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A little over a week ago I drove my boyfriend to the ER at midnight because he was having suicidal ideations. The whole time I was quiet and calm and I smiled at the nurses and said thank you. I held his hand and comforted him and made bad jokes. I was calm and peaceful because he needed me to be. I sat there all night while he slept. By 3pm the next day we were in my home (we don’t live together) so I could monitor him, and he was asleep again. I however, was exhausted and sleep deprived and my anxiety was ramping up. He was asleep and safe and had a treatment plan. And just like that I didn’t need to be calm for him so I was not. By that night I was so anxious that I spent nearly two hours getting in and out of bed fighting off anxiety attacks. I was panicking about his safety and he was right there next to me, asleep. He is in PHP now and doing much better. Yet, when I don’t hear from him for awhile - my mind goes straight back to the way I felt when he told the nurses he had a plan. In seconds, I’m hearing it all again, but now I don’t have the adrenaline of being leaned on — so I just disintegrate. It feels so selfish to react like that when he is the one who needed help. I did not go through the trauma, he did. And he is fine so I should be too,right? Not to mention I have no idea how to support him besides smiling and listening.
Anyone with similar experiences please chime in. #si #SignificantOther #SuicidalThoughts #Support #ER #Relationships #Trauma #AnxietyAttack #Anxiety

I suffer from both anxiety and depression, pretty sure my anxiety fuels my depression. I have more physical symptoms of nausea, vomiting, hot flashes but most GI upset symptoms. This makes it very hard for me to travel. Distances as short as 1 hour are even hard for me. I have been in a relationship for nearly 3 years. My significant other was aware of my anxiety before we had started dating but I don’t think they realized how bad it truly is. I have started trying to go places over the past year and a half that I would have never done before. However as much as I appreciate my significant other trying to push me to do things I want to do, sometimes somethings just aren’t ready to be done. I’ve tried explaining that certain things take more time for me or certain things are harder for me. Almost every time my significant other wants me to go somewhere out of my comfort zone, I try my best. But when it’s something that I know that I am not ready for it starts an argument, that I am not pushing myself hard enough, I am not trying hard enough, or that I am holding them back... I have never told them that they can not go somewhere without me. I encourage them to do everything they want to do, even if it’s something that I can’t do with them. But how do you make someone understand ? How do you make them understand that you are trying your hardest? You push yourself everyday? That just because you can’t do something doesn’t mean you are trying to hold them back ? I’m just tired of the arguing. It’s gotten to a point where I dread the conversation of potentially trying to go anywhere because I am afraid of their disappointment in me, or me being an inconvenience or being accused of being “selfish” ? How do others help their significant others deal with being in a relationship with someone who has different limitations ?? How do you set boundaries without making them feel like you don’t care about their feelings? How do you explain that you aren’t trying to be selfish? #Anxiety #Livingwithanxiety #SignificantOther #CopingWithAnxiety #Understanding #boundaries #lost

What if their #So #SignificantOther made them discard their friend?

Is this #discard more often originating with your #friend or their #So #SignificantOther ? Is this a sign of a #ToxicRelationships ?

I’m not sure how much Time they are going to need or what i can do to help. They asked for space and i gave it to them but I feel like it might be a while before I hear from them.

I have been dating a really wonderful guy for about 4 months now. We met in college and got to see each other almost every day. We are lucky and both realized what a luxury it was. But now school is out and we're both away-- he is staying an hour away from me for a month then going home (4.5 hours away). I have been lucky enough to get to see him on the weekends but I still miss him so much that I feel like I can't possibly make it to the next weekend without him and my depression has been worse than it has been since I met him. (So bad Im worried Ill scare him off even though he understands).