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You cannot heal by going back to what hurt you.

Just read this and it resonates with me. Too often people long for and sometimes even return to abusive situations. I know I longed for the abusive environment. I know how hard it is to break that trauma bond but it is possible. It is very painful but it can be done. Remember as painful as it gets, don’t go back to what hurt you. There’s nothing there for you. Your future is ahead of you. So keep going seek help if you must but always keep pushing forward. You got this. Just wanted to share this with you all.

#Abuse #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #PTSD #BipolarDisorder #EmotionalAbuse #SexualAbuse #Trauma #childhoodtraumasurvivor #selfharmsurvivor #suicideattemptsurvivor #Healing

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Words are the silence that can be spoken

After reading Tara Westover’s “Educated”, Paula Fox’s “Borrowed Finery”, and Alan Cumming’s “Not My Father’s Son”—Jeanette Winterson’s “Why Be Happy When You Can Be Normal?” seemed a natural progression of my literal literary journey through other people’s dysfunctional families.

Particularly as I have one of those myself.

I often find myself, leaning into that darkness; conducting a field study of sorts; of the lived experiences of others, to compare against my own. Desperately searching for clues as to how they managed to escape the chaos of familial dysfunction intact, or at least semi intact.

Doesn’t trauma do that to us all? We seek out answers, explanations, and ways to escape?

I always found my escape hatch in books, and I can tell that this one is going to be a helluva immersive read. To wit; I’m only on page 8 and already find myself awed by this excerpt:

“Truth for anyone is a very complex thing.
There are so many things that we can’t say, because they are too painful. We hope that the things we can say will soothe the rest, or appease it in some way. Stories are compensatory. The world is unfair, unjust, unknowable, out of control.

When we tell a story we exercise control, but in such a way as to leave a gap, an opening. It is a version, but never the final one. And perhaps we hope that the silences will be heard by someone else, and the story can continue, can be retold.

When we write we offer the silence as much as the story. Words are the part of silence that can be spoken.”

Looks like my weekend plans are sorted! What is your current read? 📚

#MightyBookClub #BookExcerpt #Books #Childhoodtrauma #PTSD #Trauma
#Anxiety #Reading #Early Childhood Trauma
#ChildhoodAbuse #EmotionalAbuse
#EmotionalNeglect #EmotionalHealth

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If you’re a survivor of sexual violence, share a hopeful message with someone who is trying to heal.

Are you a sexual assault survivor? What’s a message of strength, healing, and light you’d share with someone who is deep in the throes of darkness?

In honor of RAINN Day this week (April 14), our editors would love to compile a story full of these messages from our Mighty community.

Thank you in advance for sharing a piece of your heart with someone who needs it. I’m so, so glad you’re here.

❤️ P.S. If you’re struggling and need resources today (or any day), please visit RAINN’s website here:

#SexualAssault #SexualViolence #Anxiety #Depression #CPTSD #PTSD #Trauma #childhoodtraumasurvivor #Survivor #RapeSurvivors #CheckInWithMe #SuicidalThoughts


Who has had to stop working due to your CPTSD symptoms? How do you know when it's time and not just the need for a career change? #CPTSD #Trauma

I feel like I'm able to handle stress much better than years past yet I get tired and/or overwhelmed by stress easily. I can't imagine making it through a work shift no matter the type of work. I'm having a hard time excepting that fact. It's scary to admit. #traumahealing #childhoodtraumasurvivor #narcsurvivor #narcassisticparents #PTSD #Anxiety #Depression #abilitytowork

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Always remember to be kind to yourself!

I do hope you carry this with you in the week ahead. Too often we forget we deserve to go easy on ourselves. You've been through so much and healing takes time.
How is everyone doing? 💕 We are here to listen anytime you need us ♥️ #Childhoodtrauma #ChildAbuse #childhoodtraumasurvivor #CPTSD


#PTSD #PTSDSupportAndRecovery #childhoodtraumasurvivor

My life with PTSD feels like a scratched DVD sometimes. Skipping scenes, rewinding scenes, freezing in one moment. I care very much about what I do both at work and home and it hurts that others may see me as careless because of my bad memory or rude because I only catch half of the words in the conversation. I’m working on grounding methods and talking to a therapist but it’s hard not having anyone in your life who has experienced what you are. I’m trying really hard and I receive comments from family and friends asking when I’m going to “get over it” or saying “why don’t you just pay attention”. It’s so hard on my confidence. Is there anyone here also going through this?

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Checking in #Childhoodtrauma #ChildAbuse

I wanted to give you all a big virtual hug 🤗 I know, for me, this is a hard day. Just remember you are stronger than you know 💕 I am here if you need are you today? #childhoodtraumasurvivor #ChildAbuse


What would you like from this group?

I wanted to take a moment to let all of you know our DMs are always open. If you have an idea, a topic, a story you think would be great for this group please share or let me know if you are unsure. I want all of us to be getting the most from each other, all of you are important 💕 #childhoodtraumasurvivor #Early Childhood Trauma #ChildAbuse

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This is an important lesson for all women (and people) of all ages:

If someone makes you feel uncomfortable or pressured into doing something for *their* comfort and happiness... Get away from them as fast as you can.

I learned this lesson the hard way - I was groomed and molested throughout my childhood for well over a decade by a close family member - I learned how abusers (and their enablers) use our emotions and empathy against us to get their way. So if my nightmare experience throughout childhood can help save at least one person from being abused by a so called family member or friend... Good.

Also, never be afraid to speak out and tell the truth, especially when they try to silence you. The shame doesn't belong to you, the shame belongs to the abuser, and to those complicit enablers who help protect the abuser by keeping you quiet.

Those people I should've felt safe with guilt tripped and manipulated me with religious "forgive and forget" tactics. They used my faith and loyalty against me to insure my abusers future. Now, I know better than to have trusted them, because there is no way I would do that to a victim of abuse. Especially if they were my child. Why should I be considerate and keep their flimsy reputations intact when my abuser didn't exactly have any consideration enough to stop traumatizing me all of those years ago when I said, "No!" Only the abuser and their enablers benefit from your silence - so be loud.

Trauma should never be ignored, it has to be addressed and worked through or the scars will never heal. I still have PTSD from my traumatic childhood experiences, and because I didn't have the support of family that I should've had then, it's been a difficult journey towards healing. But I am no longer afraid to speak out. I didn't ask to be abused, but I did ask for help from my family... They chose to protect the abuser. And so, after years of feeling numb, worthless and broken, I eventually chose to protect myself by setting boundaries and cutting ties with those who were complicit. That was my choice, and I don't have any regrets.

If you've been abused and assaulted, you have every right to hold the perpetrators accountable for their transgressions against you - or not. Abusers choose to be abusive, so never question bringing their shame to light. And don't ever feel obligated to stay in touch with an abuser, or their complicit enablers simply because they are family members, or so called friends. Your health, happiness and safety is more important than being nice to them. And you are worth protecting with personal boundaries. Prioritize your safety over being 'nice'. Always.

#metoo #abusesurvivor #gaslight #manipulation #EmotionalAbuse #post Childhood Abuse #PTSD #CPTSD #adolescent sexual molestation trauma #religious Trauma #childhoodtraumasurvivor