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As someone who loves Christmas/Xmas, I agree: you do not have to be “cheery” | TW political issues, exclusionism mention, swearing

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Christmas/Xmas is my favorite holiday of the year. I love the decorations, the food, and just the feeling of being cozy to those I appreciate being in my life. Despite this, I believe that last year’s Christmas was the best for me because I wasn’t with my mom or sister; I was with my dad and my partners (yes, more than one partner and we’re all consenting), and some friends that came over, and I finally got what I truly wanted deep inside: love and appreciation.

However, I don’t believe in the whole “oh, where’s your holiday spirit??” bullcrap. What spirit? It’s not spirit for the holidays, I just feel happy about taking a part of it because I genuinely enjoy it, not to take part in some annual fad that just so happens to fit me in a way.

I get it. The holidays can be really fucking tough for others out there for different reasons, including trauma, family, anxiety, money, or just feeling like you must “fit in” emotionally. But here’s the thing: you can’t just expect others to be all happy and cheery all the time, even on holidays. That’s not how individuals work. One individual’s experience for a holiday won’t and will never be the same for every single individual here. I also find it highly ridiculous and even offensive to call someone a “grinch” just because they’re not up for the holidays.

And honestly, as an American minority, “where’s your holiday spirit?” and “grinch” feel like jabs, especially when it comes to how the recent years have been. Do you have any idea how much the world is being shit right now, especially when this fucking loser of a president has been here again? Do you have any idea how much hate and discrimination towards minorities has been happening more recently? If you find my last posts, you’ll know how incredibly angry I am. And you can’t expect me to just forget about it or that everything will be solved just because of some holiday commercial.

Not to mention the fact that not everyone is religious or believes in Jesus Christ. Well, I use “Christmas” even though I’m not religious and so do many other individuals, but that can definitely be alienating, too, when that’s enforced, and no, I’m not gonna stay quiet about it as individuals must accept that fact eventually.

In all honesty, there are holidays I hate as an American that may not be the same for others, and that’s fine. For example, I hate New Years. Why New Years, you may ask? Sadly, it’s been proved time and time again that so many fucking problems still happens in the first month. Maybe it’s some political bullshit that reminds me of how cruel this world can be to minorities like me, maybe it’s forest fires. I feel like there’s always something shitty that happens in January, and I fucking hate it. I feel like I’d be forcing fake positivity if I look forward to a new year at this point.

In all honesty, I’m starting to hate Valentine’s Day, too. I know what you’re thinking “but you have multiple partners, right?” Well, yes, and I love them to death, but still, this day was made to exclude individuals. What do I mean? Well, too many commercials, posters, or whatever media like to focus on monogamous romantic relationships a bit too much it drives me crazy. I mean I get it, it’s to make money, but again, not everyone is in or wants a romantic relationship, and not everyone is monogamous (like I). Also, we’re actually not in a romantic relationship, but we’re for each other in a more than friends way. That exists. That is real. I am on the aromantic spectrum, so I don’t really feel romantic attraction towards others anyway. And not everyone experiences “love” of any kind, whether romantic, platonic, familial, whatever, leaving those folks/folx alienated even further. Love isn’t what makes someone an individual; being an individual is what makes someone an individual. This day would have been better off focusing on just being kind to yourselves instead.

Back to what I was saying, there are many reasons why someone may not be so up for the holidays or for any other holiday, and that’s fine. I find it bullshit to make others force feelings that they do not have, that’s not how it works. They may love/like Christmas/Xmas like I do, but not even I find any reason to be so unnecessarily expecting. So, it’s okay to not like or to not be happy for the holidays. In whatever situation you’re in, I wish you the entire best, and please know that you are incredibly worthy and that there are those who understand, like me, even at times when you don’t feel so. Please take any time for yourselves, and know that it’s absolutely okay to set or want to set boundaries. You are important, too.

(Please refrain from calling me human (I have dysphoria, I’d rather not go into detail right now), please and thank you!)

