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How to stop being a mommas boy?

Remember you and your mom should have a special bond. But you're not her husband so don't act like it. Emotionally she shouldn't be pulling at you the way she would her husband or boyfriend. Don't let her run guilt trips on you talking about how long she was In labor with you. Saying how she really need a good man the cozying up to you, not cool. Change the subject, walk outside in another room break the cycle. These are Narcissistic tactics. I lived with a narc mom & dad but I broke free. They will say stuff like your not my son anymore, your dead to me. This means the whole family needs to heal. To do this don't call, or visit them minimum 1 year. Let them call you and limit the conversation to 15 minutes and only accept 1 call per every 2 weeks or 1 call per month. If they try to come to your house don't let them in. They are trying to regain control of your mind. Narc moms hate when there son gets a girlfriend or wife. Then she feels her son views her as second best to his wife or girlfriend. Keep your mom out of your head emotionally. Because that is the quickest way to lose your wife and yourself. For any questions on this topic please ask in the comments or direct message. #narcissistic #Mommasboy #Emotionally #MentalHealth

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When alleviating boredom/loved ones need recovery program

They say loved ones need their own recovery program when their loved one achieves sobriety. I am sooo bored at the moment. I’d like to run errands but my car is on the fritz and my #narcissistic #Emotionally /psychologicallyabusivespouse refuses to let me touch his car—because I might ding it. A valid concern if I was still actively misusing substances, but my going-on 20 years of #Sobriety make no difference to this #narcissist . This car scenario has happened countless times; how convenient for my #Emotionallyimmature #Controlling #narcissist !
Sigh. Well, I’m a documentary freak; just found a very inexpensive documentary streaming site—I hope brain-food alleviates my boredom.🤟🏾😀 #substancemisuseisorder #Bipolar1 #GAD #Depression #emotionalpsychologcalabuse
#PTSD #ADDADHD

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#nowrongwaytojournal #findyourownjournalingstyle #GeneralAnxietyDisorder #Emotionally /psychologicalabusesurvivor

I have been journaling for close to 40 years. I value every thought and word, however, as I get older and wiser, I feel absolutely no need to re-read and re-live past decades of pain, depression,anxiety ( before I had even diagnosed! Then, surprise; I had no idea hubby was a narcissistic abuser. So, I’ve tossed 35 years of journals. So easy to do. As I moved along on my journey, the thought of journaling was an instant anxiety, major depression issue—— the more I write, my outlook sometimes plummets. For me, at this point in my journey, I’ve gone back to daily, very positive habit tracker charts, calender; THE BONUS FOR ME: no long sad paragraphs. The focus is on TODAY, ME, CLARITY, FOCUS ON MY DESIRE to learn, grow, self-care—in this very moment!—I came across 3000 Questions About Me. Ugh! But I drag it with me and note the date
on any entry. Recently met a woman from Kentucky; she has the same book and uses it in the same manner I do! We agreed you can discover strengths you didn’t know you had.
What do you think?

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#hopeful #relearning #Emotionally unavailable parents #childhoodtraumasurvivor

I am very thankful to know that I have something that actually has a name (borderline personality disorder ) and I am even more thanful that I can learn how to cope and teach my kids the same. My biggest fear is to be emotionally unavailable to them (and I have in the past before I started all this soul searching). I realized I got tired of the way i was feeling and didn’t understand why little things became so big and it was so hard to snap out of it. My kids give me strength to learn and keep on learning. I just want them to know that I will always try for them. I will never stop trying to look for answers , i will never stop trying to teach them mindfulness , that practice of mindfulness that brings little hoys to our lives. Sorry just venting here. Feel free to elaborate. Being in this community already makes me feel so much better. Thank you all. God bless.

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#PandemicTools

Pandemic had me feeling low; did not want to go back there! My tools are still in front of me! Do the work!
Number 1--allowed myself to get sucked into "talking like we're friends" with my #Emotionally /psycholigicallyabusespouse. Why???? I realized putting out this energy was draining me. Rebuild the boundaries and parameters
#Acceptance /lifeisfluid
#ArtTherapy --tracing pictures the useing markers, paints, whatever! Create a masterpiece!
#organization --anything! Kind of cathartic
#playwithmakeup --i'm a daily makeup wearer. Not leaving the house so might as well play with some dramatic looks
DON'T FORGET WHO YOU ARE--YOU ARE WONDERFUL BEAUTIFUL. IF YOU MAKE IT OUT OF BED IN THE MORNING-----YEAH! IF YOU HAVEN'T MADE IT OUT OF BED YOU ARE STILL WONDERFUL! HOLD ON TO THAT . REPEAT TO YOURSELF "I AM GOOD. I HAVE FAITH. I WILL TAKE CARE OF MYSELF AND SUCCEED .
DON'T COMPARE YOURSELF TO OTHERS. YOUR VICTORIES ARE YOURS!

