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Revenge Bedtime Procrastination: Unlocking the Path to Productivity and Self-Care

In the fast-paced world we live in, it's no surprise that many individuals find themselves caught up in the whirlwind of daily responsibilities, leaving little time for self-care and relaxation.

One phenomenon that has gained significant attention recently is revenge bedtime procrastination. This peculiar behavior occurs when individuals deliberately delay their bedtime to reclaim a sense of control over their personal time, often at the expense of much-needed rest. In this article, we delve into the intricacies of revenge bedtime procrastination, its potential impact on well-being, and strategies to overcome this detrimental habit.

Understanding Revenge Bedtime Procrastination

Revenge bedtime #Procrastination is a term coined to describe the act of intentionally staying up late despite feeling tired. It's a response to the desire to regain a sense of freedom and autonomy over one's own time after a day consumed by obligations and responsibilities. While it may seem counterintuitive to sacrifice sleep, revenge bedtime procrastination provides individuals with a fleeting opportunity to engage in activities they enjoy without external demands.

The Negative Consequences

Although revenge bedtime procrastination offers a short-lived sense of freedom, it can have severe repercussions on both physical and mental well-being. Lack of sleep, as a result of staying up late, can lead to a myriad of health issues, including fatigue, reduced cognitive function, impaired concentration, weakened immune system, and increased risk of chronic conditions such as heart disease and diabetes. Additionally, the constant cycle of sleep deprivation can contribute to heightened stress levels, anxiety, and even depression.

Breaking Free from Revenge Bedtime Procrastination

Recognizing the detrimental effects of revenge bedtime procrastination is the first step toward reclaiming control over your sleep routine. Here are some effective strategies to help you break free from this habit:

Prioritize Self-Care: Understand that self-care is not a luxury but a necessity for your overall well-being. Make a conscious effort to allocate time for activities that rejuvenate your mind and body. Establish a Bedtime Routine: Set a consistent bedtime and create a relaxing routine leading up to it. This can include activities such as reading, taking a warm bath, practicing mindfulness, or listening to calming music. By following a routine, your body will learn to associate these activities with sleep, making it easier to unwind and fall asleep faster. Create a Digital Detox: The blue light emitted by electronic devices interferes with our body's natural sleep-wake cycle. Limit your exposure to screens, especially in the hours leading up to bedtime. Instead, engage in calming activities that promote relaxation and prepare your mind for sleep. Manage Your Time Wisely: One of the underlying causes of revenge bedtime procrastination is poor time management. Prioritize your tasks, set realistic goals, and establish boundaries to ensure you have ample time for both responsibilities and leisure activities. This will help you regain a sense of control over your daily routine. Seek Support: Breaking habits can be challenging, but it's easier when you have a support system. Reach out to friends, family, or even consider joining a support group where you can share experiences and strategies for overcoming revenge bedtime procrastination. Learn more about revenge sleep procrastination:

#Wellbeing #Sleep #SleepBetter #Productivity

Revenge Bedtime Procrastination: Fix Your Sleep

Revenge bedtime procrastination, also known as revenge sleep procrastination, is the intentional decision to put off going to bed to enjoy some free time.
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What he/she/they/you think of me is None of my business, and here is why:

We all know the #struggle it is to #Love ourselves, to even find and hold onto #Selfworth is a great challenge fr most of us. In a civilization saturated by a culture corporate/business model norm that our worth, our #value is based on #Productivity and we come to define productive as getting dressed, brushing our teeth, COOKING, and the true miracle- going for a #Walk . The opinions of those who can not “walk a mile in our lives” COMPLETELY lack any value to us. Oh, you will encounter fakers who will mock our lives, as if they have given it thought. However, when you whisper to their bravado the reality their minds are too small to absorb it. A shout on f how dramatic you are!
Again, the opinion of him/her/they or them is utterly meaningless. Only YOU know your truth, your effort given your #resources . Our remaining #resources whether it be #Fibromyalgia , #Asthma , #MajorDepression , #AnxietyAttack , #longcovid , #ChronicFatigue , or one f the many combinations of #AutoimmuneDisease with so much else, NO ONE knows how much is in our tank on any given day, r the #courage it takes to #rest !!!!

