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    Boundaried Prep-List to Deal with Salesmen

    *I am the authority on what's best for me; they are NOT

    *I do not have to purchase anything if I don't want to or am pressured into or feel uncomfortable with

    * I am allowed to take my time to make an informed decision; I do not have to rush/be rushed into an impulsive decision

    * NO MEANS NO, not yes!

    *Awareness of manipulation tactics: $$Upselling$$, telling me what I "need" /"you don't want that" (refer back to #1 : they don't know me & therefore don't know what's best for my needs!), dismissive/minimizing behavior, dominating/controlling behavior, putting me down in some way to make me feel like I NEED the product, (ex: "you have really damaged hair & need this product"), etc

    *Being aware of their behavior & how they make me feel: Are they being pushy, passive-aggressive, demanding, belittling me, devaluing me, trying to control my decisions, ignoring things I say/talking over me, gaslighting me, invalidating me?, DO I FEEL LIKE I'M WALKING ON EGGSHELLS????, etc

    *How am I behaving around them?: AM I FAWNING????? Am I trying to appease them in some way? Do I not want to "let them down?" Am I people-pleasing?

    *Remembering that I AM THE CUSTOMER, not the other way around: they are there to help me, not dictate my decisions

    *Just because they do a sales pitch on a product, does not mean I have to purchase it

    * I am in control of my decisions & I decide what's best for me. I am in charge of my $ and the limits I set for myself

    *Have a plan/research beforehand

    *Awareness of my triggers related to salesmen & the environment I'm going into (social anxiety, agoraphobia, sense of urgency, $ spending, etc)

    *Not being easily swayed by what they say/Holding onto myself & my reality

    *Remembering that I am the one who has to live with my purchase/decision.....if not, I might have delayed anger/frustration about being manipulated/swayed into a purchase I didn't really want or felt pressured into

    *Remembering that dealing with salesmen is sometimes like/can be similar to dealing with abusive, manipulative others & preparing for that......salesmen can be triggering for us

    *Don't be too harsh on yourself if you do make a purchase you didn't want....because the first step to change is awareness of your deep, subconscious patterns & energy-dynamics with people

    *Journal about your interactions with salesmen to learn about your subconscious patterns with them

    *Learn about manipulative sales tactics so you can be prepared for battle lol

    *Be gentle & compassionate with yourself & understand that pattern-breaking takes time.

    *Do something calming beforehand. For me: I pray beforehand about decisions & dealing with salesmen, but I know not everyone does this.....maybe you could do some yoga, meditation, take a walk, etc beforehand to calm your mind & your anxieties

    * Knowing you don't have to the apologize, justify, or overexplain your decisions to salesmen; You don't owe them anything

    *Bring a pen and paper (or notes) to weigh your decisions if it helps! I am learning that I have to do this to best help myself

    * Ask yourself: How can I make this process easier/less stressful for myself?

    *Maybe plan a treat/something fun or indulgent for yourself afterwards?

    * Know that it takes courage to deal with salesmen....you are strong & courageous!

    *Knowing not all salemen are manipulative, but many are......and that it is inherently part of their job to be manipulative....to sell you things, to gain commission, to get you to spend a lot of $, etc.....they have/their employer has their own motives and their behavior is not really personal....they have a goal to attain.....but be aware of predatory behavior!

    #salesmen #sales #Hair #hairsylists #hairappointments #budtenders #dispensary #cardealers #PTSD #CPTSD #agency #dealingwithmanipulators #SocialAnxiety #Agoraphobia #Anxiety #Overwhelm #decisionmaking #trigger #moneyspending #Fear #worry

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    Mindful Monday

    I saw this online and wanted to share. Take what you like, leave what doesn't work for you but at least try out these strategies next time you are feeling stressed or overwhelmed.

    #Mindful #mindset #MindfulMonday #Anxiety #Overwhelm #MentalHealth #grounding #Acceptance

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    Is your phone stressing you out?

    I don't know about you, but I have a love/hate relationship with technology, especially my phone. While I enjoy all the things it does for me, it also demands far too much of my time and has been the source of a lot of trauma triggers for me.

    That's why I LOVED this article by Brittany:

    themighty.com/topic/mental-health/change-ios-settings-mental-health

    Some of these tricks to changing your phone settings could be a game changer for managing the overwhelm that our phones can create.

    Would these help you? Do you have a love/hate relationship with your phone? What other tricks do you use to manage phone stress?

