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    Prejudice, discrimination or stereotyping?

    I am a trans man. I was born female and have currently transitioned socially, I dress male, my name is male, I act male.
    Today I called the 'Very' customer service line to enquire about an order. I run through all the questions, full name, DOB, address ect and they kept asking if I was calling on behalf of myself? Then passed me on to another call person who asked all the same info and again asked to talk to Logan I explained that's me this is my account.
    I asked about my issue and they tell me they have closed my account during this phone call I might add and the money I have already paid into the account will be refunded.
    This I have to admit this feels like my first block against services whether it is prejudice, discrimination or stereotyping because to me I was rejected from my account.
    I will admit I am very privileged to be a white person and though I don't discriminate against any colour or religion well maybe against Christianity (too judgy for their own good) but now I have had a small taste of the injustice anyone out of the norm faces.
    #Depression #Anxiety #Agoraphobia #hate #Transman #offended #Discrimination #standtogether #Racism

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    I am a mother of a handsome 2 year old little boy, I went through ppd when he was first born on through his first year and a half of his life.

    one reason it was hard to get out and do things with my little guy was the fear of being "mom shamed"

    I'd like to have a quick rant and maybe a discussion about this.

    I dont understand why people on the internet or in person need to shame moms we are all doing the best we can. we should all be empowering and trying to help eachother, instead I have seen people receiving death threats over things that in my opinion are ridiculous to threaten about.

    if you dont like what you see online keep scrolling. if you see a mom tying to calm their child down in the walmart isle because they are throwing a tantrum give them a reassuring smile as if to say I get you. its it's ok.

    please everyone can we please start empowering eachother instead of tearing others down. If there are other mothers reading this I get some of what your going through I hope you know you are not alone and keep up the great work your babies and children love you for yoyou.

    rant over.

    #Empowerment #Love #endthehate #weareinthistogether #PPD #parentingstough #standtogether

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    The Fat Man Sitting On My Chest

    THE FAT MAN SITTING ON MY CHEST

    So there’s this fat man
    He’s inconsiderate and obstinate
    He sits on my chest every day
    When he’s bored, he flicks my nose.

    So there’s this fat man
    And the weight is starting to get to me
    I tried to be strong but my chest can’t go
    Up at all just down GASP down again

    He’s three times my size
    And he’s getting crumbs everywhere
    I’ve tried to ignore him for so long
    I even tried special breathing techniques

    So that I wouldn’t have to fight him off.

    I’ve avoided eye contact with the fat man
    His unblinking gaze is only interrupted
    By his passing out fully on top of me
    And dead weight is impossible to lift

    So there’s this fat man
    I’ve tried to point him out to family
    Gasping for air
    Trying to show them this intrusion

    But they don’t... see... the fat man.
    But he’s not imaginary!
    I feel him sitting on my chest with
    Every labored breath

    I’ve asked him nicely to sit next to me
    Maybe we can talk
    He will have not of it
    He just continues to sit on my waning frame

    After hearing my ribs crack under the
    Sustained pressure of this
    Fat man sitting on my chest
    I know what I have to do

    I have to fight the fat man
    There is no passive waiting
    He will not budge. He grows and grows
    and my ribs crack crack crack.

    So there’s this fat man
    Sitting on my chest
    And the only way to make him leave
    Is to FIGHT him

    It doesn’t make sense
    It does not follow logically.
    Anxiety is the fat man sitting on your chest
    Trying to crush you slowly, painfully.

    I have never asked the fat man
    Nor welcomed the fat man
    Nor encouraged the fat man
    To sit on my chest.

    I’ve asked and begged him to leave
    Whatever he is, this fat man,
    He likes sitting on my chest
    So I have to fight the fat man.

    I can’t breathe and I am weak
    I’m tired and losing circulation
    I’ve been alone with this fat man
    For so long and I NEED HELP

    And we need our friends and family
    We need our doctors and therapists
    To SEE the fat man sitting on our chests
    So that we can, together, fight him off.

    Because we’ve done everything we can to get this fat man off of our chests, and we can’t do it alone.

    #Anxiety #MightyPoets #IdiopathicHypersomnia #SleepingSickness #Depression #standtogether #fight #ineedhelp #Thefatman #TalkAboutIt #MentalHealth

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    New year, new perspective

    As we let in the new year, we owe it to ourselves to practice and meditate on the things that are good and produce positivity. Easier said than done, but sometimes mental illness makes it harder to distinguish feelings and thoughts from reality. I am trying to live in the present moment and resisting the urge to dwell on the things in the past which trigger my depression and ptsd, or worrying about the future, which produces anxiety or panic. love is where its at. Perfect love casts out all fear. Just breathe and its ok to be whoever you are. Can you look at yourself in the mirror and say "i love you and want the best"? Im working on that for sure. If anyone on this community needs someone to talk to, im here for you. You dont have to feel lonely. #standtogether

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    Finding that inner strength #Anxiety

    Since last December I've suffered huge outbreaks of anxiety affecting both my personal and work life. I've been waiting 5 months for a therapist to be appointed to me but today I hit a wall.

    After weeks and weeks of chasing my gp and being assured they're chasing it, it came to light today they've done nothing. As a result I've had a meltdown at work and been sent home after been deemed unfit to work. My anxiety goes two ways; either I get angry and explode or I shut down. Today I shut down, I've cried, couldn't breath, my eyes were twitching and my mind was empty.

    I am fortunate enough to have the luxury of mental health first aiders at work who took me in a room and together we called an line, the Samaritans and spent an hour on the phone to the works counselling service. I also called back my doctors surgery and lost my temper asking to speak with the practice manager with no joy. I can't tell you how let down I felt by the people who are paid to look out for me. In the end they provided me the number to the high intensity therapist so I could hear for myself they have no appointments but I know they only did this to get me off the phone. I called the therapist and spilt my heart out just to hear it could be 4 more weeks as the gp failed to chase it and upgrade it to an emergency.

    In the end I left work and decided to walk home. I took a scenic route across Manchester quay side and found a peaceful spot to do the 4 2 4 breathing technique, gather my thoughts and get myself into a headspace where I could make a plan. I came to the conclusion I need to change my surgery and made another call to the high intensity therapist to ensure my referral would still stand if I changed surgery to which they confirmed that was fine.

    In less than 5 minutes I got a call back from them with an emergency appointment for tomorrow at 9am. I cried my heart out with relief. I was and am so grateful.

    I wanted to post this as I have learnt today that putting yourself in a headspace where you can think clearly can have a massively positive effect. I calmed myself enough to make a plan and gain the confidence to make a judgement call... it paid off! I now see tomorrow as the start of my recovery after months and months of struggling with the unknown.

    For any of you out there struggling to get help today then try what I've done. It may work, it may not but persevere and keep trying to find out what does work for you. There are so many groups and advice lines that can help but never give up. Stay strong and carry on. #Anxiety #TheMighty #standalone #standtogether

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