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    You cannot heal by going back to what hurt you.

    Just read this and it resonates with me. Too often people long for and sometimes even return to abusive situations. I know I longed for the abusive environment. I know how hard it is to break that trauma bond but it is possible. It is very painful but it can be done. Remember as painful as it gets, don’t go back to what hurt you. There’s nothing there for you. Your future is ahead of you. So keep going seek help if you must but always keep pushing forward. You got this. Just wanted to share this with you all.

    #Abuse #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #PTSD #BipolarDisorder #EmotionalAbuse #SexualAbuse #Trauma #childhoodtraumasurvivor #selfharmsurvivor #suicideattemptsurvivor #Healing

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    Surviving abuse has taught me that you can still be a decent person. You do not have to become what hurt you. You are not what happened to you. You are more than that. Before I got help, I was angry and distrustful. You can be happy and still have bad days. You can thrive despite what happened to you. There are opportunities for growth. I am still grappling with coming to the realization that I have come this far. I still have my days where I get scared, have breakdowns and get depressed. I am not fully healed yet but I have come a long way. There are so many lessons that I have learned that have helped me. I can be loved and accepted despite my past, I can't change people, and my worth is not dependent on others. I still have nightmares sometimes and get triggered but I can handle it better now than in the past. I have the ability to create the life I want. I am trying to be more positive and grateful. I wrote this to share with you all that you can be hurt but still shine. I hope this inspires someone today.

    #BipolarDisorder #PTSD #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #SexualAbuse #SexualAssault #SuicideSurvivor #selfharmsurvivor #Hope #Life #Inspiration #Lessons #Asthma #Motivation


    Does anyone else feel stuck in their healing process?

    Sometimes I make breakthroughs and other days I’m stuck. #PTSD #Abuse #abusesurvivor #suicideattemptsurvivor #selfharmsurvivor



    Each day is a new opportunity to learn about yourself.

    Today I learned that my Disorganized/Fearful attachment style and my people pleasing are connected. That my trauma driven behaviors are actually the result of my attachment style.

    If you are curious and want to know what your style is, there are tons of quizzes online.

    I suggest taking one. It changed my perspective and helped me to understand what I need to change. I need to be more trusting and more mindful in my relationships.

    Slowly, I am learning what drives my behaviors and the more I know the more I can heal.

    #Trauma #PTSD #Abuse #AbuseSurvivors #suicideattemptsurvivor #selfharmsurvivor #Healing #learning #attachment

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    To that one.

    Have you ever heard of the starfish story?
    A man was walking along a beach one morning after a large storm the night before, the storm had washed alot of debris and star fish ashore. As he walked along he saw a little girl running along picking starfish up and throwing them back into the ocean, then she would run and pick another up and repeat. There were so many starfish on the beach the man didn't understand what the little girl thought she trying to do so he approached her.
    "Little girl what are you doing"? Asked the man, "Saving the starfish"! As she threw another into the ocean, "but you can't save them all so why bother, what diffrence does it make"? Exclaimed the man genuinly perplexed.
    "To that one it does" the little girl simply said as she threw another starfish in.

    To that one.

    So, to that one person who needs to hear it, you are wonderful and shine so bright in a dull world, do not dim your shine for the sake of others and always remember, YOU MATTER.
    #Depression #EUPD #Emotionally unstable personality disorder #sad #Anxiety #Anxiety #PTSD #ThoughtfulHumans #TheMighty #BPD ##BorderlinePersonalityDisorder ##Suicide #Selfharm #selfharmsurvivor

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    I never thought I would see this day😊 Read if you woke sad❤️

    As you can see, 6 months ago I was posting some thoughts on this app. I was extremely depressed, anxious and lost. I never did think I would make it to the end of the summer of 2019.
    It’s now March 2020, I am seeing an amazing therapist which I saved up for, I have new friends who make every day worth living, I have a great mindset, and I no longer feel responsible for the people around me. There’s one thing about this transformation though.
    It took me 6 months.
    Yes, I got to rock bottom, I went past rock bottom. But you can see where I am now, can’t you? Of course I have moment of ptsd flashbacks of self harming and experiencing my old best friend attempting suicide.
    But I know how to deal with it , and it’s completely normal.
    If you are going through something in your life right now; depression, anxiety, suicidal thoughts, self harm. Please take a minute to stop and breath.
    I’ve been where you are right now. It feels like there’s no way out, nobody understands , you can’t leave the house for your own safety and for the protection of others.
    Please take these 5 words from someone who’s been there, been at rock bottom, been on the brink of ending their life and seeing their best friend dying everyday , somone who got panic attacks from the thought of leaving the house, self harming because i knew that I was still alive when I saw the blood.
    You will, get through this.
    It takes time, it will come when your heart is ready, when your soul has found that little light that allows it to breath a little. I wish you the best , Hopfully you get the same chance I do in life. I wish you the best❤️
    #Anxiety #Depression #Takeyourtime #selfharmsurvivor #Selfharm #MentalHealth #PanicAttacks #BeStrong