    #Trauma #PTSD #CPTSD #triggers #IPhone #Overwhelm #Anxiety #Stress

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    Surrounded by stuff

    Listen to my conversation with Krista about how decluttering improved her mental health and emotional well-being

    accordingtodes.com/97

    #Clutter #clutterfree #Decluttering #mentalhealthtips #Overwhelm #Anxiety #Irritability #Chores

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    Stressed and not up for celebrating

    It's almost my birthday, but I don't feel like celebrating. These last six weeks have been a series of stressors and now I'm just maxed out. I'm feeling perpetually overwhelmed, anxious, lonely and full of rage. Then I feel bad for even having those feelings, like I'm ungrateful or something. (It’s so fun judging your own feelings 🥺) Some good stuff is happening next week, but it's wrapped in a heavy blanket of stress. I've cried everyday for the last six days....ugh. #Anxiety #Overwhelm #Rage

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    It’s Okay To Take Time To Pause

    I find taking a pause can be beneficial in many different situations.

    ~ When there seems to be so much to do that I don’t know where to start and overwhelm and panic kick in

    ~ When I’m down in the black pit of depression and can’t see a way out

    ~ When I’m in the middle of a flare and it feels like it’s gonna last forever

    ~ When the world seems too loud and every noise feels like a hammer hitting me

    ~ When the kids are pushing me to the edge

    ~ When the pain is so bad and I don’t know if I can cope with it anymore

    I might still be in the same situation afterwards, but taking that pause really helps to refocus my mind and gives me chance to remember that

    ~ I can just take it one thing at a time and it will all get done eventually

    ~ That I’ve been down in that pit before and so I know that there is a way out

    ~ That I’ve got through every other flare and I will get through this one and get back to baseline

    ~ That it’s ok to retreat from the world and it’s noise until I’m ready to deal with it again

    ~ That the kids are living with my illness as well, and they are less emotionally capable of dealing with it so need me to be their calm and safe place

    ~ That I have a 100% success rate at getting through the pain, and while it’s ok to struggle with it I am also strong enough to cope

    We might not be able to change our situation, but taking time to pause can give us the opportunity to reframe it.

    To remind ourselves how strong we truly are.

    To remember that we are warriors!

    #MyalgicEncephalomyelitis #ChronicFatigueSyndrome #Fibromyalgia #FunctionalNeurologicalDisorder #Depression #Anxiety #Overwhelm #Selfcare

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    It’s Okay To Take Time To Pause

    I find taking a pause can be beneficial in many different situations.

    ~ When there seems to be so much to do that I don’t know where to start and overwhelm and panic kick in

    ~ When I’m down in the black pit of depression and can’t see a way out

    ~ When I’m in the middle of a flare and it feels like it’s going to last forever

    ~ When the world seems too loud and every noise feels like a hammer hitting me

    ~ When the kids are pushing me to the edge

    ~ When the pain is so bad and I don’t know if I can cope with it anymore

    I might still be in the same situation afterwards, but taking that pause really helps to refocus my mind and gives me chance to remember that

    ~ I can just take it one thing at a time and it will all get done eventually

    ~ That I’ve been down in that pit before and so I know that there is a way out

    ~ That I’ve got through every other flare and I will get through this one and get back to baseline

    ~ That it’s ok to retreat from the world and it’s noise until I’m ready to deal with it again

    ~ That the kids are living with my illness as well, and they are less emotionally capable of dealing with it so need me to be their calm and safe place

    ~ That I have a 100% success rate at getting through the pain, and while it’s ok to struggle with it I am also strong enough to cope

    We might not be able to change our situation, but taking time to pause can give us the opportunity to reframe it.

    To remind ourselves how strong we truly are.

    To remember that we are warriors!

    #MyalgicEncephalomyelitis #ChronicFatigueSyndrome #Fibromyalgia #FunctionalNeurologicalDisorder #Depression #Anxiety #Overwhelm #Selfcare

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    I feel overwhelmed. I have a lot on my plate for the next week, and no I can't take any of it off. I know getting everything done is possible. I think my overwhelm and anxiety stems from the fear that my AS will kick off and knock me out and I won't manage to do everything I need to do. It is a constant fear for me. This last week AS has kicked off and knocked me out for a few days after a period of relative stability. Every time I get knocked like this, this specific anxiety and overwhelm rears its head again. I know I can only do what I can. I know I must make my health my number one priority, and yet even after 5+ years of this it's at times like these I still fight it. I still stress and worry over it eventhough 99% of how I feel is outside of my control. And I don't know where to go from here. I don't know how to lessen this overwhelm. Prioritising and planning doesn't do it because I can't plan the unpredictability of my health into it.
    #ChronicIllness #Anxiety #Overwhelm #scared #axialSpondyloarthritis #ibs #Disability #unpredictablehealth #HealthAnxiety #EmotionalHealth

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    How do you deal with lots of anxieties at once? #Anxiety #Depression #Overwhelm

    I’m normally good at dealing with my anxieties individually, but I find it hard to function if they all pile on. For example, this weekend my anxieties of being touched, being late, not being liked, going off schedule, alcohol, and public bathrooms were hitting me all at once. I shut down and had an anxiety attack. FYI- I also have a difficult time communicating my anxieties, so if communicating is part of the solution, how do you do so?