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    Sorry about the caps.
    I have a question; how do I "let it go"?????
    You hear that a lot too?
    "You need to let it go and...."
    Ugh HOW???
    People have said that my entire life.
    "Letting go is like forgiveness, you do it for yourself, not them"
    Okay...HOW??? To both things, how do I forgive and let go.
    I have a lot of pent up resentment, and anger, it comes out in bad ways.
    Worse when I am on PMDD.
    So, how do I get rid of it, or "Let it go"?
    It's not like it is a ball, or rock, or broken toaster. It is in my frigging head and heart.
    My mom accuses me of being mad all the time. YOU THINK!? Not only did you program me to belive that none of what I wanted was possible, but you also made me your care taker from the time I was 16!!!
    How do I "Let go" of everything you have said and done to manipulate me into being your whipping child until you realized the one you babied and preened turned into an @$$.
    This is the only place I know where I can find answers, so please, let me know how to let go.
    #resentment #Depression #Midlifecrisis #anger #Grief #Pain #forgive

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    Getting through PTSD & Trauma #PTSD #trama #ChildAbuse #forgive

    I am working with a therapist for this but I was wondering if there is anything that you all use to help you get through these horrible memories and leave them in the past. I have been doing EMDR with her and that does help some. I am just trying to get to leave the past in the past so I can enjoy my future

    #PTSD #trama #ChildAbuse #forgive

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    Forgive Yourself

    Choose each day to forgive yourself, you are human, imperfect, learning and growing.
    There is no sense in punishing your future by living in the mistakes of your past. Forgive yourself for not knowing what you didn’t know before you learned it.
    Take heart in the knowledge, strength, and growth opportunities each trial inevitably teaches you--and move on.
    There is no one you will talk to more than yourself. Be kind, loving, understanding, compassionate, and supportive.
    Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship that you have.
    And remember:
    🌻 The past can’t be changed, but the future is full of possibilities.
    ✋🏻 Opinions don’t define your reality.
    🤗 Everyone’s journey is different
    🤔 Overthinking will usually lead to sadness.
    😊 Happiness is found within.
    💭 Your thoughts affect everything about you.
    😁 Smiles are contagious.
    🫶🏻 Kindness is free.
    👌🏻👉🏻 It’s okay to let go and move on.
    🥠 People usually end up with what they truly deserve in the end.
    ⏳ Have patience. Things get better with time.
    🫂 Hugs!!


    Forgiveness = Freedom & Peace

    I’m sry this is a lil long. I am 52 but the baby in my fam. 3 brothers and 1 sister who passed. One of my brothers who is the only married one said they considered me more like their daughter then a sister.
    We were extremely close talked on the phone all the time sleep overs & vacations. I then got sick Lyme twice then diagnosed with fibromyalgia.
    I unfortunately was not able to work any longer. I had loved working and loved my career. My company ended up laying off 90% of my department. I was absolutely crushed. At the time I had needed back surgery and ended up getting an anterior lumbar fusion.

    When I spoke with my brother he felt that I could and should still work. He and my sister in law started saying that I should lose weight (which they had not known I has lost a considerable amount of weight)
    Then they went on to say I should stop drinking which again because I had quit smoking due to the surgery I also stopped drinking.
    They then said A LOT to me a lot of things that were out of line. They then proceeded to say the most painful thing to me.
    Which was they hoped that I wouldn’t get approved for disability. Now at the time my husband was awaiting his disability as he was hurt on the job. So financially we were struggling. (Sry so long).