#MyAutismIsNotADisorder #MyAutismIsNotADisability #AutismSpectrum #Autistic #Anxiety #GeneralizedAnxietyDisorder #OSTD #OtherSpecifiedTraumaDisorder #neurodivergent #Neurodivergency #Vent #triggerwarning #LGBTQIA #MentalHealth #Holidays #WarmWishes

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She’s my. But she also is.

Death is very personal, and not to the person who is dying. Also it is.

We’ve banned the “I’m dying” phrase in my home. No, we’re not dying of laughter. The person in the next room, is dying.

This isn’t my first meet with grief. Won’t be my last time. So, here is why it’s deeply personal but not about you, at all.

One day, you are standing in line at the Post Office picking up your mail. The person in front of you is taking their sweet time. You have to get to Costco before they close. Before that, you need to wash your car. Fill up your tank. “Hurry up fucker.” It’s 8 am but you don’t have all day.

Terminal illness changes that: Need to becomes Get to.

One day, it’s 7 am and you know your grandmother has been awake since 5 am, watching the news, with a black coffee, in a yellow, ceramic coffee cup. It’s the same mug she used to fill with warm milk when you were little. On nights when you couldn’t sleep. Cold, fridge cereal and warm milk. Just a regular weekend-night for you. Little you. Not older.

The next day, you’re embracing each other in front of an emergency room entrance. You’ve held each other for a life time. You’re holding each other together, this time. Can we go back to needing: Go to the bank before closing, strolling Costco for the latest monitor, because she can see ALL her documents displayed on three monitors. Work, work, work. She is up by 5 am but is at the office, or is she? Where is she?

Then comes cancer. Did you hear? No, did you hear? No. My grandmother - but she is my friend someone else says! My grandmother - no, she’s my best friend. My grandmother - No, she’s my sister. My grandmother - She is my colleague, I’ve worked for her, with her, for years. Can I see her? It’s me. No, it’s been two months and she doesn’t even know who I am. She won’t know you . I am, who she says, I am. If I’m James Dean one day, then that’s who I am. The next time she sees me (in a few seconds) I’ll be her grand daughter again. Our doors are open, but please stop walking through them. She’s trying to sleep.

See? Deeply personal. Not about us at all. Fifteen minutes visits: hand holding, praying, playing along, or are we playing a long.. a long time like this? Deeply personal to us: My grandmother. Who can shift the room’s energy with an entrance. Now, she’s shift eyes of the people who probably had a million things to say, she’s skin and bones now. I will feel her, in my bones, in my mind, in my heart. For the rest of my life.

Now, standing behind that stranger in line at the Post Office, who is taking their sweet time, don’t they, realize that your grandmother doesn’t have time left. As a matter of fact, you don’t even know how much time. Will I be doing this, next month? Do I want to see her decline for even more time? There’s nothing I’d rather do. Wait… that’s not right! None of this is.

You’ve stopped decorating in October because what’s scarier than losing someone you love. And also, you’ve lost track of time. Is it so we don’t have markers of time, for her, or for us? Someone please pass the turkey and also a tissue. I’m now celebrating Christmas in November. Wait, my grandmother asks, Where are we? What’s your name? Well, I’m your grand daughter, but they’re your: daughters, sibling, friend, colleague and neighbor. Everyone play nice.

We are all losing someone.

#Cancer #WarmWishes #Grief #Hospice

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An important reminder in this quote image

I have been a big, generous supportive friend and group leader of more than 1 group for years now on The Mighty and I hope 🙏 that our Mighty family is truly inclusive and a safe place for Jewish people as well.

I want to think that my Mighty friends on here would not think different or less of me for being Jewish.

I don’t want us to have to feel afraid or unsafe to be, say, express this part of who we are.

But, I have been seeing with deep hurt and sadness that we have been hiding, in the shadows, and this is obviously not helping with the same #MentalHealth that we too deserve.

Happy Hanukkah needs to be freely expressed too, and as well supported as Merry Christmas, for one example.

I refuse to have #Anxiety over being fully genuinely me.

