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    Set In Stone

    Regardless of how other people see you, respond to you, act toward you, even how you feel about yourself, know that your inherent value is NOT affected by it. Your value comes from the fact that YOU are YOU, you can never be replaced, and that if you are still breathing, you are still here for a purpose.

    I say this as I, myself, deal with the above and have absolutely no idea why I have been kept here on earth. I feel like I have no purpose and that I can't possibly be used in a way that offsets the burden I feel I am. Even if I, myself, don't believe it, it doesn't mean it isn't true.

    I am right there with you. I feel ya.

    #TheMighty #MightyTogether #value #purpose #Burden #Belief #Perspective

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    Have you ever been called a name by a bully? I used my nurses’ training, study of wholistic wellness that included the knowledge, skills, attitudes for stress resiliency & management. My Child Care Health studies helped me go be a more helpful school nurse when kids were dealing with bullies. It was the CDC’s “ACEs Study” that helped me realize that kids who are being some version of abused, exploited, neglected, lied about or lied to become the bullies. When we can help connect the bullies to the help they need to process their trauma, we can help them break free of the downward spiral that has physical, intellectual, mental, social, spiritual, occupational, & financial consequences. It is more fun to dress up as a “Fairy Godmother, Toothfairy” and ask people what they need, want, wish or pray for. Then I can tap into my training like any conscientious nurse, social worker, mom, grandmother, friend would do to walk along side as you are connected to a solid, helpful action step.

    People who make a lot of money selling prescription or street drugs, or receiving the insurance premiums, deductibles, co-pays, and self-pays like that status quo & called me a name with the initials “PB”. I will give you a clue, instead of being insulted I embraced it and replied, “You are right! I must apply every bit of psychology that I have learned from very smart people & the best TV shows of Private Investigators that solved crimes that others couldn’t. You can also bet that I will turn into a superhero & fly into action to protect the Underdogs & any pups that are being tricked & lead astray to be abused, exploited, neglected, & abandoned!”

    What are you wishing for? #Hope #Perspective #Empowerment #attitude #Humor #whatsYourWish

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    #Insomnia or Awake After Enjoying The Day? #Perspective Matters ❤️

    Wow! What a day! I really had fun today, well, yesterday. I went outdoors and enjoyed a day of exploring my local area! This has been a hard task during the past six months. But????? Why I am still awake at 4:00AM? I don’t have a clue. But once again, no worries, I am simply enjoying this quiet time of the day. And I think it is because I am finally embracing my medical leave because of this breakthrough.

    Two days ago, I woke and my mind was flipping thoughts like crazy! I tried to pray but my thoughts kept shifting; this is my new norm I often experience after sustaining my fifth concussion a year ago. But this time, as my thoughts flipped from one thing to the other, I had a thought: write each of your thoughts down. So I did. And within five minutes, I had recorded nearly twenty thoughts!!! And after writing every one my thoughts and feelings, which lasted twenty minutes, I was exhausted but….RELIEVED!!! 😁

    So, I feel as if a new me has emerged from that moment on! The multiple thoughts stemmed from me viewing other’s lives on social media sites. But those thoughts faded after I jotted them down, in real time. Why? Because I realized, once I wrote down each anxious thought, how those thoughts and feelings were all based on comparisons: me comparing my life to posted photos of others, which are really my assumptions of other people’s lives. And those comparisons and assumptions have led me into a maze of fractured emotional thoughts AND anxiety.

    Therefore, shortly after listing those many thoughts, I started enjoying my day. And now, after today’s fun activities, I am still awake because I am not emotionally overwhelmed from wasting time lamenting over my real life compared to posted snapshots of other people’s lives. Remember, those comparisons and assumptions are based on ONE SECOND of a person’s life captured by a camera.😉! But most importantly, those comparisons and assumptions are deceiving and very deceptive.

    So, I will now address such thinking, instantly, before succumbing to the negative emotions that accompany my deceptive assumptions and comparisons. We are not on this earth to live like others. No! Instead, we are here to be our #unique selves impacting lives we encounter with our special personalities, skills, and talents.❤️

    #BeYourself #conquer your #mindset , for you ARE #TheMighty person #created for #good #works !

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    Reframing: Looking Back on Past Experiences to Change the Future

    I had a therapy session today that went really well. We focused on the topic of reframing and thought challenging. I never really practiced my therapy skills before (I'll admit) but now that I have to face a toxic person I will use all the skills I have. Besides this, I often undermine myself and my past successes. Though I call myself an abuse survivor I don't have the best self esteem.

