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    After some advice

    A couple of weeks ago I restarted trampolining after 15 months off due to covid. The sessions have been FANTASTIC and I am so happy to be back. Unfortunately I believe its having a knock on effect on me and I don't quite know what to do.

    I have non-radiographic axial spondyloarthritis, a form of inflammatory arthritis that predominantly affects my spine. I believe trampolining is causing an increase in pain in the days after which is manageable. The bigger problem is my sleep. I feel amazing after training and am buzzing. I get a lot done in the afternoon afterwards because I have energy. (Tramps is 12-2pm on Saturdays). Sundays I've been sleeping in because I've crashed and then having a chilled out day. I then go to bed a little late at 10pm ish (9pm is ideal for work). Monday morning I'm a bit tired but get up OK and have energy like normal. After lunch I get sleepy but push through. Then as soon as work finishes I CRASH. I crash and sleep, like full deep should-be-the-middle-of-the-night sleep. Waking up is hard. Then of course I'm wide awake and buzzing again and can't sleep at night (cue posting this at 1am). Last week this continued for several days. If I try to stay awake in the evening I am a total zombie and can't cook dinner or do anything. It feels like my body clock shifts forwards by a few hours.

    Has anyone else experienced this type of reaction to exercise? Did it get better with time? Any tips on managing it?

    I'm going to try a lunchtime nap tomorrow to see if that can help reset my sleep schedule. It's sometimes difficult to fit in though as I have a lot of meetings atm, and a 10 or 30 min nap just isn't enough. I need at least 1hr30 to get a full sleep cycle in. I did that last week when I eventually fit it in on Thursday and it helped. It's not a sustainable option long term though :/

    #ChronicIllness #ChronicPain #axialSpondyloarthritis #Arthritis #Fatigue #Sleep #sleepproblems #Advice #Adviceplease #advicewanted #Exercise #AnkylosingSpondylitis

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    Is my mother manipulative? Or am I just anxious? #SocialAnxiety #Anxiety

    <p>Is my mother manipulative? Or am I just anxious? <a class="tm-topic-link mighty-topic" title="Social Anxiety" href="/topic/social-anxiety/" data-id="5b23ceb900553f33fe99cc65" data-name="Social Anxiety" aria-label="hashtag Social Anxiety">#SocialAnxiety</a>  <a class="tm-topic-link mighty-topic" title="Anxiety" href="/topic/anxiety/" data-id="5b23ce5f00553f33fe98d1b4" data-name="Anxiety" aria-label="hashtag Anxiety">#Anxiety</a> </p>
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    Hi everyone,

    I’m new to The Mighty, but I like what I’ve seen so far. I have Borderline Personality Disorder and Generalised Anxiety Disorder (among others) and the lockdown isolation has been really rough on me.

    I have been in isolation since March with my fiancé, that I love immensely. However when it comes to supporting my mental well-being and understanding my emotions etc. He is unable to help me. He has high functioning autism, he is incredibly intelligent and to talk to him briefly you wouldn’t even know. I guess that’s why I sometimes forget when I’m struggling mentally. Yet I feel like I am currently having to look after his emotional and mental well-being above my own and I’m pushing my emotions down to try and stop them from upsetting him because he gets frustrated that he can’t process them and help me. More and more I can see myself taking a carer role, or a counsellor role with him instead of a romantic one.

    Any advice on how I can somehow reconcile the two (or three) personalities in this scenario because I was struggling I was just borderline, now I’m borderline and carer and fiancé and then there’s his personality on top. I don’t know what I’m doing anymore :(

    I’m not receiving any treatment except medication and haven’t been able to acquire any psychological support in over 2 years.

    Anyway, that’s me and my life at the moment...

    take care and stay safe.

    you are important.

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    Advice?