And, I will not allow it to cause any darkness and isolation that is dangerous for my amazing progress with my healing journey and with my #Depression #MajorDepressiveDisorder

#ChronicIllness #MyCondition #WarmWishes #Jewish #Jews #MightyTogether #ChronicFatigue #ChronicFatigueSyndrome #Mindfulness #Selfcare #worth #Selfworth #Selflove #resilience #Selfharm #SuicideAttemptSurvivors #SuicidalIdeation #SuicidalThoughts #Suicide #ComplexPosttraumaticStressDisorder #PTSD #MyalgicEncephalomyelitis #PostTraumaticStressDisorder #Trauma #PersistentDepressiveDisorder #MoodDisorders

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A Mighty Together EASY Game That Needs All Of Us To Work 🤗 👋 🎤🎶🎧 #DistractMe #MightyTogether #MentalHealth #CheckInWithMe

Simply remember or find/Google/ask Alexa or Siri……a line or part of a line from a song or a song title that was written for Empowering all of us.

You are welcome to add in even just one. This is easy because it is not even your words that you are adding in or articulating. The words have been given to us.

For example: I often think of this part of line from a song: “I am going to dance on broken glass.”

And this part song title, part of a line of the lyrics:
“Better Days are coming, if no one told you.”

And this longer one section of another great song:
“DON'T YOU TELL ME WHAT YOU THINK THAT I COULD BE;
I'M THE ONE AT THE SAIL
I'M THE MASTER OF MY SEA.”

And this small section of a song that I hold close to my heart:
“Just remember who you are; how you were never one for folding; how you never liked the corner; how the dark don’t even know you.”

Let’s Go Big on this one.

Let’s make this a holiday gift you can give for free that could be exactly what Many others need Right Now.

This ties in with the image I chose for this because we are going to be taking inspiration from Christopher Reeve aka Superman in the 1978 film who famously said "A hero is an ordinary individual who finds the strength to persevere and endure in spite of overwhelming obstacles".

So, I say YOU are a hero.

One of our Mighty family with a boatload of reasons to question this quote and anything, just a couple days ago, found, and in a way, smartly challenged my about 4 months old post with Christopher Reeve’s other famous quote “Once you choose hope, anything is possible.”

So, if you know anything about me, you know I accepted this challenge to help her and to help even more of us.

So I went to work for all of us— researching and drafting an impactful reply (and I can at times put hours into this work for all of us.)
Because YOU are worth fighting for.

So, I researched how he could say these profoundly optimistic and empowering statements when he, Christopher Reeve, a former role model to the world as Superman, was paralyzed from the neck down after a horse riding accident at age 42. His mother wanted doctors to remove his life support, because she thought that he wouldn’t want to live like this, but he fought back.

So the meaning to his quote about HOPE is: Hope, in this sense, is a decision. It is the most important decision we can make.

This choice of Hope also is not just wishful thinking, it has to be rooted in a Believing, it must be in the form of Optimism, and it must be held together by handing it over to a trust in ourselves, a trust in the universe having our back, to any form of spirituality that does not even need to be religion based faith.

Absolutely Right Now, All of Our Mighty Family Needs help with feeling Empowered to be Hopeful and Optimistic And YOU can be a hero and participate in this mission that is greater than all of us, greater than our own social anxieties, greater than our own fears and doubts, greater than our fatigue…

Whenever you see this post, especially through the rest of the entire holidays —All of them coming up for all denominations and through and past New Years…add in a line or part of a line from a song, or a song title, that was written for Empowering all of us. That was written to speak to all of us. To Connect All of Us.

GAME ON.

GAME FACE.

YOUR friend in this hard thing called life,
Dawn

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Redefining Your Narrative - Motivation, Empowerment, and a Pep Talk from my heart.

Brene Brown, PhD was one of my first and most impactful teachers at the start of my healing journey and wow, did she get me so far because she is an Emotions Researcher —- she spent the past two decades studying Courage, Vulnerability, Shame, and Empathy.

I can’t recommend her enough to also empower you on your healing, growth, and evolving journey to wellbeing and moving you towards your full potential to the best version of your authentic self.

