people pleaser

1. People will take you for granted:

People expect you to be there for them, but they don't want you as a wellwisher, sometimes some people use you beyond the limits.

2. You'll miss out on excellent opportunities:

If you're being available for someone by saying "Yes" if you could've said "No" there are chances that you could've spent time on yourself. Chances are you might've accomplished a milestone instead of over-helping someone whose intention is to simply ruin your energy or anything.

3. You'll have a sense of burned-out:

Anyone who uses you may give you tasks that you take a lot of effort to do usually. And, people won't entirely value your efforts. So this eventually kills your comfort line and slowly gives you a sense of burnout.

4. People will diminish the respect they have for you:

Anything available in an extensive amount is taken for granted and less valued. For example, if you go to Gulf countries they take oil for granted for the level of feasibility. But they consider water as a precious gem, while the vice versa happens with the other countries, likewise with people. So, being more available will diminish the respect people have for you.

When you're living this life you'll always crave better attention, respect, care, and love from everyone. But, in reality, just think if all the people that you've helped will visit your grave when you die. If the answer is a " yes" then help them, but have limits. You alone matter more than other people's opinions and care.

#Depression #Trauma #PeoplePleaser #regret #Sadness #selfcare #MentalHealth #SuicideAttemptSurvivors #Suicide #hurt

What would you do?
Hi I’m in a battlefield of the minds.
I’m too scared to ask for help among my own family on what I need to consider in this scenario or if this were me, how I would handle handle such a situation.
I dont have too many friends, that Im comfortable to be let in & ask for their input in fear of judgement and unnecessary comments on my reasons to want to help, or even address their need.,
Friend is full time employed.
Rebuilding her life.
So I need some sound advice. #MyHeart #Anxiety #PeoplePleaser #fearofrejection #relatable

“But… what happened to you?”

I set myself on fire to keep others warm.

Others see the crowd around the light and wait until it dissipates a little to come toss on fresh kindling.

I spent so long waiting for someone to bring water… shoo everyone else away… start a fire and let me catch the warmth…

that I burned out.

Burned out on self care, burned out on community care, burned out on family care, burned out on even doing my fkn hair

So every single thing towards life feels like a battle because I don’t want life as it is right now.

I’m vibrating low right now because it takes a lot of effort for me to vibrate high. And I’m tired. But I’m okay. I know I will be. I just have a lot of held back tears to cry and my
Holding back mechanism
Is tired too.

But I will get up and walk and find beautiful things to give me just enough to get through the day. So when a tear escapes at a moment that you feel isn’t worth the tears, know that I am okay - my mind is escaping to the rainbow berries - and I’ll get back with you shortly.

#PTSD #Depression #Anxiety #PeoplePleaser #Dissociation

#musicishealing #Song #songreccs #musicislife #PeoplePleaser #Depression #Trauma #Anxiety #Giving

Anyone else struggling with unlearning? I find myself getting frustrated with my old ways of “pleasing people” being a “people pleaser” and doing what I want to do because it’s what’s best for me…