    I recently saw some self-inflicted cuts on my 11 y/o cousin which is triggering some old emotions of mine. I don’t know what to do or how to approach it. I’m so worried about her and i’d be devastated if she went down the same painful path I went through...any advice? #Adviceplease #Selfharm

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    I'm 22. I've been diagnosed with anxiety and depression for several years but was only diagnosed with bipolar 2 yesterday. I'm not an angry person, I've never done anything dangerous and I've only ever had one manic episode. I didn't realize that it was at the time, but apparently waking up at 4 am and deciding to buy $2,000 worth of new furniture qualifies. (I had a fully furnished home). I never imagined myself as bipolar, even though my biological father had it. I feel like my whole world just shifted a little bit. Now its it's all about medications and therapists and psychiatrists. I haven't been working for about a month because of a depressive episode that resulted in me getting put in a mental hospital. I'm trying to stay positive and remember that this diagnoses does not define me. Any advice or thoughts would be incredible.
    #bipolar2 #newdiagnoses #Adviceplease

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    Feeling extremely nervous because tomorrow I have court for a child support modification hearing. I received a letter from the state saying my son’s father is making more money so they set up the court hearing and everything not me so I don’t know what to expect at all! I haven’t seen my sons father in 9 years, he is not in my son’s life he just pays child support so I feel like it’s going to be very awkward and uncomfortable for me specially with my anxiety I’m so worried.

    Does anyone have any advice on how this works?
    #Depression #Anxiety #AnxietyAttacks #SocialAnxiety #Worried #scared

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    Advice for hyperfixations/how to stop them?

    With my ADHD I tend to get really into certain things at times, but this is my first real hyperfixation. Usually I’m interested in things but only on a surface level. This, I’m spending all my time researching and dissecting everything and counting down the seconds to go about it again and it’s getting really upsetting and stressful honestly. it’s only been a few days but I really don’t like it.... help? I basically spent all of this past weekend and every second possible during this week to focus on it without even wanting to, and it’s very difficult to focus on anything else even though I desperately want to. I often have preferences for certain things at times and watch or do them more often than others but can still do other things, but I cannot bring myself to focus on anything else to the point of almost forgetting to eat and not being able to sleep, it just won’t happen. it’s a little scary. it’s a harmless thing I’m fixated on, it’s just overwhelming. thanks in advance. #ADHD #Hyperfixation #Advice #Adviceplease #adhdadvice

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    Toxic Relationships and Moving On

    I am borderline personality diagnosed comorbid with depression and anxiety.
    For three years now I have been in denial that my relationship is unhealthy and very much toxic, anot just for myself but my significant other, as well as our children.
    I begged him to start therapy to get over my infidelity that occured 3 years prior to the birth of our first daughter two years ago.
    Things have only gotten worse between us; we have had fist fights, we are constantly fighting or bickering to the point that I'm in tears daily.
    Our kids have watched all of it including me attacking him with a bedroom lamp.
    He is controlling and monitors everything in my phone and has gone as far as to hide cameras around our house.
    He accuses me of still cheating, throws my past drug addiction in my face and makes me relive embarassing and mortifying life experiences like the night three men used my addiction against me and took advantage of me sexually while I was not coherent enough to realize what was happening until after.
    He has also threatened to use my mental health diagnosis and past indiscretions against me in court if I was to try leaving with my kids.

    Thank you if your still reading this long ass post....

    The thing is that I have started creating an escape plan but I'm so conflicted inside. I want to stay but I really dont.
    How did you, if you have, finally get the strength and courage to leave? What helped you face the fear of being alone? How did you break the news to your significant other that you were leaving. Was your mental health used against you? what was the outcome of the court hearing for custody?
    #breakup #Relationships #movingon #Love #heartbreak #Abuse #DomesticAbuse #familylaw #Toxic #chronicstress #whatdoido
    #Adviceplease #Advice #seekinghelp #toxiclove #

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    meds and personality changes #Zoloft

    has anyone experienced a rather significant personality change when upping dosage? I just upped my dosage of Zoloft from 50mg to 100mg (I’m also on a low dosage of Wellbutrin) anyway I didn’t feel a big change when I first started Zoloft (about 4 months ago) but I’ve been on the higher dosage for about 2 weeks now and I just don’t feel like myself. not in a bad way, like I’m productive and alittle more bubbly. I’m alittle anxious , fidgety, care more about my appearance. have been wanting to dress more feminine. idk I feel like I’m acting more.... girly?... 🙄 that’s not the word I want to use but I can’t explain it. I just feel like a different person and I don’t really
    know who this new person is. has anyone else experienced this?? #CheckInWithMe #Zoloft #Anxiety #Adviceplease

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