    Reframing has taught me that situations depend on how you look at them. Yes I take reality into account and recognize that the toxic person will be there and that may lead to a PTSD response. Though this is true, my therapist also said that anxiety is there to tell us something but we can acknowledge it is there but also acknowledge that there are other goals. Like mine is to speak my truth.

    Shortly after the abuse came to light I was abandoned at a motel for a week. I wasn't sure if I could get through it at the time. I was afraid I would be hurt again. By the grace of God I managed to survive. I got through it even when I thought I couldn't. I survived the abuse in general and that's something. Yet I have to reframe my anxious thoughts because for me, that leads to spiraling.

    I can look back on those past experiences and say to myself I can do hard things. Confronting this particular toxic person will be triggering but it's just another hard thing I have to do. I'm sure there are hard things that you've overcome too.

    Never degrade yourself, be proud of your accomplishments. Reframe if you must. As always stay safe. What are you proud of? There's always something to celebrate. It doesn't have to be anything huge, whatever you accomplished is good enough. I believe in all of you. Thanks for believing in me. I appreciate it.

    #SexualAbuse #EmotionalAbuse #PTSD #Perspective #Therapy #wisdom #BipolarDisorder #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #Hope #celebrate #Life #abusesurvivor #MightyTogether

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    If just getting through the year is simply all you have to be proud of then that should be your biggest win

    As everyone scrolls through their reels in preparation to post their yearly highlights, some people won’t have much to glance at. But does this really mean that they’ve had a shitty year? Or that they have no worth, or nothing to be proud of? I don't think so.

    The thing is, I truly believe that it doesn’t matter what your camera reel looks like - whether you’ve got images of flashy holidays and fancy cars or simply no pics at all, it is not a reflection of your year or life for that matter. Everyone is on their own journey and moving at their own pace, so try not to compare. Comparing your own progress (or lack thereof) to someone else’s is only going to get you down. So try keep your eye on your own journey. Embrace your flaws and any weirdness and quirks you may have, because hey lets face it we all weren't born Beyonce.

    Whether you know it or not, you have already survived so much in life, and that is worth acknowledging. Not everyone comes out of their challenges and setbacks stronger and the fact that you did not let them defeat you is something to be proud of. Not everything in life is a movie but I do believe there is always something to sing about.

    Your biggest win should be simply getting through the year because there are so many others that did not make it this far for various reasons. Whether you did it with a big smile on your face, tears streaming or a bit of both then give yourself a high fucking five. You made it. If only we all could post that feeling, then social media might be a different place.#NewYear #Gratitude #MentalHealth #Perspective

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    Rigid thinking

    Right now I'm working on an article about dealing with rigid thinking while on the spectrum. What are some experiences you guys have with struggling to take perspective? #Autism #Neurodiversity #Perspective

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    Egogram (Why i left Instagram)

    The last major social media site i used was IG. I am a creative person and i used it for that purpose. I was kind to others, tried to be real in my posts and also supportive of others who were creative people or those who enjoyed my creativity.

    Over time i met artists in a few areas that i have appreciated for years. Many of them were very kind privately but publicly adhered to this role of having to maintain a public facing ego. At the end of the day what mattered was numbers of likes, follower counts and feeling better than others it seemed although privately they were genuinely great people.

    None of this probably is a surprise to anyone here reading this but after awhile i found it difficult to watch other people, creative or not, well known or not, feel as though their self worth depended on like and follower counts. It became incredibly depressing to see people liking their own posts to increase counts to inflate their status in some artificial way. It became so obvious none of it was healthy no matter how many genuine connections could be made there, the platform itself was the issue.

    I had stopped using other major social media long before IG was the only one left. Extremism and negativity that prevails on all sides of every issue became overwhelming and i saw it for how nonsensical and toxic it is.

    Now i spend my time offline mostly or when i'm online viewing content and not participating on platforms that deliver it otherwise (YouTube, private Twitter to see news on things i follow / enjoy / am interested in).

    For years as i struggled with my own mental health i felt as though i was unhealthy, but the more i pay attention, the more i see in the world around me...

    I see how far i've come and how well i'm doing considering the health issues i have. I'm not attacking people online, arguing with strangers, yelling into the void picking fights, and i'm no longer spending my time being depressed by seeing good people get turned into egomaniacs seeking likes and followers on IG.

    I may not be perfect, i may still struggle at times, but as far as i can see in 2022 given life on Earth in general, i'm doing pretty well considering and that's what counts.