You can watch her videos on YouTube and you can find her transformative best-selling books, videos, and articles, and even resources like workbooks on her website Brené Brown

What I want to emphasize here is that you should never feel alone in your journey because there are so many thought leaders and experts in whatever it is you are struggling with or with what you want to get better at that have already walked the same path and figured out this complex, but not yours alone - human experience. Seek them out - Google them, search for them on YouTube— keep looking out for my posts and my conversations threads and replies to others where I keep giving out these free resources for all of what we need to better understand to thrive. You can always ask me too, and I will be happy to do what I can to help find the expert who can help you with Self-Empowerment. There is a very good chance that expert’s name or advice/wisdoms are already in my copious notes in my phone. I am a constant learner about life, emotions, psychology….and I take detailed notes so I have at my fingertips what I will need to thrive and to fill the gaps in my emotional intelligence and self-development—- all of the critical things to thrive in life empowered that many a therapist never shared with me.

I hope that Self-Empowerment becomes your new favorite term too.

And these critical terms that start with the word “Self”: Self-Regulation (includes emotion regulation and our own regulation of our physiology like our breath, and our heart rate); and Self-Awareness, and Self-Acceptance, and Self-Worth, and Self-Esteem, and Self-Love, Self-Compassion, Self-Efficacy, Self-Discipline, Self-Discovery, Self-Respect.
Am I missing any? Each one is of critical importance for all of us to master ourselves.

I never want you to feel alone, not seen, not validated, powerless, flawed, worthless, or any of that stuff because literally, to be very clear - it is b*llsh*t.

Please Don’t let those thoughts have any say to get the best of you, they are just thoughts - which are just mental events on autopilot, they are not facts -they do not hold any meaning unless we give it power and meaning.

Here is one of the very Motivational and Self-Empowerment talks by Brene Brown that I Especially hope that you will embrace to help you not just survive but thrive more through the difficult holidays right here For us not Against us.

“Part of redefining your narrative is deciding what role you want to play in your own story.

Are you the hero who rises against the odds?
Are you the creator who builds something beautiful from the rubble?

Or are you the person who remains stuck letting the past dictate the future?

The choice is yours.
And, it starts with a single decision that I Will Not Let My Pain Define Me.
I Will Let It Refine Me.

Your life is a story and every experience- both good and bad becomes a chapter in that story.

But here is the truth that many of us overlook— you are the author.

You have the power to decide how the story is told; how the events are interpreted; and what meaning you give to the things that happens to you.

Redefining your narrative is not about erasing the past or pretending it didn’t happen.
It’s about choosing to see it through a lens of growth, resilience, and possibility.

Often we get stuck in narratives that no longer serves us.
Perhaps you told yourself that a failure defines your worth; or maybe you adopted a story of victimhood where everything that went wrong is proof that life is unfair.

These narratives can feel real because they are rooted in genuine pain or disappointment, but just because they feel real doesn’t mean they have to remain the dominant story of your life.

Redefining your narrative starts with awareness. Ask yourself what story have I been telling about myself in my life. Is it a story of defeat, scarcity, or limitation?

Is it a story where someone else’s actions hold all of the power?

Once you identify the narrative that you have been carrying, you can begin to rewrite it.

*One of the most transformative ways to redefine your narrative is to shift your perspective on hardship.*

*Instead of viewing challenges as evidence of your inadequacy, consider them as chapters of growth.*

What did you learn from that relationship that didn’t work out?

What strength did you develop from that setback?

What doors opened after the one you wanted closed?

*When you redefine your narrative, you take ownership of your story.*

*This doesn’t mean ignoring the pain, or pretending everything was okay, it means looking at the past with compassion and choosing to see yourself not as a victim but as a survivor, a learner, and a person who is continually evolving.*

*It’s also important to remember that your narrative isn’t just shaped by what happens to you; it’s shaped by the meaning you assign to those events.*

Two people can go through similar experiences and come out with entirely different stories.

*One may see rejection as proof they’re not enough, while the other sees it as redirection towards something better — which meaning will you choose?*

With warm wishes,

You friend in this hard thing called life,

Dawn 🤗

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My holiday

I don't celebrate Christmas. I'm not Christian or Catholic. I'm pagan and my winter holiday, on December 21st, is called Yule. We do most of the things Christmas has going on but Yule predates Christmas. It's a lovely celebration. This will be my first holiday with my partner living with me. I already gave her 2 gifts for Yule. She doesn't have any money to get me any gift. I don't mind, she takes really good care of me. I'm gonna make a bacon and cheese quiche for dinner. I'm just really happy that she's here and thriving.

