Your life is a living hell. Who do you think you are? You’re no one. You’re not good enough. Stop fooling yourself you fucking idiot!
Can you relate to this incessant feeling of self-hatred? Do you feel like, no matter what you do, you’re unwanted, useless, hopeless, broken, or unlovable?
I have been there before. In fact, my self-hatred at one point was so strong until i resorted to self harm in order to remove those feelings. It was horrific experience. For many years I was trapped into such thinking. The truth is that there’s no quick one-size-fits all solution for self hatred or we can call it as self-loathing. But dont worry, there are many ways to overcome it.
Basically, self-loathing is an extreme dislike of oneself. Why it happens?
You see, as young children, we needed to see our parents in an almost godlike way. To us, they needed to be right, to be safe, to be infallible because if we mistrusted them it would have been very hard for us to survive (emotionally, mentally, and physically).
Therefore, instead of critically analyzing and condemning our parents, we turned the blame onto ourselves. We felt that we were wrong, bad, and shameful for the way our parents treated us. We took the blame for something they did wrong. This is a major cause of self-loathing.
Besides, you may come accross cases of bullying in school that may reinforced our self-hatred even more than the harmful social media conditioning and obsessive toxic comparison with others. You may faced critical and shame-driven teachers, friends or relatives that made you feel worthless if you didn’t meet their standards.
The last reason might be our ego. We all never born ego less humans, but as we grow older, in order to survive in this world, we need to construct an ego. We can only hate ourselves when there is someone to hate. Without that someone, without ego, there will be no self-hatred and no suffering.
So, now you’re already taken the first step in the direction of health and wellbeing without even knowing it. Here are some tried and tested ways to overcome self-loathing. Kindly pm me if you really ready to overcome this situation to get the brief explanation on each of the ways below here:
• Take a break from social media
• Do something that is well-intentioned toward yourself
• Creatively express your self-loathing
• Ask yourself “does my environment support me?”
• Explore your core beliefs
• Commit to self-love and self-care
• Take care of your soul
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