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    Might lose my marriage because of my sensory needs?

    Posting because there’s no one else I can talk to about this.

    My wife loves animals. Shes very empathetic towards animals, especially pets. Her dog passed away almost two years ago from old age, and she was distraught for months. Because of my illnesses and disability we can’t really take care of a dog, but we decided to get a cat last august mostly for my wife, but also so I’d have companionship during the day.

    The previous owner says she was chatty, but I didn’t realize what that would actually mean for me. This cat meows constantly, incessantly, all day, and it is sensory hell for me. I’ve told my wife it feels like someone is hammering a railroad spike into my brain.

    This sensory hell has led to several meltdowns for me (I’m autistic) which then lead to a flare up of my illnesses. In a desperate moment, I said to my wife that I don’t know how we can keep the cat with the pain her meowing causes me. It’s literal torture.

    My wife said that she didn’t want to have to choose between me and the cat, and that it would usually be a dealbreaker in her relationships. It was heartbreaking to hear that I’m on the same level as a cat for her and that I could potentially lose my relationship over something that I can’t help.

    So I’ve been dealing with that for a while, and it’s making me want to die. Not actively, but just, the dehumanization of it, and not feeling safe and secure in my home or relationship. I’ve been dissociating regularly since that conversation and whenever she’s brought it up since then.

    She does research, now, on sensory pain, not because she cares about my well-being but because “she wants to keep me and the cat”. And it’s especially gross because she’s not researching how she can make things less painful for me. She’s researching medical treatments for sensory issues, which is all kinds of problematic, and then able-splaining my SPD to me.

    The whole situation is horrible and I’m left wondering if I want to be in a relationship with someone like this, but as you guys know, even if I wanted to leave, it’s not that simple. It’s unlikely anyone else I found would be more understanding, plus she is my carer and she financially supports me. Without her I’d be homeless and destitute and without care. Plus I love her very much. Just, as a disabled person, I have to think about these things. Ugh. # autism #actuallyautistic
    #SensoryProcessingDisorder #SensoryIssues #Fibromyalgia #FunctionalNeurologicalDisorder #neurologicalpain

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    anyone else have this reaction to florescent lights?

    so i am autistic and have sensory issues more on the extreme side.
    but my light sensitivity tends to get in the way alot as when i go into a store with alot of florescent lighting my body immediately heats up like i am having a fever.
    i also get a migrane quickly and tend to go into sensory overload very quickly as well.

    anyone else experience this?
    #Autism #SensoryIssues

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    Feeling on the verge of a panic attack because I need my first COVID swab #Anxiety

    I work in health and we have just bought in weekly swabs for precaution. I'm absolutely terrified. I hate my nose being touched, to the point I hate oxygen nasal prongs. I'll be getting it done at work and I'm scared of having a panic attack, there's a lady from work I really don't like and I don't want her doing it.

    I'm scared it will hurt and of the sensory feelings.

    #Anxiety #PanicAttack #ADHD #SensoryIssues #COVID19

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    #Anxiety increased because of changes

    <p><a class="tm-topic-link mighty-topic" title="Anxiety" href="/topic/anxiety/" data-id="5b23ce5f00553f33fe98d1b4" data-name="Anxiety" aria-label="hashtag Anxiety">#Anxiety</a>  increased because of changes</p>
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    What Some Mom Chooses to Ignore #SensoryIssues

    I’ve always been the black sheep of my family. My interests are vastly different from those of my family, and that only adds to communication problems between me and my parents, especially Mom.

    I have a neurological condition known as Spastic Cerebral Palsy. It’s a condition involving damage to the cerebellum and thus affects certain normally automatic functions of this region such as muscle tone and balance.

    Mom spent years with the goal not to help me cope but to cure me through rigorous stretching, surgery, and medication. In pushing me past my limits, she traumatized me. (Strict discipline only exacerbated matters.)

    With a little about me and my Mom to give context, now, I can get to the title and hashtag of this post. Ever since I can remember, I’ve had trouble with auditory overstimulation and through research found it to be a possible effect of the brain damage that causes my CP.

    The best way I know to explain it is to imagine trying to run a particular program on a computer that doesn’t meet the requirements for the program but comes close enough to run it. The computer struggles with lag, freezes, and sometimes even crashes. My brain is like that computer. Feed it too much audio input or input of any kind, and it crashes and must reboot before function can be restored.

    My Mom lives under the impression of this being nothing but a gasp for attention, a farce only existing in my mind. However, she ignores obvious signs to the contrary: visceral reaction to sharp or unexpected sounds; agitation; anxiety; and, in extreme cases of prolonged sensory exposure over my threshold, disassociation.

    Every time I attempt to explain así have done here, she ignores what I understand as a desperate and obvious plea for help on my part.

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    My full collection and where to get them! X
    Fairy new will post more #Autism #SensoryIssues

    <p>My full collection and where to get them! X<br>Fairy new will post more <a class="tm-topic-link mighty-topic" title="Autism Spectrum Disorder" href="/topic/autism/" data-id="5b23ce6200553f33fe98da7f" data-name="Autism Spectrum Disorder" aria-label="hashtag Autism Spectrum Disorder">#Autism</a>  <a class="tm-topic-link ugc-topic" title="sensory issues" href="/topic/sensory-issues/" data-id="5b23ceb600553f33fe99c464" data-name="sensory issues" aria-label="hashtag sensory issues">#SensoryIssues</a> </p>
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