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Mental illnesses impacting ALL #Relationships - am I bad

Why does my #MentalHealth -or lack of such- my #MentalIllness make everyone mad at me? I don’t choose to #hallucinate I don’t enjoy having to cope with #BPD bouts , #Isolation bouts or #MDD that keeps me asleep for days....
I hope I don’t sound selfish, but I also am the primary Care for my 83 yo grandma... I can’t always leave my room, recently we lost my grandad and our #home and all the things we had in our home, we had to start over and it’s so SCary
Some days If I get time to myself I want to do my own thing; my boyfriend I am sure Is leaving bc our time is little, some days I can’t talk on the phone, some days I’m too tired #Emotionally - but for example he says how bad I treat him, today, becuz I said I need to lay down and take my med and try to not go any deeper into this chaos.
My grandma is upset too telling me to deal with it out in the living room but it’s not safe there.
Am I bad?

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Hi. I am new here. I am a 22 year old girl from India.

I am an #Introvert suffering from #Anxiety and #Depression for the past few months. I have not been able to open up to anyone. But I am #exhausted now, #mentally , #Emotionally and #physically . I cannot tell people what is raging inside me but I cannot hold it in me either. I feel like a living grenade that can blow up any minute now. I hope I can find #Someonetolisten here to with whom I can #Chat and #Share my thoughts with.

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#Believe #Hope #HoldOn #NeverGiveUp #determined #change

Gotta "Believe", as my little ceramic garden frog says!!! I've been where I only hoped for death. I'm near there still. But after 4 days of intense physical #Pain ,that finally affected me yesterday- #Emotionally & #mentally & #spiritually , I'm determined to have a #better #day #today !!!! Damn Straight!!!! Out with intrusive #negative thoughts,& memories. Out with holding onto #resentments I've held on to from those who've badly & painfully done &/or said malicious things to #hurt me. I've been #oppressed by these things too long !!!! I'm "shaking it off - I'm throwing it away. Well,let's be honest. Let's say, I'm not going to quit working on it. I suppose it's a process....but it starts with a decision & succeeds with #Determination & #tenacity !!!! ~·~·~· #PTSD #Memories #Trauma #multipletrauma #Drugged #raped ~·~·~·~......my story is too ugly to continue on this path.....im chucking it all atleast for today. I need a day off from this high degree of continual #Anxiety & #Depression & #Pain . it's affecting my #Sleep & the intensity of pain of my #Fibromyalgia ......im going to "find some #peace of #mind " (a line from a RHCP song. )........today I'm "on #Vacation " ,.......(from my #Problems )😁oh man, but DOES MY BODY #hurt !!! ......Need #rest & ssleep......this morning I have a virtual psychiatric appt .via ZOOM......a "Psych-Eval "- geeze!!! God give me #strength !!!!........ & another cup of #coffee !!!!☕ ☕ ☕ ☕ ☕

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To that one.

Have you ever heard of the starfish story?
A man was walking along a beach one morning after a large storm the night before, the storm had washed alot of debris and star fish ashore. As he walked along he saw a little girl running along picking starfish up and throwing them back into the ocean, then she would run and pick another up and repeat. There were so many starfish on the beach the man didn't understand what the little girl thought she trying to do so he approached her.
"Little girl what are you doing"? Asked the man, "Saving the starfish"! As she threw another into the ocean, "but you can't save them all so why bother, what diffrence does it make"? Exclaimed the man genuinly perplexed.
"To that one it does" the little girl simply said as she threw another starfish in.

To that one.

So, to that one person who needs to hear it, you are wonderful and shine so bright in a dull world, do not dim your shine for the sake of others and always remember, YOU MATTER.
#Depression #EUPD #Emotionally unstable personality disorder #sad #Anxiety #Anxiety #PTSD #ThoughtfulHumans #TheMighty #BPD ##BorderlinePersonalityDisorder ##Suicide #Selfharm #selfharmsurvivor

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