sarcasm

So, I've only recently been diagnosed with #ChronicFatigueSyndrome (moderate) and I'm learning the basics of Pacing and trying to rest as much as possible. I'm very lucky that it's possible for me to rest a lot!

I've also dealt with anxiety for a few years and that's pretty well managed with medication but recently I find I'm getting very anxious before I need to do anything that isn't resting. I'm anxious that I'll run out of energy during a coffee with a friend and they won't understand why I'm suddenly so spaced out. I worry that I'm talking about #ME and #Fatigue too much and they'll think I'm complaining, when I'm really just trying to forewarn them. I'm anxious about the crash that will happen if I push myself too far - will it just affect me for a week or will it affect me forever. I'm worried that I'll say no to too many events and people will stop asking me or wanting to be around me. I'm worried my niece and nephew will think I don't want to spend time with them because I so often can't. I get irrationally anxious my partner will get sick of me - even though they've been with me through cancer and more. There's a lot of new anxieties mixed up in this, and I worry I'm feeling agoraphobic.

I was wondering if anybody else experiences this? I guess now that I'm writing it down, it sounds completely logical considering the new diagnosis - it just feels anything but logical when your thoughts are in a negative spiral! It would help to know I'm not alone 💙

#ChronicFatigue
#MyalgicEncephalomyelitis #Anxiety #Agoraphobia #Fear #PanicAttack #Cancer

One of the things I always hear about treating #Depression is to learn to recognize and start to change your negative self-talk. To be honest, I have had a difficult time with this. I know that I don't have the most positive self image and that I carry a lot of #Shame , but I rarely seem to catch myself saying nasty things even in my head. I thought that maybe I was just unaware or paying attention to my thoughts in the wrong way or something.

Today, I was getting ready for work. I'm in my 30s, but I'm having trouble with breaking out on my forehead lately for some reason, so when I saw a large red zit on my face, I turned away from the mirror and said aloud, "Lovely. That's so nice." And I suddenly heard it. I suddenly recognized it. I suddenly understood.

When I was growing up, my parents policed our word choice quite strictly. We weren't allowed to say anything that even sounded a bit like a curse word or like taking the Lord's name in vain. I remember my siblings and I making up some of our own words to insult each other. At one point, "plum" was the worst insult in our home - no clue how that developed! Anyway, what I think happened is that we just started using positive words sarcastically to express judgment, scorn, and anger since we weren't allowed to say the negative ones. And I think we were imitating my mom when we did this.

So I've grown up with this self-talk that is more like, "well, that was clever!" or "nice try," or "looking good," all expressed sarcastically to mean the opposite of the words themselves. It's no wonder I haven't been able to identify words like stupid, ugly, or useless in my self-talk. And maybe it's no wonder why I have such a difficult time accepting a compliment at face value if it includes words like smart, beautiful, or amazing. I just thought I was self-conscious when I actually learned to distrust anyone who used these words since they were used as insults when I was growing up.

Has anyone else discovered this kind of self-talk in themselves? How did you overcome it?

#Selftalk #Epiphany #sarcasm #Selfimage #MentalHealth #Depression #Anxiety #CPTSD

So my therapist called me out on my sarcasm. I’m 53 and I’ve been sarcastic all my life. I had read somewhere, maybe in one of the many social media groups I’m in said it was a coping/defense mechanism, but I can’t remember if it’s related to adhd, asd or bipolar 2.
If anyone in the #mighty community can help me with this one....

How do you deal with your only sister who can’t control her #Jealousy and #sarcasm which only leads to my #AnxietyDisorder and #ChronicPain which only leads to my #InvisibleIllness and of course #Migraines and #nausea . This week We as Orthodox Jews celebrate Sukkot, (Feast of The Tabernacles), where you sit in a temporary hut and eat your meals. My mother was welcomed to my sister’s house, but We were not permitted to come because my husband had a #Stroke and is ##Paralized on his left side. So again, I ask you, how do you deal with such a #jealous and ##sarcastic woman who must have the last word?

I really enjoy reading stories on The Mighty about our conditions, but I’m wondering how other guys handle the snarky stares and comments... especially when we need to use out ADA parking permit

#sarcasm
#Fibromyalgia
#Dysautonomia
#menwithfibro
#ChronicIllness