    #SocialMedia #Instagram #Ego #MentalHealth #Awareness #selfawareness #OnlineHealth #online #Society #BipolarDisorder #Anxiety #PTSD #Perspective

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    Me making sense of what happened.

    The mind is a really simple vessel, cells fire and synapses connect and blood flows, limbs move, eyes blink, you think. You’re squirrel brain is the amygdala and the cause of primitive anxiety. Fear. We all feel it once in a while like the feeling of not being alone in your own room. Like someone is watching.
    The brain overactive and exhausted sees things, fights invisible ghosts.

    My last episode, I tried to end world war 3. How did I do? An exhausting brain and an over worked mind can lapse from real world and dip into fantasy. That’s what my brain did. I didn’t believe people could die. And I didn’t want to ever again. I was on my front lawn next to a suicide awareness sign, screaming, and things became blurry. The police came, the ambulance came. I hugged a police officer. Screamed peace and love could end war. I could have been shot. He let me hug him. I stepped into an ambulance. I was restrained. My oh my, the squirrel brain can do some crazy things when your mind is overdone and wired for sound. The ambulance screamed with me trying to understand world peace, with me in the stretcher, trying to understand world peace. I spent much of the time in restraints, trying to understand world peace.

    The world is a zip code of chaos. Wherever you go war and take out differ. Where I am the take out is pretty bland and war is 6000 miles away. But in Ukraine, or Nigeria, or Iraq or Egypt or Iran- take out exists and everyone must eat.

    And here I am waving flags of peace. And I have been lucky to never see war. I am not weak for wishing for peace. I am not weak for never seeing war. I am lucky.

    I am grateful. I am grateful that my squirrel brain doesn’t get me shot. And I don’t see war torn streets. I wave flags of peace but have never seen war in these streets. I am not a peace seeker. I have always kept peace, even in my chaos, my grass is green and the kids play in their yards. I am lucky and grateful.

    War is a day dream. And war is sleeping where I live. And the police officer I hugged on my front yard who put handcuffs on my back? Could have been so much worse. Not even in a war, I mean what if I was black?
    I am white. I live in a small town, next to the one I grew up in. It could have been so different. Not Ukraine, what if it was just my pigment of my skin? What if the police had no training in mental illness? What if? I sit here typing this out trying to make sense of all
    of what I have recently witnessed.

    What am I even complaining about? I say I stay perseverent. I am being foolish. When you talk about being black manic and white and manic, my episode sounds stupid. And also generalizing black and white without adding socioeconomic status, and all that. It’s too deep an issue to grasp or for me to truly say I understand. I am just looking back at what happened and I am still embarrassed.

    Sorry, I made this political and racial, I just meant to stay lucid. There is nothing I can say about this. Our heartbeats all beat the same. Our brains all fire different. Our pigment and zip code really make one person free and the other a statistic.

    I just wanted to end the war. An impossiblity. Maybe I just wanted to end the war in my head.

    #Truth #Poetry #Perspective

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    What it feels like to heal from #Childhoodtrauma

    People always say: 'Healing is never linear.'

    This means that some days you feel like you've mastered the thing that's been bothering you for years, only to break down crying about it the next day.

    Don't let anyone tell you how long or how it should look or take to heal. Your #journey is your own!

    Healing takes many forms for me, but the top of my list is:

    1.Your #Perspective becomes your power

    2.Self-care becomes essential, not seen as so selfish anymore

    3.You get that #boundaries are so much more than just saying no

    4.You attune to your inner child crying for attention

    5.You stop ignoring your #intuition

    6.Social situations becomes less stressful

    7.#Depression leaves you alone for longer periods of time.

    8.Creating healthier habits

    9.Procrastinating less and better focus

    10.Eating becomes less triggering

    What else can you add to this list?

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    'A social discipline window'

    In today's class, the teacher brought up this social frame work that is suited for supporting families, in workplaces, social workers.

    A little introspective of how individuals form their understanding of how to communicate with others - maintain relationships with significant others.

    How each of us were brought up as a child or for some of us presenting in our early adulthood. Recognising how it has transformed or shifted us in our adulthood.

    The main take home message in my teacher's explanation was
    In order to be supportive when caring for clients is to adopt the 'WITH' approach.
    It is sustainable.

    The other approaches we must strive to minimise in our supporting role include the following: 'To', 'For' and definitely 'Not'.

    The example he used was parent vs child
    Do you ask your child to clean their room? or alternatively, Do you offer to clean their room together?

    In our caring role, we often want to do it FOR or TO them without consciously thinking about our actions.

    The main goal is to work collaboratively WITH the individual or group.

    #Perspective #mindset #positive