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🏁 ‘Slow’ is better than ‘No’! 🏁

When you’re living with chronic health issues, regardless of whether they are physical, mental, or both, have you noticed how much pressure that you put on yourself to make as much progress as you possibly can? Like more progress will somehow ‘fix’ everything and make everything better? Like the more progress you make demonstrates how much you want to get better? Like if you’re not making enough progress then you’re somehow not making enough effort to get better or that it means that you’re somehow failing in your journey? It’s something that I have started recognising in myself, and I have started to realised that the more I push myself to make as much progress as possible, the worse I actually end up making things. And I’m sure that I am not the only person who does this to themselves. How many times have you pushed yourself so hard to make as much progress as possible but all you actually end up doing is causing yourself more stress, more pain, and more setback than progress? It’s so easy to loss track of the small victories, and we don’t realise that making SLOW progress is actually better than making NO progress at all, or, even worse, setting yourself further back than you already were. I know it’s not easy, in fact I don’t think that I have come anywhere close to achieving this revolution but it’s time that we start going a bit easier on ourselves and realising that it’s important that we recognise that the ‘small’ wins, the littlest progress, IS enough, and sometimes even more than enough!
#MightyMinute #52SmallThings #CheerMeOn #CheerEachOtherOn #MightyTogether #MentalHealth #ChronicDepression #Depression #Anxiety #Disability #FunctionalNeurologicalDisorder #FND #JointHypermobilitySyndrome #JHS #ChronicIllness #ChronicPain #Grief #ChronicFatigue #SpoonieProblems #Treatyourself #EnjoyTheLittleThings #CelebrateTheSmallWins #PersonalRevelations #MiniVictories

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Celebrating a seemingly easy task with mental illness

I am very proud of myself. I have brushed my teeth twice a day for the last 4 days and showered twice. I know this seems silly to most people as these are things that should be done daily without thought and not doing is gross and unsanitary, but I have never been good at taking care of myself. I have gone sometimes a month without showering, without brushing my teeth, without washing my face, and then I'll do it once or twice and go back to not taking care of myself. I could never understand why it was so hard for me to do these things. My mental health effects me in ways that neurotypical people deem lazy and disgusting. I am proud of myself because I have brushed my teeth the proper amount for 4 convective days, and I want to take a minute to celebrate my small victory.
#MentalHealth #smallvictories #CelebrateTheSmallWins

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Roam around my home Number 6: Food #CheckInWithMe #Depression

My wife is a great cook and she loves having people around to celebrate. When this virus thing is over I can imagine it will be “party season”. I wish there was a way to have many of you guys over, to celebrate your courage and tenacity.

#PTSD #CelebrateTheSmallWins #MentalHealth #home #Anxiety

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I’d love to hear your victories! However big or small ☺️

I managed to spend a few hours working on a university assignment today ☺️. Nothing too difficult mentally, and I did it from the comfort of my bed, but it took the motivation to do it, and concentration I haven’t had in weeks.
I’ve made big progress in the assignment, relieving some stress regarding making the deadline!
What’s your victory? However big or small, please share it! I’d love to celebrate it with you! #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #ObsessiveCompulsiveDisorder #FunctionalNeurologicalDisorder #SeizureDisorder #Migraine #HemiplegicMigraine #ChronicIllness #ChronicPain #Chronicfatique #PanicDisorder #Costochondritis #NeurologicalDisorder #Autism #CheerMeOn #CelebrateTheSmallWins #Recovery #MentalHealth #positive #Positivity


Looking for a job

Standing in your ruins, feels a lot like the end
So used to losing, you're afraid to try again
Right now all you see are ashes
Where there was a flame
The truth is that you're not forgotten
'Cause Grace knows your name
God's Not Done With You by Tauren Wells

The song God's Not Done With You is what has helped me through my darkest times in the past few months. But today the line that caught my attention was "So used to losing, you're afraid to try again". I've been afraid of the thought of returning to the workforce.

Today I had my weekly counseling session. We talked about me returning to the workforce. My therapist suggested I change my view of returning. I had anxiety and a fear of failing that I was actually setting myself up to fail. Instead my therapist suggested I view it as opportunity to learn and if it wasn't a good fit (give it 3 months) then move on to something else. I don't need to pressure myself that I have to find the right job first and stay for years.

I'm going to start looking at job postings again. I should broaden my opportunities but I don't have to apply for every job I find.

I'm a work in progress. Deciding to start looking was a small victory in itself. Now to build on that victory by applying and interviewing...

Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.
Philippians 4:6

Be strong and courageous, do not be afraid or tremble at them, for the Lord your God is the one who goes with you. He will not fail you or forsake you.
Deuteronomy 31:6

In all your ways acknowledge Him,
And He will make your paths straight.
Proverb 3:6

#Depression #TheBible #JobSearch #Fear #Victory #CelebrateTheSmallWins


Suicide survivor....again

I’ve got many demons, Iraq war vet, rape survivor, rough first marriage...but many amazing things too an Awesomly supportive husband beautiful daughter who loves me. And his family who really supports me. I wish I could say the same for mine. I suffer from chronic pain, EDS, (long undiagnosed ) I’ve had more surgeries than I can count. (15ish). And severe depression and anxiety. Last week I took it in my own hands figured they would be better with out me bc for the last few months all I was was a place keeper in my recliner. I really don’t know if I really meant it bc I was under the influence of ambien when I did it. But I was thinking it at times. But I know my family needs me. Today I slept all day and my husband came home and asked what I accomplished. I told him I slept all day. He asked how is that an accomplishment. I said well I could dwell on the things I did not accomplish or I could focus on getting good rest I know my body needed. #SuicideSurvivors #CheerMeOn #PTSD #CelebrateTheSmallWins

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Celebrating Victories— Big and Small #CelebrateTheSmallWins #Drownoutthevoices #Fibromyalgia #Arthritis #Depression #Anxiety #PhoneAnxiety #ABlessedmother #Drivingagain #ChronicIllness #ChronicPain #chronicpainsufferer #Cavedweller #Quiltdiver #fearful #ChronicFatigueSyndrome #ChronicFatigue #Focusonthepositive

I’ve overcome some major hurdles lately. I’m coping better and slowly emerging from “my cave” to engage with the world again. It’s still a HUGE struggle, but I’m having a few more victories.

Yesterday, my son took the day off work to help me leave the house, God bless him. I had to really push through the pain, fatigue, fear, anxiety, distractions and tears, but I finally got outside the front door, even if it was technically just before midnight (11:52pm)!!!! I was able to drive my car for the first time in nearly a year and go grocery shopping at the supermarket.

Earlier, I made urgent calls to my bank, and several others, to sort out a mix up — a huge thing for someone with phone anxiety!!!

These are all good things, right?

So why is it that in the back of my head, I have this “voice” saying... “Wait for it, your bubble is going to burst... This won’t last. You’re going to crash and burn, just wait and see.” 👺👹

Does anyone know what I’m talking about?

Please help me drown out this voice. I want to focus on, and celebrate, my victories — big and small. Having good days doesn’t mean I won’t have bad days in the future. It doesn’t mean I won’t lose a battle here and there. But I don’t want to waste me time and precious energy worrying about those negatives and miss out on today’s positives.