Lessons from an accident #1 #Depression #Anxiety #PTSD #Relationships #Trauma #MentalHealth
I am going to post a series of thoughts regarding my accident and things I have learnt during the recovery process.
First some background. 3 years ago I had a triple heart bypass. It saved my life. I resolved that once I had recovered I would do everything I could to respect my reconditioned heart, so I started attending a weekly intense cardio exercise class. On Nov 2nd the group was running intensely into the middle of the gym and then back again. For reasons, nobody knows a lady running opposite to me decided to do a baseball slide and hit my legs. I then was thrown over her and landed hard on the wooden floor.
I knew straight away I had suffered a serious injury and the instructor called an ambulance. It was extremely traumatic for my poor Wife to watch as she had been by my side through 7 surgeries I had undergone in the previous 3 years.
Once at hospital tests shown I had multiple fractures in my tibia and that turned into 2 surgeries and 6 weeks in hospital. I am still not fully recovered but have the finish line in sight. I am still doing 6 hours of hospital rehab every week.
Here is the first thing I have learnt.
Life will throw us curve balls.
Sometimes bad things happen to good people. Sometimes good things happen to bad people. It doesn’t mean we are defective, reckless, being punished or anything else negative.
Sometimes the careless and thoughtless actions of others can hurt us. When asked why she did the baseball slide the lady offered no explanation.
I was encouraged by many people to bring legal action against her. I incurred $10,000 in medical bills. I chose not to for various reasons. One was if I did I could be bringing significant financial stress to a young family. Secondly, it won’t fix my leg. Thirdly, the legal costs of such a system would be a lot more than the 10k of medical bills. Fourthly, I was concerned what it would do to me. Bitterness is drinking poison hope the other person dies. Finally, I want this chapter of my life to be closed asap. A court case could be something that keeps the incident at the forefront of my mind.
Takeaway: The important thing is it’s not so much what happens to you but rather how you respond to what has happened.
