Skills

So in therapy we have discussed ways to plan ahead and how effective that is. I've always found that planning ahead gives me something to look forward to. I am planning a trip and things to do over the summer apart from work. This planning not only gives me a positive vibe and lifts my spirits but I also think it is a great coping strategy. As I've written before I have a major (maybe life altering) event coming up that I can't avoid. This event will be very distressing and triggering. I am doing everything in my power to control my emotions.

So I figured that coping ahead is the best thing to do. I have accepted that I will be under a lot of stress and will be triggered but that doesn't have to stop me. I will have a support system with me so I should be okay. I am working on ways to think more positively about the event aside from what could happen. If anyone has any positive coping strategies then I would appreciate hearing about them.

I am also looking for a way to reward myself after and should probably come up with an aftercare plan too. I just wanted to say that I appreciate all the comments and feedback, it really helps. I love how we can all support each other. Even if I feel unsafe during the event I know that like all the pain before, that it too will pass. I am stronger than I give myself credit for. People tell me that a lot. To survive the abuse then to be open about it takes strength. So to anyone that has done that, I commend you. Never give up. I've been in therapy for four years now and while it has been a hard journey I am grateful for all I have. I know that I will heal and overcome all of this. So can you. Stay safe, reach out for help and keep shining. We are all warriors!

Blessings,

-Anastasia

#SexualAbuse #EmotionalAbuse #PTSD #BipolarDisorder #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #Childhoodtrauma #SexualAssault #Hope #Healing

One of the skills I am being taught in DBT therapy is to be non-judgmental of myself and others. I am really trying to work on being non-judgmental of myself. Just accepting my thoughts and emotions as the come and as they are without judging them. I struggle with this because I fall into the trap of thinking because I am healing that I should not feel or think negative things.

I wanted to share this lesson with all of you because I think we judge ourselves too harshly. We judge ourselves for experiencing certain things, for feeling a certain way or thinking a certain way. We often beat ourselves up for a myriad of reasons and often times it is not justified.

So I think it's important that we all work on this skill. If we all work on this then maybe we can love ourselves a little more. Just accept you thoughts and emotions as they come, like waves in the ocean. Ride out the intensity and if it gets really bad, ask for help. We all deserve love from others including ourselves. Little by little we will get to where we are meant to be. Thanks for reading. I hope this helps and inspires someone today.

#Therapy #Skills #PTSD #BipolarDisorder #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #SexualAbuse #EmotionalAbuse #Healing #Hope #Lessons #Life

I think I do pretty well with coping with my mental health but I would like to know if there are any additional coping skills I could use? Any comments would be helpful.

#BipolarDisorder #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #PTSD #coping #AbuseSurvivors #Skills

When we are not allowed to step out from our house, we tend to feel restricted in many aspects of our live. We perceive that we achieve lesser during this crisis. The goals that we set for year 2020 seems to be harder to achieve. Yet, there are valuable skills that we are developing throughout the lockdown period. You may not even be aware about it!


Self-Reflection
We are always on the go with our regular schedule in our life. We do our best to meet daily demands and commitment. We rarely hit the "pause" button and make time for self-reflection. Nevertheless, we instinctively do reflection when we are out of our routine. We reflect when we are facing new changes and challenges. "What's the meaning/purpose in my life?" "Where will I move forward from this situation?" "What are the priorities in my life?" We reconstruct the priority and purposes in our life. Thus, Coronavirus crisis is an unusual situation that spikes existential questions for us. I caught myself spending more time doing reflections on my personal and career goals.


Adaptability
Quarantine life is the current "norm" for everyone. We are "forced" to make changes to fit into the new norm. You may complain about the challenges due to the change. Yet, all the modification we have made so far proofs that we are flexible and versatile. Ability to make changes means adaptability. Although this is an ongoing progress, be proud of all the changes (big or small) you have made along the way! You are more flexible than you think you are!


Problem Solving
As I mentioned earlier, we needs to make changes to fit into new circumstances (work from home, virtual learning etc.). This means there are many obstacles and challenges popping up. A variety of new strategies and solutions are needed. Yes it can be frustrating to handle piles of drawbacks. However, I am also pleased with my ability to work things around. Besides, I see myself have acquired new skills during this crisis situation.


In short, Coronavirus crisis is a challenging situation for everyone in the world. However, we as human being, grow tremendously in adverse situation as well! There are things that we can take away from this situation and utilise the skills in our life.

#Crisis #COVID19 #adaptability #Skills

I have been working at my family's restaurant for the past 3 years. for few months I have been doubting back and forth either applying other jobs. cause the restaurant itself honestly didn't have such promising future. sales up and down. some day sales skyrocket and there is some sales was really bad, whats left just few dollars for tomorrow expenses. my mom have been reminding don't give up finding a more worthy job. there vacancy are alot but the problem is me. all the resume or forms that I fill wasn't completed. because I didn't believe in myself I am an individual with skills. the phrase list the skills that you have really just push me moving backwards. I have diploma in business study, really generic course. I regretted studying it. the industry have abundance of skillful workforce. I am bad at accounting. I really don't know what to fill on the skill list. #Selfesteem #Selfworth #Skills