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    G'day! Actually hi...it's only really the bush folk that give that greeting ;)

    How is everyone? We have almost hit 50 members, which I think is fantastic...it means we are out there and sunning ourselves like a lizard in the hot sun! If you have made friends on here who are over 50, don't forget to invite them to the group! As 50+er's, we need all the support from each other that we can get.

    If you are brave enough, speak up and share who you are and why you're here in this group...tell me what you hope to get out of it so that I can try and cater to your needs.

    I'm here because I believe that so often people have an image in their head of what a person with a mental illness looks like. What comes up in your mind when you see/hear those words? The truth is that M.I. affects people of all cultures, genders, and of course - ages. "Society" often forgets that we can be more mature and still suffering. In fact, I think at our age we are missed. It is either a troubled teenager, or an elderly person who has a form of senility that is thought of when prompted.

    What about us, the group that is trying to deal with the fact that they're probably past the halfway point, but still have a life to live? A life that still has potential? I know I still have hopes and dreams. It's ok to be over 50 and still have goals in mind - in fact I would encourage you to consider this. What ideas do you have for yourself in the future, 'after' this? Things might be rough at the moment, but that doesn't mean it will always be this way. Do you have plans? Plans for tomorrow, plans for next week, next month, next year etc? Do you have a 5 year plan, a 10 year plan?

    If you're like me, you're probably saying, 'C'mon, I can't even think past now!' 'It's hopeless, why bother?' 'I don't want to think about the future, it's too hard'! Well, why can't we? Is it because your suffering is too intense? Does your self-talk stop you?

    In my therapy session yesterday, I was told that we should talk to ourselves with self compassion - the way we would speak to a friend. Some of us wouldn't even say what we say to ourselves to our enemies! Would we say to a friend that they didn't deserve to dream? No! We would tell them to aim for the stars!

    So, in your mind (or if you forget or are anal like me - write it down ;), tell yourself your dreams and goals. Try making a plan. You are so special, you are so worth it! If no one else tells you today/tonight, then I will - YOU ARE WORTHY! I firmly believe that you deserve to soar like the eagles. Now start thinking or writing...

    Care to share? Here's the place for some encouragement - even if it's to tell me that tomorrow you're going to have a shower. YAY! I am your number one fan!!! GO TEAM YOU :)

    Lots of love, Judi.

    #MentalIllness #Dream #goals

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    No Matter what your dreams are, Keep dreaming. #Dream #Writing #WritingTips #WritingThroughIt

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    I don't want to turn off the light and lie down to go to sleep because of the nightmares I've had the past week. I wake up super tense and curled up in the fetal position with a feeling of terror. Last week was quite stressful which might have triggered them. And now I have to go back to work tomorrow after the weekend, so I feel the stress building again. I'm so tired but so afraid.

    #nightmare #Dream #Upallnight #Stress #MentalHealth #Depression #Anxiety #PTSD #SideEffects

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    What CAN you do today?

    Stuck in a 5 day flare. Thoracic Outlet Syndrome affects my entire left side and makes it hard to move. Yesterday, I could barely walk through the mall without stopping and leaning against a wall. It causes such unbearable pain, stiffness and fatigue.

    They say get out of the house when you don’t feel well, it will make you feel better. Sometimes, it's better to rest and stay home. I’m still only able to walk small distances today.

    Days like these are mental days. Where my hands and body don’t work well enough to do much at all.

    Too much time spent in my head day. Watching what others can do.

    Fighting back tears day, and trying to be strong.

    Dreaming day. Dreaming of the day I can be more than this.

    Angry day. Angry that I can’t do what I’m dreaming of.

    These days I need people to distract me, but I’m so in my head it’s hard to pretend I’m ok.

    Yesterday, I was able to look up and take this photo, even though I was stuck in the chair because I could no longer walk through the mall.

    Today, I was able to make this post.

    What CAN you do today?
    #teetheredcord #ThoracicOutletSyndrome #ChronicIllnessEDS #EhlersDanlosSyndromes #MentalHealth #ChronicPain #ChronicFatigue #RareDisease #Fibromyalgia #Chronicpainsucks #chronicpainlife #chronicpainawareness #chronicpainartist #Hope #Dream #fibrowarrior #ehlersdanlostype3 #EhlersDanlosSyndrome


    A dream about my ex

    I just woke up from a dream about my ex. He is a narcissist. I have had no contact with him since 2013, but somehow he shows up in my dreams. I hate this!
    It feels like I can't fully break free from him even after such a long time. How is he still in my head?? How can I get him out?
    Not the start to 2022 that I wanted...

    #Dream #nightmare #Ex #NarcissisticPersonalityDisorder #narcissisticabusesurvivor #EmotionalAbuse #mentalabuse #spiritualabuse #Trauma #Depression #Anxiety #PTSD

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    Do you daydream?

    I always found the term ‘daydream’ funny. While it doesn’t have to only mean you have them during the day, it sounds silly to say you’re daydreaming at night.

    Do you find yourself daydreaming? If so, what do you daydream about? I’ll start below ⬇️

    #Upallnight #Insomnia #Anxiety #Sleep #SleepDisorders #Painsomnia #Depression #Daydream #Dream


    A dream within a dream #Grief #parentalloss

    I am a lucid dream and it’s uncontrollable. I don’t sleep well #ADHD and when I have these “dream within a dream” they are so challenging and emotional. I don’t get it.

    I dream, initially, that my Mom wanted nothing to do with me—I assume a way for my brain to deal with her death is feeling abandoned. (I feel like she gave up but I know she didn’t. There is evidence for both beliefs.)

    I spent 18-24months after my Mother died having this progressive dream of her having returned but hardly interacting with me. I even had to watch her die again but did get to say goodbye. Doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt. This was 2012-13. She died December 2011.

    All I wanna do is cry, like ugly, snot nose gross cry but I have responsibilities that currently prevent me from just sitting with my emotions and body. #AnxietyAttack #Dream #reparenting

    Being a parent who has lost their parent who has children too make life so emotionally challenging. Somehow I do it. #ADHD ‘s object permanence issues, I think, allow me to ignore it since I’ve changed location and association.

    I’m not sure I even understand what I’m saying.

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    Monday, Monday!

    Just thinking of y’all. I know Monday’s can feel like a delicious fresh start. But, I also know it can fill us with dread and doom.

    I just wanted to say I’m proud as heck of all of you for making it through the night and having the courage to keep moving this morning.

    We have eachother and we have the best gallows humor around! And that’s gotta count for something, right!? :)

    #monday #rideordie #WeCanDoIt #Dream #tinysteps #Rise #Hope #OneMoreDay