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You Dont Know Me

#traumasurvivor

In a land where all things look good and kept is a reality that something’s not quite right.

Enter the villain 🦹‍♀️ the Narcissist who married an Exho. Yet while the Echo was unaware the echo tried so many different things to make IT all work for the children and the spouse. Over the top adventures were agreed to reckless spending and debt was agreed to and in fact co signed the spouse’s University Student Debt.

All was good as long as the spouse was pleased and entertained. However the spouse would become board. Would even start to exhibit out of character behaviour and would go out with their so called friends staying out endlessly while the echo looked after the children.

Then the affairs and the echo would call out the Narcissist. The Narcissist would be confronted by family and would recline into a relationship with the echo again. The cycle continues yet the echo becomes more and more aware more and more watching absent and picks qualities from the narcissist to emulate.

Now there are two in the same house who’s placing their needs of self love over each other’s needs for one and other.

The bed grows cobwebs and there is no passionate connection only passive aggressive behaviour and malicious behaviour with manipulation. Everything is a game a dance of sorrows.

The children watch on as their parents transform from loving caring parents into separate souls who reject each other’s desires or needs.

This sounds horrible yet remember the echo has leaned. Agile and smart in order to survive. Abused neglected and abandoned by their spouse on a numerous occasions for affairs of fancy and inappropriate behaviour.

The echo unaware that the abuse was directed at them and the children becomes even more self aware. Therapy and counselling bring into the light the true situation. The echo sets limit’s expectations the narcissist plows over them the echo sets standards the narcissist prefers to do what they what when they want with who they want.

The echo mimics this behaviour the narcissist becomes unstable and physically aggressive with covert manipulation.

Long story short the echo becomes the villain based on the narcissist’s manipulation.

Now the victim becomes the villain and the divorce starts.

The victim and villain is treated well like the villain reinforcing the trauma and relationships traumas events CPTSD and other mental health related issues like suicidal ideation and dissociation.

The victim or villain becomes incarcerated only to find their true selves in the institution while recovering ❤️‍🩹 from the narcissist being separated from the narcissist and developing a sense of self reliance with spiritual growth.

The victim and villain returns to become the hero 🦸‍♀️

Not the hero to themselves no the echo is still growing underneath and realizing what has truly happened and why IT happened yet this person is not the same person that entry the institution. No this person is completely different. The hero is hero to observers and othe survivors. Becoming an inspiration and testimony to the people who come in contact with the survivor.

The survivor begins helping random strangers empowering their beliefs and self narratives to be self loving with compassion while healing ❤️‍🩹 in peer social and yes groups with others dealing with loved experiences.

The hero is no long an echo no the echo is now an emotionally awakened spiritual healer. Yet growing learning supporting and yes very much still recovering ❤️‍🩹.

This healer this shaman this foraged soul built in the depths of the despair is beyond comprehension to most and yet this story has a happy ending.

The hero continues their journey and helps others along the way while also developing healthy boundaries and relationships because they are now healthy and they now have self compassion for their own needs and the needs of thier children.

The book comes out and there are so many people that are touched by the story and illuminates other’s suffering that they begin to believe and become stronger than ever able to brake their own chains and set themselves free.

The story of one can effect others and empower others.

This is a true story name’s removed for protection.

If this story is happening or has happened to you or someone you are not alone.

You matter

You are important

You belong

You are valued

You are worthy

Please remember to be safe be well be loved 🥰 your worthy.

Don’t forget IT.

We hope this helps someone out there even just one. Don’t give up don’t give in don’t stop fighting. There are so many people depending on you.

You just haven’t met them yet or they haven’t read your store.

#LivedExperiance #Support #MentalHealth #Grief #PTSD #Depression #Anxiety #SuicidalIdeation #Survivor #DissociationDisorders #Healing #Recovery #restoration #Newlife #Empowerment #Hope #Joy #Love #peace #patience lots of patience.

Be well we hope this finds you well if you know someone struggling or suffering and situation, please help them. They don’t even know they need help.

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Stream Strolling and Springing 🌼

The Duke’s personal walkies chauffeur called in sick today, so I found myself bestowed with the honour of serving HRH 👑

Given the 27 C / 80 F temperature by British standards effectively borders on officially being declared ‘hot’, we went to one of the local streams so the Duke could cool off.

After being reminded by a post in a CFS support group that cold baths and showers, helps to increase circulation, I joined HRH for a stroll through the cold water.

Every year these flowers blossom in the stream. It is a little thing in essence—but one that brings me joy each year that I get to witness their arrival.