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Grit, Determination, and Sharpie Markers

Yesterday I was recovered from the Horrible Cat Vomit Storm of October 2021 and did well with my new checklist, but without the enthusiasm of Day One. Today I woke up so sore everything hurt, which was exhausting. I still got about half of my checklist items finished. All I cared about was getting rid of the pain. It was a 6 for me—so distracting it was hard to think. Plus my brother stressed me out by dropping clues that he plans to go looking abroad for his fake online boyfriend who I already proved is a scammer. He doesn’t care.

So anyway, yeah. That really cranks up my depression/anxiety/fibromyalgia discomforts. And there’s even more stress that I just swallow daily, so my nest makes a lot of very compelling arguments for why that’s where I should be. I definitely self-medicate with apathy.

But my wanting to break the apathy habit is also for me and my well-being, demmit. I have made my nest the center of my life now for three years!! I have been healing from trauma, sure, but I need more than this for myself. I have more that I want to do, so I am struggling through whatever it takes to reclaim my life—for ME! I don’t want to lose the ability to choose someday.

I just have to keep trying as hard as it takes to make this Apathy Toolkit work better than helping me be productive only every other day. The Daily Checklist needs adjustments. Honestly, trying to shower every single day feels a bit out of reach for me right now. Heh. Just trying to keep it real for the good of the group. I figure that if I force myself to be honest for you then I’ll know I’m not just fooling myself.

I revived an old habit of writing notes to myself in sharpie on my bathroom mirror (It easily comes off with rubbing alcohol or other non-abrasive solvent cleaner.) The picture I posted of it had to be on an angle so you could see the words. First a big red heart that my face appears inside when I stand in front of the sink. Near the bottom it says, “Don’t let apathy own you.” At the top is this: “Have you… -Brushed your teeth -Brushed your hair -Washed your face …today?”

Tell me about your apathy.

#apathy #Depression #lowenergy #Productivity #Success #crash #Fibromyalgia #ChronicDepression #Anxiety #tired #Caffeine #lighttherapy #DepressionSymptoms #DepressionNaps #MajorDepression #SeasonalDepression #Lazy #notlazy #nope #Emptiness #FibroFog #LifeLessons #LifelimitingIllness #getthingsdone #toolkit #apathetic #BipolarDisorder

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If You Give a Cat a Doughnut…

Big news about the toolkit already. It made a big difference! On DAY ONE I knocked out all but two action items on my new daily Checklist Tool. I could feel the momentum building as I checked off each item, so it definitely helped me be more motivated to actually do things. Yay!

Then came DAY 2. My life is full of stressors, triggers, symptoms, and side-effects that legitimize why I struggle with apathy as a form of numbing and escapist self-medication. This morning I got hit in the face with an enormous cat vomit pie, which was a great test of the effectiveness of my new strategy.

The photo I used today is the bakery bag with a doughnut in it that my sugar-obsessed cat found on the counter and broke into while I slept last night. He is a known “scarf and barf” cat. (Sadly, yes, that’s a thing.) There were multiple piles and smears of the resulting cat vomit everywhere. I can’t believe I was so careless, but there it is. Very unpleasant. I stubbornly ignored it all to do my morning light therapy, the first item on my Checklist Tool, because it was a dark rainy day and I knew I needed it. I couldn’t do the second item on the Checklist, meditation on gratitude, because I was completely jangled by the shocking cat vomit mess. Instead, I checked out the news headlines as I sat in front of my light therapy lamp. When the session was over and I was full of depressing international news, I just wanted to hide in my safe nest. But I had to clean up the cat vomit mess before my husband woke up and tracked it everywhere. He is disabled with no short-term memory so there is no way to warn him to be careful where he steps. Such is my life.

