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I had a confrontation with my dorm roommate the other night. We had an inside joke between the two of us, but I had reached the point where I no longer found the joke to be amusing anymore. I’ve made this known, with no effect; over time, my responses have turned more blunt, aggressive even. I’ve even made a few threatening statements; while I had zero intention of following through, my hope was that if he thought I would, then maybe he’d stop. Well, the other night, this reach a breaking point, and I actually literally yelled at him. He was clearly shocked, as he has yet to see me get to this point. I went to my room to cool off, and once I was sure he was back in his room, I came back out. After coming back out briefly, he said that he couldn’t wait until he was living somewhere where “he wasn’t’t physically threatened.” This statement gave me the impression that he was actually angry with me, so I left for a while to give myself — and him — some space. After a while, we did talk over the phone, and I came back to the dorm, Mountain Dew in hand as something of a peace offering . . . An olive branch, figuratively speaking. Nevertheless, I cannot shake the feeling of guilt that I’m experiencing . . . Even after he acknowledged that he’s no longer upset . . . Even after downing three shots of whiskey yesterday afternoon . . . Even after watching a movie last night at the movie theatre . . . For some reason, I cannot seem to forget what I did . . . Guess this is the disadvantage of morality and the curse of my ASD. #Autism #EmotionalDysregulation #anger #struggling #copingmechanisms

Hi there. I was diagnosed with POTS in 2020, and through a lot of self research discovered that I suffer from hypoandrogenic POTS. My symptoms present as visual snow, tinnitus, and heart rate inconsistency daily, and with extreme adrenaline surges at night (still trying to pinpoint my triggers). I’m curious if anyone here has this too, and if so if you have any solutions for flare ups? Specifically the adrenaline surges at night, but also generally.

Also, has anyone had success in getting a medical assistance dog? I’m really interested in doing so with a rescue, but know it’s hard to find.

#Dysautonomia #POTS #hyperPOTS #copingmechanisms

Just the thought of having a conversation with my husband makes me #anxious and want to #vomit . I need more #copingmechanisms , #Support , and to get away!

They call it the fight or flight mode when in reality it's the fight, flight, or freeze mode. Many people who have experienced severe trauma or abuse when threatened, or are in fear, or subjected to further abuse, or a tramatic event they just freeze. It's a natural response, especially for individuals with PTSD/CPTSD. Their natural self preservation instincts have been compromised. Their traumatic experiences and/or abuse have conditioned their instincts into responding this way. There is no shame in it. It's involuntary and usually very misunderstood. Unfortunately society and more often than not loved ones do not see it this way. These "freeze" individuals are often judged harshly and unjustly for this. They can be shunned by family or friends because they don't get what's really happening. A human being who has suffered abuse/trauma their brain becomes altered or "re wired" and as a result their reaction to any threat can be significantly different than a "normal" person. It takes years of cognitive and behavioral therapy to try and rewire this response. Even then it doesn't always work. People who suffer with this freeze response may act indifferent, may seem withdrawn or anti social. This too is a freeze response. They may not be able to make proper decisions that would seem normal or automatic to most anyone else. They may become withdrawn or the complete opposite and become overly social or act out in ways that can cause them or others harm. They may become self destructive. This can last for weeks or months. Their ability to cope has gone into "hibernation mode" where they shut down emotionally as a defense mechanism. Some individuals who do this may not even understand what is going on themselves or why they react in such a way. So please try to be understanding. Understand these people are doing the best they can, are coping the only way their brains know how. Be extra loving and kind as they slowly begin to accept what is happening. Support them and encourage them to seek help. Don't give up on them and definitely don't judge them for this. They probably are more confused than you are as to why they are reacting or behaving the way they are. When in doubt always lead with love. Their freeze response is just as valid as fight or flight. And it doesn't make them any less deserving of your respect or kindness either. Survivors of abuse/trauma/neglect require more understanding and support and they should never be made to feel ashamed for this but instead praised for their resiliency and perseverance. Take care of one another and always be kind. #abusesurvior #Trauma #MentalHealth #copingmechanisms #PTSD #CPTSD #Support #Therapy #survivinganarcissist #fightorflight #freezemode #Kindness #Love #Support #fighter