#WarmWishes #alternativefaith

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So thankful to have This chosen family. I want each of you to know that I am Thankful for You. We all have a special connection that is very real.

If You don’t think you are special, then why would I make You this collage and on a holiday🤗

Extra appreciation for everyone that has been joining this group of mine, Yay🙌🙌🙌🙌 We’re growing!

“We may not have it all together, but together we have it all.”

“It’s the friends we meet along the way who help us appreciate the journey.”

Ok, so you all need some of my tools like right now 😊

These 3 powerful words Will
Always help you to come back to only the present moment:
“Be Here Now”

I can’t emphasize enough that The most powerful tool that you Always have for self-regulation of all of your emotions and for pulling some energy out of nowhere when you are fatigued and depleted is Conscious (Deliberate) Breathing.
And it is also about taking control of what's going on in our bodies. Being aware of our breath or our heart rate.

Let’s do some deliberate breathing together:

Think these simple & fun mindful words with me:
As you inhale “Breathe in the good”
As you exhale “Breathe out the bad”
Make it a deep and strong inhale and an even longer exhale

“Just Take Care Of Now.”
This is a short but very calming go-to sentence when you are overwhelmed and or running on empty, so out of gas.

This is my quick & empowering go-to statement as well to remind myself fast that I am not a mind reader and thoughts are not always facts…
“I choose to judge nothing that occurs.”
This in technical terms helps with -
—Nonjudgment of inner experience and
—-Nonreactivity to inner experience (Creating That Space/spaciousness of mind)

We will be talking about this and so much more in here in my group “Resilience and Mindfulness” so if you haven’t joined us yet - click that Join button and keep this group on your radar.

May this help your Thanksgiving day and everyday bring you Ease, Calm, Peace, and Balance.

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I’m here over the holidays too to help as many of us as possible 🤗

Holidays, right?!

I would like to open this post up here in my group “Resilience and Mindfulness” to an ongoing conversation and place for you to share and be seen, heard, understood and helped if even in any small, but possibly big way.

A lot more heavy emotions and thoughts come to surface.

Even ones we have been healing from.

Then there is also the stressful energy that others around us bring to our space of balance and peace.

I want you to know that since I am really living up to my fun username my first group members gave me-
slay queen, I have been slaying these heavy old memories and complicated feelings that have been already arising for me - during this Thanksgiving time, and I have been slaying my husband’s gaslighting and negativity…, so I am in a great place to be here to give a shoulder to lean on, two ears to listen deeply if you can open up and share with me here in this group I created for all of you, or feel free to message me to my inbox and I will do all that I can to give (as soon as technical difficulties in this app or time allows) to reply back to you to give you more light, more strength, more confidence, more connection, more perspective, more resources and tools, more positivity, more tangible hope…..

I want you to know that opening up and talking through your dark is strength, and so is letting others you can trust in our safe space, others like me who are reaching out a hand to take a hand, to take many hands, and offering to care more.

Your friend in this very hard thing called life,
Dawn

#MentalHealth #MajorDepressiveDisorder #Relationships #ChronicIllness #ChronicFatigue #ChronicFatigueSyndrome #Anxiety #Depression #Grief #GeneralizedAnxietyDisorder #Loneliness #MoodDisorders #BipolarDepression #BipolarDisorder #Autism #Disability #Selfcare #Selfharm #EatingDisorders #RareDisease #Mindfulness #SuicidalIdeation #SuicidalThoughts #SuicideAttemptSurvivors #Suicide #BorderlinePersonalityDisorder #ComplexPosttraumaticStressDisorder #MyalgicEncephalomyelitis #Fibromyalgia #PostTraumaticStressDisorder #PTSD #Trauma #Addiction #Agoraphobia #SocialAnxiety #Cancers #ADHD #AnorexiaNervosa #Cancer #Caregiving #IfYouFeelHopeless #MightyTogether #CheckInWithMe #ChronicPain #ChronicDailyHeadache #Headache #Migraine #WarmWishes

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