknowledge every courageous, hesitant little shift I made. Every terrified, unsafe little step I took. Every time I dared to give in to a spark of hope.

I’m so grateful that we are not alone in this! Thank you for letting me share.

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I’ve realized that some of my most meaningful progress shows up in the messy days—the ones when my thoughts feel heavy, my emotions spike, or old patterns try to pull me back. I used to think progress meant feeling better or not getting triggered at all, but that’s not how growth works.

The real shift happened when I stopped judging myself for struggling and started paying attention to how I moved through those moments. When I paused before spiraling, named what I was feeling, or simply chose not to shame myself—that was progress, even when it didn’t feel like it.

For me, it’s about taking a more self-compassionate and realistic approach: acknowledging what’s happening, reminding myself it’s human, and asking what I need instead of what I “should” be doing. It’s not about eliminating hard thoughts or feelings—it’s about meeting them with awareness instead of criticism.

Every time I do that, even imperfectly, I’m building something stronger in myself. And the more I acknowledge it, the easier it is to see that I’m moving forward, even on the tough days.

This shift for me happened when I started seeing those moments for what they really are—signals, not setbacks. When I stopped treating every tough feeling like proof that I was slipping, things got lighter. Those moments became chances to understand myself a bit better, to be kinder to myself, and to respond in a way that actually supported my growth instead of shutting me down.

If you’re struggling with this, remember: every small moment you notice and respond to with compassion is proof that you are moving forward, even when it doesn’t feel like it that’s why gaining context when we experience these moments is so important here’s a few tips for helping who finds this challenging. Do you want me to support you just message me and I can help you

What story am I telling myself about this moment, and is it the only possible story?

What does this experience reveal about my values, needs, or areas for growth?
Instead of viewing discomfort as a flaw, this reframes it as information—something that can guide you toward clarity and personal development.

If I look at the bigger picture, how might this challenge fit into my overall journey?
This encourages perspective-taking, reminding you that difficult feelings often signal progress or learning rather than failure.

#ADHD #ADHDInGirls #Neurodiversity #Anxiety #Depression #MentalHealth #MightyTogether #AddictionRecovery

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