#TheLittleThings #Joy #RoomForJoy #MyCondition #ChronicFatigue #MyalgicEncephalomyelitis #Dogs #SpringMania

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How joyful are you today and what’s causing that joy?

My friendships are lifting me up today and my work is going well. It’s making me feel more optimistic. How about you? #CheckInWithMe #Joy #Support

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How does having chronic illness bring blessings to you?

I've gotten some impressions that I should recognize the blessings of chronic illness. I'm struggling trying to figure them all out by myself. One thing is that the sweet moments are more meaningful when they happen because we appreciate the joys even in the midst of pain. Your turn!!

Oh, I saw a moose in town while getting lost from brain fog moment so that was an unexpected blessing, too!! 🤣

#blessings #chronic illness #Gratitude #Joy #Pain #moose #BrainFog #meaningfulmoments

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#Cat in the #NewYear

Here's placing my commitment to engaging in positive thoughts that will work positive energy that will materialize my wish/prayer that this year, & many following, will be MUCH MUCH BETTER than 2022 was to/for me.

And I #Hope & #Pray that 2023 bring MUCH #Joy , #peace , & #relief to #all of us that #Suffer from #devastating effects of #ChronicIllness , especially those of us whom are asked to #endure #ChronicPain , especially those of us, that suffer continuous non-stop pain, especially those of us who's entire body is afflicted, for I do know that #Pain does kinda cancel out/prevent us from any/all pleasurable #Emotions . At least, personally speaking, I'm always miserable, & since I lost my cat a little past last New Year (of 2022),, so went my smile, & any & every semblance of the person I was. The person I liked being. Please, #god , give me a sweet cat soon. Very soon, I'd really #hate to #Lose hope again. So please don't hold back on my #blessing of a cat too long. I need #help & #relief . Please don't make it all disappear into the #dark #pit I've lived in. For all too too long. #please bring me #light & #Hope to see this to its fruition. I need to bring home a Cat. Know that. You do. , I ask,in #Jesus ' name. Thanks for reading my post, all you caring & supportive #mightyfriends 🙋💗🍬 #MightyTogether #peace

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What helps you be more positive? 🌸☀️☀️🌞🌅

What helps you change your perspective or a kind reminder when things are hard?

Thanks! #Positivity #positive #happy #Happiness #Joy #Emotions #Journal #Grattitude #Acceptance #Trying #coping #reminders #Selflove

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Getting There

#ManagingExpectations #MeaningfulLife

Sometimes you just need to reset you.

Yes you… Your the one we are talking to…

You already know you are being to hard on you…. Don’t do IT to you.

You deserve so much you don’t even know how blessed you actually are.

You are someone of significance and you are an inspiration to others.

Just cause you yes you can’t always see you that is no excuse to not be the person you are ment to be.

Let’s talk about you. Ok for a second let’s just close our eyes and we will tell you what we see.

You are strong 💪 You are Loved 🥰 You are courageous!! You make the whole room light 💡 Up

Now open your eyes and look in the mirror 🪞

Yes your a Child of GOD made with purpose and you are significant cause you yes you matter and that’s why you yes you are reading 📖 this right now.

Smile and just be the best you and love you to

#smile #Hope #Love #Joy #Happiness #be

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Sentiment-The Small Things

As an abuse survivor, I've learned that it's the little things in life that hold the most value. For example, I have a bracelet with a butterfly charm on it. The butterfly holds a lot of sentimental value because it was from my fiancé and it is a reminder to not #Selfharm . I used to harm myself via cutting but now I no longer do that. Something as little as a charm holds so much meaning. It's the little things that remind me that life is worth living. I used to deal with #SuicidalIdeation and even attempted to overdose but now I have a loving family that I can call my own. I am finally safe and do not have to worry about further abuse. Sure I still have a lot of healing to do but I have also made a lot of progress. It's the memories that I've made with my family that bring me the most joy. My fiancé and I could be doing nothing and we are content together. Just enjoying each other's company. Going for walks or baking, celebrating the holidays even if we do not do much. It is these things that remind me that everything is and will be okay. Today my #PTSD got triggered and I cried but then I started thinking about all the positives in my life and I felt a little better. I accept that I am not fully healed and will have days where memories of the trauma and abuse still get to me. I can look at the little things and be happy. It does not have to be something big to make you happy. What is something that holds a lot of meaning for you?

#Abuse #PTSD #BipolarDisorder #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #Selfharm #Suicide #Joy #Motivation #thankful #Trauma #sentiment #Inspiration #abusesurvivor #checkin

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