I just want to rid myself. Sometimes I feel like I should just go to anyone and asked to be fucked because it hurts so much that people don’t respect consent and it would feel so nice just for someone to ask me and for me to say yes. It hurts that I’m just a doll but what can I do #Rape #SexualAssault #PTSD #CPTSD
Guide to being a SURVIVOR!
Looked up my abusive ex
It’s been 22 years since I left the man who raped and abused me. I used to look him up yearly to make sure he wasn’t living too close to me. After more than a decade, I looked him up again. Probably because in trauma therapy recently I realized that the night he took my virginity it was actually #Rape . Completely unwanted and he knew it.
Once I saw him, rage filled me and I don’t know what to do with it. My regular therapist and trauma therapist are unavailable for two more weeks. I am beyond angry. But I’m having to stuff the rage down so I don’t go off on my family or hurt myself.
I’ve done one writing assignment. I’m have limited mobility due to pain and can’t exercise it off. Other ideas? TIA. 💕 #Abuse #AbuseSurvivors #Depression #Anxiety #ChronicPain #anger #Rage
Self worth, self love and survival #SexualViolence #Rape #SexTrafficking #PTSD
How do I become a whole again and feel any self worth? It’s been 20 years since I was trafficked and I still feel worthless and have so much hate for myself.
Stories about rape, (WARNING THIS MAY BE TRIGGERING)..........
With all the anti abortion decisions SCOTUS has made lately I've been discussing these issues with my husband. I told him the story of the 10 year old girl that was raped and denied an abortion. He thought that if you haven't had your first period you can't get pregnant, so the thought was 'it's physically impossible.'..
We have an 11 year old daughter, I asked him what if she gets raped. His response made me angry, but I know he doesn't understand because he's never had to worry about it before and knows no one who's gone through that trauma.
He thinks to prevent rape to give her a knife, defensive classes, and I teach her confidence and self-esteem (my PTSD makes that seem impossible) to show her she doesn't need a man. Those are great ideas, yes, but I believe he assumes since it hasn't happened around here it won't and won't happen to her especially if she knows how to defend herself. I know that's the story many people tell themselves but the Freeze reaction is all too real and very misunderstood.
I'm worried for her future, not just because of SCOTUS' decision but also because of what he thinks will prevent it, will she blame herself as so many of us do because of his opinion? I bet she will.
He's never heard the stories of women who have defensive training, weapons, etc. unsuccessfully fight off her attackers, only those lucky ones who didn't freeze up.
Which brings me to my question, would any of you be able to share your story? I COMPLETELY understand if no one wants to, I just thought I would ask so I can help him see it's not just something to brush off, that he should be concerned about women's rights too. I need him to understand that this decision opens the door for more rape and assaults (am i being dramatic about this one?). He wants me to fact check the news stories I read online but I thought it would be better to show him the real stories, not the bs news reports.
Thank you for any help and reading my long post. I hope I didn't offend or trigger anyone, I really don't mean to, I'm so unbelievably sorry if I have. #Rape #Survivor
Feeling sad comes and goes in waves…
TW!!
I went to the police today to report one of the incidents of rape that happened to me, and I’m not sure if I should take this to the court.
So, I have limited evidence, and there’s always the chance that the Dubin police department will reject my case and it won’t go any further. But even in that case my rapist will still be arrested and questioned and given a serious warning. But if it does go through I’m going to have to publicly speak about my experience of being raped, my family will most likely find out and most importantly there’s always the chance that he won’t be convicted. Is going to the court to try and get justice and get this creep behind bars, worth the risk of messing up my mental health even more at a time of high stress?
If anyone has been through this process or has any advice I would really appreciate it. ❤️ #Rape #SexualAssault #RapeSurvivors #Irish
Maren
Jimminy Cricket
April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month. Sexual assault is an unfortunately all-too-common occurrence, and contrary to what some may realize, it affects people of all ages, genders, sexual orientations, and racial identities. I’ve never written about my experience as a survivor before. I’ve always been hesitant to share, often thinking, “what could I possibly have to add to this conversation?” I’ve also thought that my pain wasn’t great enough, large enough to be worthy of attention from others. None of these things are true. It is up to the survivor whether or not they want to disclose their story. I want to share a few things that one can do to support someone in their life who is a sexual assault survivor — and you’re bound to know someone, and even if you don’t realize it. We all know someone, and sometimes this includes ourselves. Here are five ways you can support sexual assault survivors, not just during the month of April but any time someone comes to you in search of support: 1. Ask the person what they need. This is pretty self-explanatory; oftentimes, survivors of trauma know what they would like from a friend or trusted family member when they disclose what happened, while other times they aren’t so sure. Asking the person is a good place to start. 2. Offer them a warm beverage. This might sound silly, but I had a friend in college who offered me a warm drink (typically hot tea) every time I came to her upset or triggered by my traumas. I found this to be not only thoughtful and sweet as a gesture, but that the warm drink regulated my fight-or-flight response system somewhat. 3. Listen and validate rather than jumping to advice-giving. Validation and a kind, a listening ear is often, at least in my case, what helps the most. 4. Don’t ask the survivor details, including who the perpetrator is, if it is not disclosed. It may be hard enough for the survivor to open up, and rehashing certain details, regardless of how long ago the assault happened, can be triggering. 5. If the survivor seems particularly distressed, ask if they would like some coping strategies to do together. Some possible coping strategies include but are not limited to: watching a funny show or movie together, squeezing an ice cube, splashing cold water on one’s face, yoga or meditation, exercise, spending time in nature… these are just some of a few that I’ve used in the past. Another important thing to note is that sometimes, survivors go to other survivors for help. It is important that if you have a history of sexual trauma, to also do self-care during or after helping others. It is also OK to set boundaries if you need to in order to maintain your own well-being. There are crisis lines (such as RAINN) that are available too. I have been engaging in eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR) therapy for a couple of months and it’s really helped me with my traumas, including my sexual trauma. That said, I am grateful to the friends, family, and therapists I have gone to in the past about this subject. I hope that we can be more understanding toward each other and gain awareness of how much sexual assault can rewire someone’s nervous system in a negative way. That being said, therapy can rewire that same nervous system back to a healthier way. I am more than my traumas, as are you. For more stories on sexual violence, check out our list of 24 Mighty stories you need to read if you’ve experienced sexual violence .
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