Before I was willing to start the cleaning process I made my “morning comfort coffee,” which I then started drinking before I had brushed my teeth because my mind was no longer focused on my Checklist, but on cat vomit. So I blew it on item 3 on the list. After finishing the cleaning I refreshed my coffee and headed to the safety of my bed to escape further stress, naturally! I was unconcerned about doing the rest of the items on the list that day because I was still triggered. Maybe I would get back to it later and maybe I wouldn’t. I made that choice for resetting my well-being and don’t regret it, but I also wanted to strengthen the tool against being derailed at the “brush teeth before coffee” point on the Checklist again.

So armed with determination (and some desperation) I tied a little bow out of clean dental floss to the handle of my coffee pot. Silly? Maybe, but I have to do whatever works for me.

Tomorrow is another day. I’m hopeful my new Apathy Toolkit will help me claw my way out of this apathy hole I am in. As I start using it regularly I will look for more ways to reinforce it with helpful cues around me. Wish me luck! ☀️🪥 🦷 🌻

#apathy #Depression #lowenergy #Productivity #success #crash #fibromyalgia #chronicdepression #anxiety #tired #caffeine #lighttherapy #depressionsymptoms

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Fall Down Seven Times, Stand Up Eight!

OK, ok, ok… So yesterday I succumbed to old habits and let my apathy hold me back. That’s not unexpected. I have A LOT on my plate. If the new me can break free of the pillow-call of apathy for several days of movement and productivity and then I have to “crash” for a day… that is still so much better than hoping to get things done just one day of the week. I’ll take it!
There have been times in my life (when I was still young and immortal,) when I would berate myself for a pattern that was less than perfect. That’s a crazy standard for anyone to try to impose on themself. Now I am a wiser old bird and know to celebrate success in any form or duration.
After my two cups of coffee and a light therapy session, today I have a surprising amount of energy so I am going to get a bunch of cleaning done. See you when the dust settles. Here I go! 😉
#apathy #Depression #lowenergy #Productivity #Success #crash #Fibromyalgia #Depression #Anxiety #tired #Caffeine #lighttherapy


So Far, So Good

So far, since realizing that I am not apathetic by choice, but because of chronic illness and medication side effects, I am finding more impetus to be productive. Huzzah! I feel pretty good in spite of my depression, anxiety, fibromyalgia, and extreme limitation because I am the 24/7 caregiver of my disabled husband who has cognitive impairments.

Yesterday was my sister’s birthday. I gave her a present a day early and declined her invitation to her birthday lunch with her family. She was not happy with that but I know it was the right decision for me, so that is a win!

I have been having daily calls with my brother, who has many chronic health issues, including bi-polar disorder and depression. I love him, but this close contact with him spends a lot of my energy, so I need to be very careful not to overtax myself talking to him. I realized that I am unable to withstand discussion about his fake boyfriend who is actually a professional scammer. I want to protect my brother and have proven this guy is scamming him, but he is so blissed out by this person he has never met that he refuses to hear me. So I told him that I cannot talk to him about that subject anymore because it is adversely affecting my health. That was so hard for me to do, but again, I made the right decision for me.

Getting past those two events took a big toll on me and made my fibromyalgia flare. But my determination to make healthy choices for me is spiraling my confidence up, so I know I am on a good path. The more I protect my boundaries, the stronger I feel and the more energy I have to push through the #apathy holding me back.

My new defense against my #Depression and #Anxiety has been helping tremendously. I was suffering pretty bad from negative #self -talk and internal “#worry noise,” but finally learned how to escape all of that when I watched the Invitation to Freedom video on YouTube (link below).

I will spend my afternoon planning #Productivity into the coming week and getting us outside for some sun and exercise. Can you believe it? After being #Avoidant and apathetic for so long I have #Hope again!

Return to the Self, the Is-ness, an invitation to Freedom;

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This is definitely me!

I did plant some new grow kits my friends gave me this morning so that’s really cool! And my other friend gave me an orchid to take care of yesterday and it is beautiful!
#tired #Fatigue #ChronicFatigue #Sleep #iihmemes #IIH #RareDisease #Productivity #Meme #funny