    So fast forward 10 years I have been on disability and my brother and sister in law do not speak. They told my mother they do not know why we’re not speaking or why I’m mad at them. I think my biggest pet peeve of the whole thing is they said they looked at me as a daughter. Yet they never reach out. We have had a few special occassions were my daughter wanted them there, so we invited them.
    They have never invited us to anything. I don’t want to be petty and want to do the whole forgive and forget but the question is I am worthy are they worthy of my forgiveness or can as I have my own family my husband and daughter. Write them off as I feel they did me ?
    Whatcha ya guys think

    #fibromyalgia #fibrowarrior
    #fibrofighter #sickofbeingsick
    #chroniclymediseaseawareness #lymesucks #LymeWarrior #lyme
    #invisibleillness #spoonielife #chronicpainsucks #epsteinbarr
    #ra #rheumatoidarthritis #ic/BPS #interstitialcystitis #ptsd #sciatica #pituitarytumor #nervedamage #ankylosingspondylitis #LymeDisease #LymeWarrior #chronicpain #chronicpainsufferer #ddd #migraines
    #immunocompromised #forgive #familydisfunction
    #InvisibleDisability #DisabilityBenefits #anteriorlumbarfusion
    #LymeDisease #ChronicLymeDisease

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    Late diagnosis - where were my parents?

    Traumatic childhoods are always difficult to deal with. After years of therapy finally someone diagnosed me with autism and adhd. Without going into too much of my symptoms, I keep wondering if my family had treated me better, they would have spared me some trauma? if they knew that I wasn’t a ‘bad’ child but my brain worked just differently. I keep wondering if I there was a way to not go though pain since 40 years. What if my parents just paid a little bit of attention and I got a diagnosis. Would I be contempt now? Is forgiveness possible? #ADHD #Autism #neurodivergent #Misophonia #Depression #Anxiety #forgive #Parents

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    How can you forgive and forget family?

    How can you forgive and forget family? They are bitter, rude, judgy, and do nothing wrong ( I do everything wrong) or always play the victims. I want to forgive them to have a family. My kids miss their cousins and my parents want their children to get along, but I feel like nothing will change or if it does it will only change for a small time. - What do I do? forgive and forger or move on? #forgive and forget



    Today to start of the week...I pray and hope for Abundance. Share with one another. BARTER...DO THE RIGHT THING FOR ALL OF US. It doesn't make sense to be the richest person in the grave. #Share #Hope #forgive

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    The Challenge of Forgiveness#forgive #PeaceOfMind #Empathy

    Who hasn’t been hurt by life events? Probably nobody. Maybe you or someone you love has suffered a heartbreaking loss, a debilitating injury, or a serious illness. No matter the circumstances, deep wounds can lead to anger, resentment and cynicism.

    Physical and emotional burdens can accompany our painful experiences prompting serious questions: “Why is this happening? How can I forgive the fact that my child has cancer? What has our family done to warrant such unfairness? Yet clinging to bitterness sets us up to pay emotionally, and spiritually.

    We live in an imperfect world, and sometimes forgiveness feels impossible. Whether we lose a job, endure a divorce, or face a critical diagnosis, we constantly encounter unresolved conflict in need of forgiveness.

    When we are able to make peace with the reality of this imperfect world, we essentially forgive that reality for being what it is. One could say that we agree to coexist with imperfection by not letting it consume us.

    To forgive has many emotional and spiritual implications. It also means different things to different people and is a central value in many faith traditions. However, to forgive does not excuse the loss or harm done but does help loosen its grip on the recipient of that loss or harm.

    In my experience, to forgive is to shift from anger to empathy and to a new outlook on life. This releases us, not by ignoring the rough passages or pretending everything is fine. Instead, it opens a path to coexisting with life as a whole rather than focusing on a single painful event.

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    Describe a time where you had to ask someone for forgiveness #52SmallThings

    Everyone is bound to make a mistake at some point in their lifetime. Being able to ask for forgiveness takes courage, and if you have ever had to do that we are proud of you for taking that step. What is something you had to ask someone for forgiveness for?

    #MentalHealth #ChronicIllness #Disability #Parenting #RareDisease #Anxiety #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #BipolarDisorder #Depression #Trauma #PTSD #ChronicPain #Migraine #Autism #EhlersDanlosSyndrome #Fibromyalgia #Selfcare #Forgiveness #forgive #DistractMe #CheckInWithMe